4eyes Posted January 14, 2021 Posted January 14, 2021 Today is our one year anniversary. Today I contacted an attorney to file for divorce (hopefully a dissolution). My STBXH was always sweet and loving… always, and still is. This is the scariest thing to me. How can he make me feel so loved, like the most beautiful, most precious thing to him and then cheat on me? Then do it again after we reconciled the first time (all while professing his undying love and promising to never do it again)… I’m mourning what I thought we had, the future that I thought we were planning, but I’m looking forward to better days without him and without this pain.
Wiseman2 Posted January 14, 2021 Posted January 14, 2021 1 hour ago, 4eyes said: Today I contacted an attorney to file for divorce (hopefully a dissolution). I’m mourning what I thought we had, the future that I thought we were planning, but I’m looking forward to better days without him and without this pain. It will be tough, but a few months of pain is better than a lifetime of pain. 3
Blind-Sided Posted January 15, 2021 Posted January 15, 2021 You are doing the right thing. He may very well love you. But you can't trust a cheater. 5
vla1120 Posted January 15, 2021 Posted January 15, 2021 Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear this, but I am glad you came to this realization this early in your relationship instead of wasting years waiting, hoping he would change. 1
Author 4eyes Posted January 19, 2021 Author Posted January 19, 2021 On 1/15/2021 at 3:01 PM, vla1120 said: Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear this, but I am glad you came to this realization this early in your relationship instead of wasting years waiting, hoping he would change. Yes, thank you. I spent 20 years in a previous relationship with an alcoholic, praying for and waiting for him to get better. It never happened. I've learned my lesson. 2
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