ccas93 Posted January 20, 2021 Posted January 20, 2021 in my experience, there have been times when I've slept with a woman early on who I could actually imagine myself getting feelings for, I would often back off after wondering how often she is doing this and how many other guys is she doing this with (as another poster said). 1
winny Posted January 20, 2021 Posted January 20, 2021 On 1/19/2021 at 11:34 AM, Pinkpoet said: I am a single late 20s woman who was not looking to date at this time. However, an attractive guy my same age stopped me in the street recently to talk to me. We hit it off and next thing I knew he was asking me to grab drinks that night. I typically would NEVER have said yes to his invitation, but something was telling me to “come out of my shell” and go for it! I went into the date with no expectations or even much enthusiasm. But once we met up, I quickly realized I was chatting with the male version of myself. We were so relaxed around each other, as if we had been lifelong friends. We had so much in common, from music to movies, favorite cities, similar upbringings, the list goes on... I found it peculiar that he told me what his love language was. He even told me “this is the best first date I’ve ever been on. We’re so comfortable around each other.” And then he asked me “what are you looking for?” I jokingly replied that I wasn’t looking for anything that day, that I was simply trying to go for a walk but now I met him and I don’t know... He said he felt the same way and that he’s “taking it a day at a time.” Fast forward: we headed back to my place after drinks and we continued nonstop talking for another few hours. After this, we mutually finally made a move and kissed. Next thing I knew, we slept together. It was great! He stayed the next day until like 2 p.m. Kissed me on the lips that morning multiple times. He even kissed me goodbye. He texted me within an hour of leaving my house to say what a great time he had and how nice it was to meet me. As far as I’m concerned, we had an amazing connection and a fun night. We have texted here and there but nothing consistent. Typically, I’ve started the conversations. Something as simple as me sending him a link to a restaurant we talked about in-person and him replying with “we should go some time!” It’s been a little more than a week now since our encounter. He always replies to our conversations but it will literally be hours later or even the next day. I have super mixed signals since he says things that indicate future plans, but then he also doesn’t seem to have the interest to text me back in a time appropriate manner. Let me know what you guys think is going on please. How should I proceed? He did whatever was required to get to sleep with you. So much perfection on date 1 is in itself a red flag. Thats my first reaction. Now he is stringing you along .. keeping you on the side in case if he fancies sleeping with you again. Stop texting him. If you ever meet him again.. do it in a public place and DO NOT sleep with him. Although I would simply block him and forget all this. And please!!! Do not sleep on a first date with someone you met on the street - I don’t care how great the “connection” was. He could be a psycho killer for all you know. Gosh! 1
basil67 Posted January 20, 2021 Posted January 20, 2021 5 hours ago, GeorgiaPeach1 said: My guess is that after the initial rush wore off, he's wondering how often you do this. And if this is the case, he's a hypocrite and you've just dodged a bullet. 1
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