Trail Blazer Posted January 18, 2021 Posted January 18, 2021 On 1/15/2021 at 6:11 PM, Dash23 said: Great question and a solid topic for debate. Yeah, that is no surprise that men outnumber women on tinder by that amount. I’d go as far as to guestimate that men outnumber women on any dating platform for the most part. My data is based on a sweeping generalization I’ve made after using majority of these apps over 7+ years. But that generalization also includes feedback that I’ve got from a lot of the women I’ve talked to with online (and met) with regards to their OLD experiences. To be a bit clearer, it’s not just a generalization of from my own male perspective, but patterns I’ve noticed from the female side of it all. Regardless, take what I say with a grain of salt, obviously. Honestly, one of the most fun ice breaking questions I ask every woman I meet in person is how their OLD experience has been and if they got any fun success stories or horror stories. Sure, there is a lot of good that many of them have experienced. But if I told you even a pinch of the absurd stuff that many of these women have had to deal with, you would think it was written for a dark comedy. I’ve been single for much of the OLD app phenomenon and I’ve been to over 40 countries and have met a few hundred women probably at this point. And I can honestly count on one hand the number of really mehhhh meet ups that I have – a couple women that stood me up, and maybbbbbbee one that didn’t really look that close to her photos. Everyone else has been quite pleasant and normal even if we didn’t have chemistry. Now compare that to the women I’ve heard from who have barely dabbled in OLD compared to me and have far more “twilight zone” strange stories? It got to a point where I was like “yeah I’ve heard enough, this is way more of a s***storm for women”. As to your further comment, yes, I am suggesting that a lot of the men on OLD are a problem LOL. And if they outnumber the women by 9-1 as you mentioned? Then there is always going to be a plethora of low-quality men lurking on them. As for the anecdotal evidence on here you mentioned of that men get little to no response – women complain a lot about this too (“let’s match and never talk!” “if you’re going to match me and not say hi, then don’t bother”, etc. etc.) And no, I’m not letting women off the hook as it is true and many of them will match and not respond. If you’re a decent looking guy who isn’t sitting beside a sedated tiger or holding a big fish (yes there is a tonne of these male profiles), then you’re going to get a lot matches even though the women typically have more matches/options. When I said that males have it easier on these apps than females, I think a better way of reframing it is this: men will typically have much better odds of having more quality experiences while women will typically have much better odds of having to deal with more peculiar situations along their OLD journeys. TLDR: Men outnumber women on OLD, while women outnumber men for having far more unfavorable/bizarre OLD occurrences. I can't actually argue with a lot of that. I've had pretty good dating experiences myself. I've also asked a lot of girls I've dated about their expereinces and every one of them have had at least one or two horror stories! Having said that, I dare say that by the sheer volume of guys on dating apps (like Tinder), there's perhaps more guys who've had very poor experiences on these apps (as in, no attention/matches/dates whatsoever) than would total every female member. I guess both you and I could be considered to be in a lucky minority.
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