Blondegirl89 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 So to cut a long story short. I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now. Things seemed to be going swimmingly. That was until I got a message on Instagram from someone in forming me that they had slept with my bf before Xmas. I wasn’t really surprised to be honest, most guys I’ve dated have cheated on me so it wasn’t my first. I mulled it over for a few days on what to do. I eventually came to the realisation that it was best to call him out and this is where it got odd. I took the cowardly way out and just sent a message. I know what you are going to say but I was also worried that I might end up saying something I’d regret or that he’d smooth talk me. I texted him said what I needed to say I was clear and polite. Told him I wasn’t angry just disappointed as I thought we where building something. I got the weirdest reply “oh really? What a fantastic story” that was all he said. I never replied. We haven’t spoken in 2 days. I spoke to my friends some who’ve met him and they where all shocked by it. But they all agreed that his response was very childish. Im moving on from it, I’ve decided it’s best to cut ties. The only thing im having a hard time with is why he didn’t admit it or deny it. I know that makes me sound crazy but I was expecting some Sort of argument but instead I’m met with silence although he has been watching my Instagram story’s and liking all my pics. Was his response odd?
elaine567 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 3 minutes ago, Blondegirl89 said: I know that makes me sound crazy but I was expecting some Sort of argument but instead I’m met with silence although he has been watching my Instagram story’s and liking all my pics. He is I guess waiting till you calm down so he can smooth talk you later. Block him. Cheaters are no good, it is in their blood, they don't change. Save yourself a lot of wasted time. 3 1
Author Blondegirl89 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 4 minutes ago, elaine567 said: He is I guess waiting till you calm down so he can smooth talk you later. Block him. Cheaters are no good, it is in their blood, they don't change. Save yourself a lot of wasted time. Yeah that makes sense. I should also mention when I pulled him up on the cheating he removed and unfollowed about 100 people on his Instagram.
smackie9 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 wow your picker must be off to be cheated all the time. I know someone who has faced the same thing with dating. She was pretty, smart, kind and loyal...one time she found her BF cheated when she got an STD. Poor thing.
ShyViolet Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 You sound almost disappointed that there wasn't some drawn-out fight..... I'm a bit confused as to why. He didn't say much because he knew he was guilty and there was nothing else he could say. To be honest he sounds like he really doesn't care about you, and couldn't care less if this relationship ends or not. 2
Crazelnut Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 So you blew up a relationship based on a message that contained secondhand info? You didn't even bother to find the truth? 1
Author Blondegirl89 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 17 minutes ago, Crazelnut said: So you blew up a relationship based on a message that contained secondhand info? You didn't even bother to find the truth? I saw the messages and screenshots never lie. Believe me when I say I know what I saw and I didn’t end it based on second hand info. I ended it because I saw the proof and I saw the pics he sent some taken in my bathroom. I kinda figured something was a little off. He never let his phone out of his sight. So when I got the message I wasn’t surprised
ExpatInItaly Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 28 minutes ago, Blondegirl89 said: I saw the messages and screenshots never lie. Believe me when I say I know what I saw and I didn’t end it based on second hand info. I ended it because I saw the proof and I saw the pics he sent some taken in my bathroom. I kinda figured something was a little off. He never let his phone out of his sight. So when I got the message I wasn’t surprised If he has the audacity to not only cheat but also have sent some other woman pics he took in your bathroom - then no, he really doesn't care. You are well rid of him. 2
trident_2020 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 He didn't admit or deny because neither choice was of any benefit to him and he's only concerned with his own needs. Your watered down forgiving text response to his cheating doesn't merit any respect either.
JRabbit Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 On 1/8/2021 at 3:10 PM, smackie9 said: wow your picker must be off to be cheated all the time. or maybe there are just that many cheaters out there? 1
snowboy91 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 I mean, his response was pretty childish. Odd? I think that's irrelevant. It may seem harsh that he just stopped communication, but that just speaks volumes about him. You'll do well to be rid of him.
dramafreezone Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 4 hours ago, JRabbit said: or maybe there are just that many cheaters out there? Everyone has been cheated on at some point, but if she says that most of the men she's dated have cheated on her, then that's far outside of normal. There's a problem with the men she's choosing.
Blind-Sided Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 On 1/8/2021 at 2:55 PM, Blondegirl89 said: So to cut a long story short. I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now. Things seemed to be going swimmingly. That was until I got a message on Instagram from someone in forming me that they had slept with my bf before Xmas. Are we even sure this is from a reliable source? Is this just a pissed off ex looking to hurt someone? Cheaters will always cheat. I won't get tied up with a cheater since it will just lead to heartache. But, are you 100% sure you didn't just blow it by listening to a random message?
introverted1 Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 Why do you care? Seems odd that you are more upset about his reaction to being caught than to the fact that he cheated in the first place. If there's anything you should analyse at this point, it's your reaction (and picker).
BaileyB Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 Be glad he revealed himself to you before you became more invested.
trident_2020 Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 14 hours ago, dramafreezone said: Everyone has been cheated on at some point Ridiculous and just plain wrong. This forum needs a dislike or thumbs down feature for posts like this one. 3
introverted1 Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 5 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: Ridiculous and just plain wrong. This forum needs a dislike or thumbs down feature for posts like this one. When you hover on the heart, one of the options is an angry emoji.
poppyfields Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 8 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: This forum needs a dislike or thumbs down feature for posts like this one. It does Trident - 1
trident_2020 Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 Yeah the angry emoticon doesn’t quite do it for me.
trident_2020 Posted January 12, 2021 Posted January 12, 2021 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: It does Trident - I meant as a reaction emotion but I guess that’s a close second choice 1
Andy_K Posted January 15, 2021 Posted January 15, 2021 On 1/8/2021 at 7:55 PM, Blondegirl89 said: I got the weirdest reply “oh really? What a fantastic story” that was all he said. I never replied. We haven’t spoken in 2 days. His reply makes perfect sense if you consider that he simply doesn't care about how you feel at all. Move on, find a better boyfriend. Stop trying to figure out the thought process of one who's not good for you.
stillafool Posted January 15, 2021 Posted January 15, 2021 2 minutes ago, Andy_K said: Stop trying to figure out the thought process of one who's not good for you. This can not be repeated enough around here.
kendahke Posted January 18, 2021 Posted January 18, 2021 (edited) On 1/8/2021 at 2:55 PM, Blondegirl89 said: Was his response odd? We don't know him, so we can't speak to that. Quote The only thing im having a hard time with is why he didn’t admit it or deny it This was admission: Quote “oh really? What a fantastic story” The guilty always make the most noise. Those who aren't would say "they're lying, who said that?" Quote I know that makes me sound crazy but I was expecting some Sort of argument but instead I’m met with silence although he has been watching my Instagram story’s and liking all my pics. Why does he still have access to your account? If cheating is a bottom line issue with you and you are done with him, there is no reason to keep allowing him access to your life when he made the choice that you aren't important enough to him to be faithful to you. Also, unless this chick is really unhinged, him not putting you down is more than likely what drove her to let you know that she exists --and for some reason, she feels he worth fighting for, so it doesn't matter if he admits to it because she did that for him and still got the same result: you out of the picture. Edited January 18, 2021 by kendahke
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