dramafreezone Posted January 23, 2021 Posted January 23, 2021 2 minutes ago, Highndry said: What kind of attachment could somebody really have after 2 months? This thing is in its infancy. I don't look at this as very complicated. It's either: a) he agrees to a booty call situation or b) he never sleeps with her again and moves on I'd opt for "a" myself, because why not? A sex partner isn't a bad thing. He just needs to downgrade her in his mind. Have sex with her but be looking for something better the whole time. Once he finds a better one, he moves on. What type of attatchment? Did you read the OP's posts? He is about as attached as can be. You ever been in love? You can't think straight when you're in love. I don't think he can just downgrade her, not when he's built the attachment. All of what you mentioned sounds great in theory but it's too late for all of it. IMO he needs to just back away completely until he no longer feels as strongly for her as he did, then revisit her if the situation presents itself. I think you're imagining yourself in his place. Maybe you can't get attached in 2 months but he clearly has.
kendahke Posted January 27, 2021 Posted January 27, 2021 On 1/23/2021 at 5:30 PM, dramafreezone said: He is about as attached as can be. You ever been in love? You have to know someone in order to love them. He's in extreme limerence, not love. Quote limerence or li·mer·ance [ li-mer-uhns ] noun the state of being obsessively infatuated with someone, usually accompanied by delusions of or a desire for an intense romantic relationship with that person:
MRSR31 Posted January 27, 2021 Posted January 27, 2021 13 minutes ago, kendahke said: You have to know someone in order to love them. He's in extreme limerence, not love. Agreed. Although OP can't break the spell without admission of a problem. Limerence is intoxicating OP. Read up if you want your mind back. It helped me; as much as I can be. 1
dramafreezone Posted January 27, 2021 Posted January 27, 2021 (edited) 55 minutes ago, kendahke said: You have to know someone in order to love them. He's in extreme limerence, not love. We're talking sematics here. He is under the influence of the oxytocin that physiologically causes the same feeling as being in love. And there is a distinction between love and "in love." Doesn't matter what you want to call it, he's hooked. Edited January 27, 2021 by dramafreezone
Miss Spider Posted January 27, 2021 Posted January 27, 2021 (edited) Basically, she likes you a little, but not enough to commit and since you pushed it even a little it turned her off a lot. She doesn’t want to lose you as an option in case nothing better out there pans out. Sure she’ll keep hanging out and sleep with you maybe. And Jamal, Tyrone, and Chad ... and if a guy she’s really into doesn’t wanna lock it down she might date you...yay..So yea, don’t want to lose you. You stay right there. That’s how I interpret it. I mean if you can’t get anything more quality than sure, FWB her but be sure to wrap it up, boyo Edited January 27, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes
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