Fallen_Angel Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 After a summer of stupidity, I finally realized the only way to truly heal from the pain my ex has caused is to cut off all contact. And he's made it kinda easy...after all, since the last time we spoke he has not called, e-mailed or anything of the sort. So that tells me he DOESN'T want to talk to me, even though he did say he was also "terrified" to call me. So I'm halfway through the recommended 60 days of no contact suggested by It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken. I guess I want to say...it CAN be done. Granted, I keep coming close to stumbling. Yesterday in the car during lunch I cried for a good half hour because I wanted to call him so badly. Then I made a list of the reasons NOT to call, not the least of which is "I've made it this far; I'd feel like such a shmuck for quitting now!" I still miss him a lot, but I know I'll beat this in the end and I'll be satisifed knowing I can be on my own.
JS17 Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 OMG, "HE-TOX"?!?! That is hilarious. Well that's great Fallen_Angel, glad to hear that things are getting better for you
NewLee40 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 I had to laugh at the he-tox term, too! Gosh, it really feels like that sometimes. You feel like you are going to die before you turn the corner and eventually (I hope) realize that life is much better without him. It hasn't been 60 days for me yet. I'm not sure we've ever made it 60 days without talking... I have a feeling we will this time, though.
tonyp56 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 I wish I could take 60 days of she-tox with my wife, but kids kind of make that a problem. I can't go a day without my kids, let alone 60! That said, I know this is a little different, but I just wish I could do it! Good luck, and I hope you are able to get over your ex.
smile95 Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 Fallen Angel.....did you see in the book where you can download the ringtones that say stuff to remind you not to answer if he does call? I liked the book a lot and I am on about day 13 of "he -tox". I do not cry anymore...I cannot seem to? But I do have moments where I miss the past and long for him to return, but then I have a reality check and run thru what would happen if i break NC. I could predict every word that would come out of his mouth(or shall I say text). For me, I do not want to know if he has anyone else. I am better off not knowing really. But that is one thing I tend to think about alot. I am proud of you and he is probably wondering where you have gone to! Good for you! I am right behind you!
Author Fallen_Angel Posted October 16, 2005 Author Posted October 16, 2005 Oh I definitely did, Beth! Too funny! I'm glad you've gotten to the point where you know what will happen if you falter and you're strong enough to avoid it. Don't waste your time - it's far too precious! I know my ex is dating again, because he told me so. But I'm not letting it bother me. I have more important things to worry about. Besides, even though my love life is stuck in neutral, I've found ways to stay somewhat happy. I sure do hope he's wondering what's going on, though. Hehe. Didn't it say in the book that you should reward yourself with something nice after the 60 days? I'm wondering what I should treat myself to!
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