Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I like this Nun who has been trying to help me understand some issues. She makes me feel like I have her undivided attention, but I'm sure she is attending to many. I'd like to give her a nice gift. It could look expensive but should be of reasonable cost. My usual date type hand-outs (Playboy swizzle sticks, flowers, and anal beads) just won't do. Nice but not sexual. Any ideas?
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Don't do it.. Gifts are not something you give a nun.. Although.. if you were to give her anything I would go for Food.. Either a gift certificate at a restaurant or baked goods.. If you do the Gift Cert.. make it enough for 2 people..
whichwayisup Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Bear stuffed animal or a picture frame. Maybe some "mom's" flowers in a pot, as it's fall. Gift certificate to a book store. How's that?
basscatcher Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I would get a nice sorted arrangement of flowers and a card with a personal message from you about your appreciation for her. She is still a woman after all and a assortment of flowers like a basket isnt romantic. The card will top it off as to how much you appreciate her time and devotion to you. Make sure you deliver those to her personally.. from your hands to hers.
basscatcher Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Come on people. I have been very close with Nuns before myself. I am Catholic and have counceled with Nuns and Priests. They are normal like we are with daily stuggles etc etc. Dont look at their habits they wear.. I will bet she will glow if you just did something small with lots of sentimental value to it. ex: simple fall europeon basket of plants . I will also add to this my experience with Nuns and Priests. They get treated so differently because they wear a habit or collar. They would like to be treated like anyone else sometimes.. Whatever you chose to do for her GP look at the gift as something you would give to a very close and dear aunt.
megabit15 Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Yeah, I suppose the usual gifts would fall somewhat short. Many spiritual workers do not get out a lot - they don't have a lot of money. You could take her out to a nearby, inexpensive and well lit place for lunch while you talk with her if she's receptive to it. Or a gift certificate for such a place. I knew a Buddhist Monk (who also have vows of celibacy) who loved this. He would joke that he had no choices for vices except food. He actually was a lot of fun...never sexually inappropriate either. Whatever you decide - I'm sure she doesn't need another religious symbol. Good luck tomorrow.
Israfil Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 How 'bout some Marx? sorry I couldn't resist.
quankanne Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 as the poster above pointed out, people who work for the church don't get paid much (I can personally vouch for that personally, hah!), so gift certificates are greatly appreciated. restaurants, book stores, gift shops, movie theaters or plays, music stores, stuff like that just cannot go wrong. The biggest shock I got was a couple of years ago, when my parish priest told me that he and the two Francisan brothers he lives in community with went out to eat at Chili's and had a wonderful time, all because of a generous parishioner! I'd never thought of priests in terms of going out to dinner just for the heck of it, sad to say, so I can only imagine what a thrill Sister Who Helped You will get if you gave her a gift certificate for something she wouldn't normally do for herself. flowers and plants are also nice -- if you know she's tied to the community (as in lives in a convent and isn't about to be rotated out of state), think about a plant that she can stick in the ground (rosebush comes to mind). That's one gift that would keep on giving. if she's got a sense of humor, even better: Sister Jo was superintendent of our Catholic schools for several years, and she had a collection of jokey stuff in her office. Best one was a wind-up "Nunzilla" that spat fire and hopped all over her desk, we'd get a kick out of playing with that one no matter what you decide, goldy, I think this nun will be very touched by your thoughtfulness.
loony Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 How about a bun? You're so weird, it makes me laugh.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Don't do it.. Gifts are not something you give a nun.. Baloney. I give gifts to a nun I know on a regular basis. She enjoys getting: bookstore gift cards because she loves to read....writing journals....Starbucks coffee....chocolates....costume jewelry, such as earrings.....a nice sweater....a pretty flowering plant....gift certificate for a pedicure....music CDs....something nice for the kitchen....pretty much anything you'd give your mom.
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 I would get a nice sorted arrangement of flowers and a card with a personal message from you about your appreciation for her. She is still a woman after all and a assortment of flowers like a basket isnt romantic. The card will top it off as to how much you appreciate her time and devotion to you. Make sure you deliver those to her personally.. from your hands to hers. I don' know... A card and flowers is usually my tactic for seduction. I spend moderately on the flowers, then fill it out some with free grasses and misc wild flowers. Like you say she is a woman, I wouldn't want her to think I was hitting on her.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I don' know... A card and flowers is usually my tactic for seduction. I spend moderately on the flowers, then fill it out some with free grasses and misc wild flowers. Like you say she is a woman, I wouldn't want her to think I was hitting on her. A flowering plant in a pretty basket and a thank you card could hardly be misinterpreted as hitting on her. Like I said, pick out something you'd give a mom.
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 so gift certificates are greatly appreciated. restaurants, book stores, gift shops, movie theaters or plays, music stores, stuff like that just cannot go wrong. Perhaps an affordable certificate is the way to go
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 You have me on a roller-coaster Art. Don't do it.. Gifts are not something you give a nun Ok, very affordable. If you do the Gift Cert.. make it enough for 2 people Now you have me buying for 2.
scratch Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I like this Nun who has been trying to help me understand some issues. She makes me feel like I have her undivided attention, but I'm sure she is attending to many. I'd like to give her a nice gift. It could look expensive but should be of reasonable cost. Why don't you pay her kindness forward? That would be, idealistically speaking, the best gift you could give her. Two other notes: 1. Why is this in the dating forum? 2. Why, in a gift you're selecting for a person you feel is genuinely kind you and towards whom you have no intentions of seduction, do you insist that it "look expensive but not be expensive?" Something here doesn't add up. I'm starting to wonder if your objective isn't "look like I have money without really spending it on gold diggers," but instead "look like I have money without really having it."
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 Yeah, I suppose the usual gifts would fall somewhat short. Many spiritual workers do not get out a lot - they don't have a lot of money. You could take her out to a nearby, inexpensive and well lit place for lunch while you talk with her if she's receptive to it. Or a gift certificate for such a place. I knew a Buddhist Monk (who also have vows of celibacy) who loved this. He would joke that he had no choices for vices except food. He actually was a lot of fun...never sexually inappropriate either. Whatever you decide - I'm sure she doesn't need another religious symbol. Good luck tomorrow. A well lit place, huh Thanks alot. I like the ferns Idea, it's thoughtful, not too romantic, and doesn't cost dinner for 2, kind of prices.
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 . Why, in a gift you're selecting for a person you feel is genuinely kind you and towards whom you have no intentions of seduction, do you insist that it "look expensive but not be expensive?" Not mandatory that it look expensive, but it's ok if it does. I hoped to encourage quality suggestions with that wording. Most of my LS advisors have been commenting on my dating adventures, so I put it under dating. If I took her to dinner, then it would actually be a date of sorts.
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 How about a bun? You're so weird, it makes me laugh. How about a bun? and you call me weird?
lindya Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Not mandatory that it look expensive, but it's ok if it does. I hoped to encourage quality suggestions with that wording. Most of my LS advisors have been commenting on my dating adventures, so I put it under dating. If I took her to dinner, then it would actually be a date of sorts. Gold Pile, just how many advisors do you have? You know what too many cooks do.
scratch Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Not mandatory that it look expensive, but it's ok if it does. I hoped to encourage quality suggestions with that wording. Most of my LS advisors have been commenting on my dating adventures, so I put it under dating. If I took her to dinner, then it would actually be a date of sorts. Why wouldn't it be okay if it actually was expensive? I saw what you wrote in the other thread about possibly courting their favor by pretending that you were interested in donating to the church. Dude, you don't want to act rich just to trick gold diggers. You want to act rich to trick gold diggers, nuns, men and children. For whatever reason, it makes you feel good for people to think you're richer and more generous than you are. That's your business, I suppose, but I feel a little misled in thinking that this was a way to simply even the playing field against women who wanted to take advantage of you. Lots of decent people feel that they have to lie so that others will like and respect them. We've all done it. But none of us like what we see in the mirror afterward. I feel for you, man. Good luck in learning to like who you are as much as you like who you tell people you are.
JS17 Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Dude, you don't want to act rich just to trick gold diggers. You want to act rich to trick gold diggers, nuns, men and children. I hate to say this but I agree with scratch. I have a hard time buying that you don't have alterior motives GP. I think everyone has been willing to believe it because it's unthinkable to most to try to trick a nun.
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 Gold Pile, just how many advisors do you have? You know what too many cooks do. As a teenage pile, I worked in a place with 3 female cooks, I won't say what I wanted them to do. I have more advisors than I thought possible. Some are great, most good, and of course the loud, rude, crude, Outcast! I'm amazed that "it" finds the time to post...what with selling porn to support that drug habit.
Author Gold Pile Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 I hate to say this but I agree with scratch. I have a hard time buying that you don't have alterior motives GP. I think everyone has been willing to believe it because it's unthinkable to most to try to trick a nun. No way in Hell am I trying to bed a Nun!!!! Presenting am image of wealth is a habit for me. Finding quality at reasonable prices is an art form. I assure you that this frugal/quality approach has made me very well off. Am I right in everything I do?, maybe not, that's why I'm accepting her guidance.
lindya Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 No way in Hell am I trying to bed a Nun!!!! Presenting am image of wealth is a habit for me. Finding quality at reasonable prices is an art form. I assure you that this frugal/quality approach has made me very well off. Am I right in everything I do?, maybe not, that's why I'm accepting her guidance. I think the best gift you can give your new friend is the truth, Gold Pile. Every thread you've started on this board - including this one. Print them all off and take them with you to your next meeting with the nun so that she can read through them and decide how best to guide you. Then come back and report to us all on what happens.
scratch Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 I hate to say this but I agree with scratch. I have a hard time buying that you don't have alterior motives GP. I think everyone has been willing to believe it because it's unthinkable to most to try to trick a nun. He doesn't want to trick a nun per se, nor does he have alterior motives. He simply has made a lifestyle out of pretending to be something he isn't. I guarantee that he doesn't tell the truth about his finances to his parents, siblings, or even his tax advisor/attorney. I can't think of a person more apt to post on a messageboard under a persona crafted from one's own imagination. Hopefully this is an issue with which the nun is assisting him. ETA: Lynda, your assumption that the truth about him appears on this board is likely off base.
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