I have all the signs that I'm falling in love with her. but I don't feel it. I don't get butterflies.

[George Gracie]

I have all the signs I have fell in love with her. I would do anything to make her happy. I would do anything to see her smile. I would take a bullet for her. I want a future with her. I want us to be together forever me and her against the world. Forever and ever. But I don’t feel in love. I don’t get the same high feeling I felt before. I feel like I’m making her less of a priority. I’m not calling her as much or sending those cute little paragraphs each morning. She pushes me to do better. I feel like no one can compare to her beauty or her smartness. Or her strength as in like her will to fight against anything that comes in her way of her main goals. She pushes me to do better. I just don’t feel it in my stomach anymore. I lost the butterflies but what’s next. 

[d0nnivain]

Butterflies are about infatuation not love. 

You are describing story book romance not love.  Be careful

[littleblackheart]

10 minutes ago, George Gracie said:

I would take a bullet for her.

It's not even cute when it's Bruno Mars singing it. With respect, please check yourself, OP: this is not a good look.

17 minutes ago, George Gracie said:

I want a future with her. I want us to be together forever me and her against the world. Forever and ever. But I don’t feel in love

That's a pretty big problem.

Where is her head at? 

[George Gracie]

34 minutes ago, littleblackheart said:

It's not even cute when it's Bruno Mars singing it. With respect, please check yourself, OP: this is not a good look.

That's a pretty big problem.

Where is her head at? 

She knows she’s in love with me. She doesn’t feel anything but love.

[littleblackheart]

3 minutes ago, George Gracie said:

She knows she’s in love with me. She doesn’t feel anything but love.

That's nice for you. Less nice for her that it's not mutual, though, no?

Do you love that she's in love with you?  

 

[George Gracie]

1 hour ago, littleblackheart said:

That's nice for you. Less nice for her that it's not mutual, though, no?

Do you love that she's in love with you?  

 

Yes I love it.

[Ruby Slippers]

You've started 3 threads saying variations of the same thing. You got involved with this woman just 2 months after a breakup from which you had not healed. Your mind and heart were not in the right place to begin a new relationship. This is why rebound relationships are a bad idea. 

Maybe you should talk to a counselor about this. Your feelings aren't going to magically change. You can either accept the situation for what it is and make the best of it... or move on.

[littleblackheart]

1 minute ago, George Gracie said:

Yes I love it.

So basically she's your ego supply provider?

I hope she wises up to this before her own self-esteem gets destroyed. 

[Alpacalia]

I didn't realize men felt butterflies similar to women.  Still, try not to judge your relationship based on tingles.

[Gaeta]

I was reading an article yesterday and they were saying men never take the time to heal between relationships. You can't fall in love with someone new when your heart isn't totally free of your previous relationship. 

[Ruby Slippers]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

I was reading an article yesterday and they were saying men never take the time to heal between relationships. You can't fall in love with someone new when your heart isn't totally free of your previous relationship. 

Some do, but I agree that many do not. This is why I always ask how long a guy has been single before going on a date with him. Unless his breakup/divorce is far, far in the rearview mirror, I don't bother.

A related problem is that a lot of men never do the proper emotional processing and healing. This is why some men don't get over divorces/breakups that happened YEARS ago. Of course, all that bitterness only compromises future relationships.

[lana-banana]

How old are you and how long have you been together?

[Stret]

OP,  infatuation is transient. 

Maybe if she told you she is leaving and you were losing her, you'd fall in love... as per saying, you don't know what you've got until it's gone? 

[George Gracie]

3 minutes ago, Stret said:

OP,  infatuation is transient. 

Maybe if she told you she is leaving and you were losing her, you'd fall in love... as per saying, you don't know what you've got until it's gone? 

That’s what I have done I put myself in the position in my mind I imagined her leaving me. And it made me feel better about the situation 

[George Gracie]

Sometimes I feel like I am in love with her then sometimes I feel I’m not and I want to be.

[Lotsgoingon]

I'm lost: she's the most beautiful woman you've ever met and you'd do anything in the world for her, anything to make her smile AND ... somehow you don't feel in love?

Do you have platonic women friends that you would do anything for to make them smile?

 

[George Gracie]

9 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said:

I'm lost: she's the most beautiful woman you've ever met and you'd do anything in the world for her, anything to make her smile AND ... somehow you don't feel in love?

Do you have platonic women friends that you would do anything for to make them smile?

 

No I don’t talk to any other girls. I just don’t know how my body should feel. Sometimes I think about my ex. I don’t miss her but sometimes. Like her name will just be in my head. I woke up this morning and for some reason I my ex’s name came to mind. I let it go and talked to my girlfriend on the phone.