ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 I'm new here after a long hiatus. I've been taking online courses with this teacher who I know from another group. I've always found her attractive. The other session another student was complementing me on something, then the teacher said off the other compliment "and then there's that smile." Just wondering how do I take this? Does this imply she's attracted or interested? I didn't really look into it because it was in a group setting. I take her as an introvert/extrovert if that makes a difference and I'm 33, I don't know her age but I think she's a bit older.
basil67 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 What did the other student say which prompted the teacher to comment on your smile?
Author ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Author Posted January 10, 2021 47 minutes ago, basil67 said: What did the other student say which prompted the teacher to comment on your smile? I can't remember exactly but something like everytime I'm on it's gold or I'm gold
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 No. She's not flirting. Everything is obviously recorded and monitored. She's probably not stupid enough to lose her job. It's ok to have a crush on the teacher. It's not ok for a teacher to flirt with students. If you want to date, try some quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women. 1
Author ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Author Posted January 10, 2021 7 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: No. She's not flirting. Everything is obviously recorded and monitored. She's probably not stupid enough to lose her job. It's ok to have a crush on the teacher. It's not ok for a teacher to flirt with students. If you want to date, try some quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women. She's not a traditional teacher, she's more of a coach that has her own classes. Not sure if that makes a difference.
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 There are no prohibitions against student / teacher dating in a setting like this because it's not real school for a grade. There is no power dynamic. She would not be using her position to take advantage of you. That said, it could be flirting or it could just be a complement. Do nothing. See how things unfold. When the class ends, reach out & ask her on a date if you like. 1
ShyViolet Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 Do you honestly think a teacher would flirt with a student during a remote teaching session with other students present? That's kind of crazy. I think it's a stretch to consider what she did flirting. 2
smackie9 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 If you were not attracted to her, would it come off as flirting? I doubt it. Your mind is playing tricks on you. 2
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 3 hours ago, ikonik said: She's not a traditional teacher, she's more of a coach that has her own classes. Not sure if that makes a difference. Nonetheless, if you are paying her you're a client/student and it's inappropriate especially with other students paying and attending the sessions.
Author ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Author Posted January 10, 2021 50 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Nonetheless, if you are paying her you're a client/student and it's inappropriate especially with other students paying and attending the sessions. I'm not paying, they're free.
elaine567 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 Apart from this throwaway remark, are there any other indications she finds you attractive? Do you know if she is married or has a bf? What sort of a course is this? 1
basil67 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 Good point @elaine567 A single compliment is not and never will define whether or not someone is attracted. Some people throw compliments like confetti - it's just because they like to acknowledge other people's positive attributes. 2
Author ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Author Posted January 10, 2021 54 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Apart from this throwaway remark, are there any other indications she finds you attractive? Do you know if she is married or has a bf? What sort of a course is this? The comment was the only thing so far that could've indicated "interest." I don't really know her personally, I don't know if she's single or not. I just started to get to know her in this time. It's for public speaking.
elaine567 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 (edited) 55 minutes ago, ikonik said: It's for public speaking. Ok so her comment may have been about trying to build up your confidence, by complimenting you on your smile, perhaps. I guess if she is interested she will find ways to let you know as the time goes on. Edited January 10, 2021 by elaine567 3
Wiseman2 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 I had a gorgeous woman once tell me I "had good diction". Wanted that to be flirting.. but alas, I just have good diction. 3
Author ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Author Posted January 10, 2021 (edited) 35 minutes ago, elaine567 said: Ok so her comment may have been about trying to build up your confidence, by complimenting you on your smile, perhaps. I guess if she is interested she will find ways to let you know as the time goes on. I do remember her complimenting others on the way their voice sounded, etc. but I think that's different then commenting on someone's smile. Edited January 10, 2021 by ikonik
elaine567 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 She is maybe trying to encourage you to smile more, in order to engage with your audience... 2
Author ikonik Posted January 10, 2021 Author Posted January 10, 2021 3 minutes ago, elaine567 said: She is maybe trying to encourage you to smile more, in order to engage with your audience... Maybe, but it didn't sound that way to me.
d0nnivain Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 If that is the only compliment she ever pays you not directly related to public speaking, it was just a compliment not flirtation. Keep your eyes & ears open but don't leap to any conclusions just yet 1
dramafreezone Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 On 1/9/2021 at 5:39 PM, ikonik said: I'm new here after a long hiatus. I've been taking online courses with this teacher who I know from another group. I've always found her attractive. The other session another student was complementing me on something, then the teacher said off the other compliment "and then there's that smile." Just wondering how do I take this? Does this imply she's attracted or interested? I didn't really look into it because it was in a group setting. I take her as an introvert/extrovert if that makes a difference and I'm 33, I don't know her age but I think she's a bit older. I think you're making something out of nothing, or projecting interest. In any event, it's not a good idea to get involved with your instructor. There are several reasons to just leave this alone. 1
Ellener Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 @ikonik people can be attracted in a general sort of way without it being any more than that- appreciating that someone is attractive. Accept the compliment and enjoy the class! 3
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