ironpony Posted January 6, 2021 Posted January 6, 2021 I went out with this woman a few times and it was going really good and I like her a lot, but I feel it fisling away because there is nothing to do because of covid. You can only go out and get take out so many times, or watch a movie on TV, before it becomes boring. Any thoughts on what I can do to keep it alive? I told her I would try to come up with ideas, but because of covid and everything is closed right now, I don't have anything.
dangerous Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 (edited) Yes, I agree it is a problem for most of us. At least it sounds like you ae able to meet. In the UK we are once again in full lockdown and so I can't meet anyone other than outside! We ae not allowed to meet indoors: obviously no venues and not even at home. (For me, virtual dating is not of interest.) To be honest, the constant government and media and societal restrictions have conditioned me into complete negativity for dating. Currently I do not date at all and have no plans until this all passes, so my dating future is hopeless for the foreseeable future. I know I am not alone in this thinking. If the girl you are dating is pressuring you to come up with solutions and she is not trying herself then perhaps you are not a match, and/ or she is just unreasonable and demanding? Edited January 7, 2021 by dangerous 1
Miss Spider Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 With the right person it’s never boring 2 2
Wiseman2 Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 13 hours ago, ironpony said: I told her I would try to come up with ideas, but because of covid and everything is closed right now This may sound a bit outside the box, but you could go get tested together and go for a walk afterwards. 2
d0nnivain Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 You live in Canada right? Go skiing or ice skating. Build a snowman together. Take a winter hike. Go snowshoeing. Play board games together. Cook together. Make an outdoor fire, wrap up in blankets & drink hot cocoa. 1
cleverusername Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 (edited) Christmas just passed. Lots of unbought gingerbread house kits sitting around. If I were you I’d buy like 4–5, pop open a bottle of wine, and have a tipsy gingerbread mansion building contest. Edited January 7, 2021 by cleverusername 2
Ruby Slippers Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 Things are pretty open where I am. You can go to plenty of restaurants and indoor spots. But if I were dating in a restricted area right now we'd probably be doing a lot of outdoor activities - walking, hiking, sightseeing, going to hot springs or cool nature attractions, that kind of thing.
dangerous Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 6 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: Things are pretty open where I am. You can go to plenty of restaurants and indoor spots. But if I were dating in a restricted area right now we'd probably be doing a lot of outdoor activities - walking, hiking, sightseeing, going to hot springs or cool nature attractions, that kind of thing. Wow, you are lucky. In the UK, we are in full, national lockdown. It means no cafes, restaurants, they've ven closed the gyms. I can go out for walks but we are discouraged from meeting anyone outside our "bubble" ie. one regular close friend or relative. On top of that, its cold, dark and wet here... but apart from all that, its great lol!
Ruby Slippers Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 2 minutes ago, dangerous said: Wow, you are lucky. In the UK, we are in full, national lockdown. It means no cafes, restaurants, they've ven closed the gyms. I can go out for walks but we are discouraged from meeting anyone outside our "bubble" ie. one regular close friend or relative. On top of that, its cold, dark and wet here... but apart from all that, its great lol! I'm sorry. It's surreal how oppressive some governments are becoming. 1
Gaeta Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 (edited) OP count yourself lucky. Up here we are in full lock down, everything is closed except grocery stores, AND we have a curfew at 20h, it could cost up to 6k If we're caught outside. For you aim at outdoor activities, board games, 1000 pieces pyzzle should keep your date busy, other than movies try comedy shows, a good 2 hour of laugh sounds like a good date. Edited January 7, 2021 by Gaeta
lovebooks Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 On 1/6/2021 at 5:59 PM, ironpony said: I went out with this woman a few times and it was going really good and I like her a lot, but I feel it fisling away because there is nothing to do because of covid. You can only go out and get take out so many times, or watch a movie on TV, before it becomes boring. Any thoughts on what I can do to keep it alive? I told her I would try to come up with ideas, but because of covid and everything is closed right now, I don't have anything. You can alternate doing takeout . You can make a movie on your phone about one of your adventures out. Watch it together. Taking a walk around the mall or Botanical Garden or zoo when it's not too cold can be fun. Ferry rides are fun. Go outside for a photo and head back inside. Take a bus ride on a bus line from one end to the other. Go ice skating or skiing. Patronize restaurants that have outdoor seating. Watch a movie every other week. Go grocery shoping and make a meal together at your place or hers. Google date ideas. Good luck.
lovebooks Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 14 hours ago, dangerous said: Yes, I agree it is a problem for most of us. At least it sounds like you ae able to meet. In the UK we are once again in full lockdown and so I can't meet anyone other than outside! We ae not allowed to meet indoors: obviously no venues and not even at home. (For me, virtual dating is not of interest.) To be honest, the constant government and media and societal restrictions have conditioned me into complete negativity for dating. Currently I do not date at all and have no plans until this all passes, so my dating future is hopeless for the foreseeable future. I know I am not alone in this thinking. If the girl you are dating is pressuring you to come up with solutions and she is not trying herself then perhaps you are not a match, and/ or she is just unreasonable and demanding? She should contribute some ideas. Alternate planning dates. Use a calendar.
ShyViolet Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 If two people really like each other then this wouldn't stop them. If a girl is losing interest in you, then she's losing interest in you. No amount of fun/different date activities will get her to stay. If it's a struggle to keep her interested then this isn't going to work out no matter what. 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 If you have a pretty decent comfortable car, make a playlist with some good tunes (ask about some of her favorites), get some snacks beverages etc. and go for a scenic drive. Make sure you know where you're going. Check maps google etc for some scenic routes and some sort of destination that has a place to park with a great view. Have a sort of car picnic. Tip: make sure your car's in good order, gassed up, clean. Also make sure it's not remote or creepy. And that there's rest rooms somewhere along the way. Tip: this is not a good first date idea.This is for someone you're seeing a bit. 1
elaine567 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: If you have a pretty decent comfortable car, make a playlist with some good tunes (ask about some of her favorites), get some snacks beverages etc. and go for a scenic drive. Make sure you know where you're going. Check maps google etc for some scenic routes and some sort of destination that has a place to park with a great view. Have a sort of car picnic. If he is in lock-down, he may not be able to do that. She is not in his household and the travel is not essential I don't know about Canada but in the UK... Quote Two women have described how they were surrounded by police, read their rights and fined £200 each after driving five miles to take a walk. The women were also told the hot drinks they had brought along were not allowed as they were "classed as a picnic". Guidance for the current lockdown says people can travel for exercise as long as it is in their "local area".The police force involved, Derbyshire Police, said driving for exercise was "not in the spirit" of lockdown.https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-55560814 . 1 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 Not sure what that article quote/link has to do with this question or my suggestion. 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: If he is in lock-down...... . Ok, what would you suggest for Canada?
Author ironpony Posted January 9, 2021 Author Posted January 9, 2021 Oh okay, thanks for the ideas! Well as far as going for walks or snowman building, it's just it's freezing cold out now, and I don't want to put myself in a situation where she has to see me wiping away mucus. 1
Cersei Posted January 9, 2021 Posted January 9, 2021 11 minutes ago, ironpony said: Oh okay, thanks for the ideas! Well as far as going for walks or snowman building, it's just it's freezing cold out now, and I don't want to put myself in a situation where she has to see me wiping away mucus. Lol. The mucus comment made me laugh. I know what you mean. Not attractive to have a snotty nose. People that don't experience Prairie winters only see what is on the movies. Make a snowman?? This is not the right snow for that. You do that in March when it sticks together better. Duh! (Just joking and being sassy to the poster who suggested snowmen) It's hard to think of stuff to do when everything is closed. Even just for myself to do alone. Our winters are long then to have stuff like movie theatres and restaurants closed on top of that!? It's tough, and people are getting cranky and annoyed with the restrictions. I have put dating on hold too. (Perhaps an option for you??) I am keeping busy with video games and books etc. The days are getting longer and the vaccine is coming so just try to stay busy and positive. And most importantly safe! Peace out!
Author ironpony Posted January 9, 2021 Author Posted January 9, 2021 Oh well I didn't want to put the dating on hold because I liked the woman and knew her beforehand, but thought if I didn't make a move when she was single, I would miss my chance. I missed my chance once with her before, for a while, and didn't want to miss it again. 1
basil67 Posted January 10, 2021 Posted January 10, 2021 If the connection is strong, two people can continue to connect and have fun even at home. Dates are certainly nice to have, but during times like these, they aren't essential to making a relationship work.
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