Transitioning to Ex's Best Friend

[ttgu]

Hi all,

If you have read any of my previous posts you realize my ex-boyfriend was not a good guy. He was insecure and tried to break me down to his insecurity level. The more it didn't work the worse he got. But enough wasting time over him.

 

I am at an age (boy does that sound bad ) where I realize when you find a true connection with someone it is a gift. The problem is my connection is with the ex's best friend.

 

The bestfriend is such a sweet, understanding and genuinely a good guy. Him and I get along so well. We hit it off from the moment we met. He grew up with a bunch of sisters so understand where "we women" are coming from. He was always sticking up for me when the ex started in. He told my ex he needed to treat me better and to quit messing up. He even gave me his phone number last time we all hung out (and I lost it )

 

We don't have any friends in common so there isn't a way for me to hang out with him w/o it being obvious I want to spend time with him.

 

Before we broke up my bf had his address book in yahoo open and I saw the best friends email address. I foolishly added him to my IM list and he is wanting to know where I got it and who I am (my Im doesn't give my name). I am scared I'm going to screw this up. They have been friends for 10+ years and have been through a lot together. So if he had to choose between me and the ex...I would be the one leaving...which I totally understand and accept.

 

Has anyone successfully transitioned to the bf of an ex? Do you have any advise? I've never been in this situation before and it seems so hopeless, but I have to try. At my age and all.

[Art_Critic]

You are playing with fire.. There is no way to get passed the 10 year friendship.

If he is any kind of friend you will be cut off at the knees instatntly the moment he knows who you are.

 

Real friends don't EVEr date a friends ex...

 

you need to delete him from yahoo and move on.. You will look real bad if you go for it..