fred123 Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 been having a convo with a couple of girl aquaintices. im actually quite annoyed and realised the hypocrisy and double standards women make. Im 32 and was on tinder app. I was swiping and one of the girls made a comment about how a couple of the girls were 19 and that was wrong and gave me a dirty look and comment basically commenting saying I was a paedo. But when i showed them famous guys going out with young girls and suggested what if they asked you out, their response was completely different and said its different.
stillafool Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 36 minutes ago, fred123 said: But when i showed them famous guys going out with young girls and suggested what if they asked you out, their response was completely different and said its different. Were these 19 year old girls that told you this?
Happy Lemming Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 When I was 37, I dated a 22 year old... we weren't all that compatible and it didn't last, but the sex was good. If the women are over 18, you're good to go... I don't really care what other people say or think. Keep in mind that dating someone that young probably won't last too long, but it will be fun in the interim. Have at it! 2
Ruby Slippers Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 It's a matter of opinion. Technically, anyone 18 or over can be dated. Practically, I think it's creepy when grown adults date teenagers, famous or not. 3 1
elaine567 Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 5 minutes ago, fred123 said: Im 32 and was on tinder app. I was swiping and one of the girls made a comment about how a couple of the girls were 19 and that was wrong and gave me a dirty look and comment basically commenting saying I was a paedo. You are apparently a teacher, so dating teenagers is not really a good look for you. It could be seen as inappropriate. 6 2 1
dramafreezone Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 (edited) Why do you care what these random women think about who you're swiping right on? They're of legal age right? Can't let people get under your skin so easily. Whether something is "creepy" or not is dependent on attraction level. When you date 19 year old women it's creepy because these women giving you crap don't think you're attractive. But if Ryan Gossling wanted to take them out at that age they'd be all for it. All has to do with attraction level. You tell a joke and they're not attracted to you, you're corny. You tell a joke and they think you're a 10, you're so funny. You ever noticed how much women that are really into think you're so funny? You turned into Dave Chappelle overnight I guess. It is a double standard. Just have to deal with it. Edited January 4, 2021 by dramafreezone 2 2
ccas93 Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 A couple years ago, when I was 25, I briefly saw a girl who was 19 at the time. I had recently been working with 3rd-5th graders, and I realized that seeing her really felt that it was more like interacting with one of my 10 year olds than someone my age. I'm not even kidding. We didn't last long. 2 1
smackie9 Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 Depends on what you are expecting....fun, casual and short lived, sure date young...looking for a lifetime partner, date closer to your age. Now with a stroke of limited luck you may find young and mature, looking for a lifetime partner...rare tho. I dated a few 19 yr olds....I could only handle immaturity for so long before they got booted to the curb. More like disposable dating. 1
balletomane Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 OP, not too long ago you posted a thread asking if you'd get into trouble for hitting up one of your recently graduated high school students to see if she'd be interested in sex. You didn't seem to register that a teacher going after one of his ex-pupils - even if she is now eighteen - comes across as sketchy at best, grooming at worst. You were only worried about the consequences of getting caught, not the fact that it was wildly inappropriate, so it's possible that you're also missing the reason for your female acquaintances' concerns. A man who persistently goes after teenage girls (and this is starting to sound like a pattern with you) will raise eyebrows, especially if he has a job in which he works with teenage girls. There are plenty of celebrities who have a reputation for being skeevy, so there's no guarantee that your acquaintances' view of you would be different if you were a film star. 7
Mrin Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 Rule of thumb: half your age + 7 usually keeps you on the good side of the creeper line
mark clemson Posted January 5, 2021 Posted January 5, 2021 I think there is some level of hypocrisy and/or emotional reasoning, but certainly it comes from both genders. Sure, women will see the same behavior as "creepy" or "ooh, he's into me" depending on how attracted they are. But men will look the other way on stuff just as easily for an attractive woman - e.g. the cliche of the pretty young woman who talks her way out of traffic tickets with male cops, etc. (And BTW I've personally seen that happen in RL.) People are people. If you expect consistency that doesn't vary with circumstances - well, you're likely to be disappointed quite often. C'est la vie. 1
basil67 Posted January 5, 2021 Posted January 5, 2021 @Mrin wrote "half your age, plus seven". This is the golden rule where people (most importantly, her parents!) won't be creeped out. Have you given any thought as to the reaction you may get from the parents of a 19yo? Out of curiosity, who are the famous couples you used as an example who got together when she was still a teen and he was older than 30? Are any of them contemporary? 1
DKT3 Posted January 5, 2021 Posted January 5, 2021 Hypocritical? Yeah. All I can really say is if I were my sons age today (early 20's) I wouldn't date any woman sub 30....wow what have we raised?
Ami1uwant Posted January 5, 2021 Posted January 5, 2021 If your career is as a teacher you need to tread very carefully. Legally you can have sex with an 18+ yr old in high school but it can cause you toget fired. I don’t have an issue with someone in their early 30s dating someone college aged. It. Happens often.
Weezy1973 Posted January 5, 2021 Posted January 5, 2021 People are allowed to have double standards. But what you’ve described doesn’t strike me as one, unless the women you were talking to were also 19 when they said they would still date the famous men in your example.
Recommended Posts