Her veganism is keeping her single

[Foxhall]

25 minutes ago, basil67 said:

My top choices for vegan are probably gado gado and stir fries

There is a book Veganomicon by Isa Chandra Moskowitz that has a great selection of vegan recipes,

also my fellow countrymen happy pear twins made quite a success of their vegan ventures,

they run online courses.

 

[chillii]

3 hours ago, Foxhall said:

Would you give it a try Chillii?

I quite enjoy it- as I say probably three days a week being honest,

permanently not sure if Ill ever go that far.

Well , lived it for yrs , that wasn't why we broke up, moving dilemmas mainly , like countries. But  the veganism was very hard and not something l'd go again that's for sure . Mind you she was a fully devout vegan of 20yrs none of this airy fairy stuff the real deal right through to the way she lived in all sorts of ways and beliefs.My lady is a healthy eater and there's a lot she won't eat but it's nothing to do with vegan beliefs or others ,  so there's none of that it's just what she likes and she doesn't care what l eat or like or believe as long as l just look after myself a bit and l must admit it's so nice to be living like this again.

[ClearEyes-FullHeart]

I am a vegetarian and often eat vegan, and at times have been vegan but I am not militant or trying to convert people to my beliefs.  I know many vegans (both genders) and the ethics element is often the top reason. I would not be surprised if the woman you met has toured an animal sanctuary and knows in detail the horrors that animals (livestock) endure every day of life.

I stopped eating meat in high school (grossed me out) but the more educated I got about the topic of commercial farming, the easier it is to stop consuming animal based food/products. I am no saint however as I have been eating cheese!  

California-based vegan chef Bryant Terry has some great cookbooks - the recipes I’ve tried have all been amazing. Some of them are quite time consuming, though not difficult. Given the pandemic I have the time to cook more so it’s been fun to experiment

[Acacia98]

On 1/2/2021 at 9:58 AM, basil67 said:

What do you say to someone who is perfectly fine with her choices, isn't hurting anyone and hasn't asked for your opinion?  NOTHING.   It's a perfect example of when to mind your own business.

 

My thoughts exactly. I think many folks have a hard time with the idea that other people can make different choices from them and be at peace with those choices.

[QuietRiot]

10 hours ago, LivingWaterPlease said:

I'm a lifelong vegetarian and it hasn't limited me in dating at all. I've dated plenty of meat and potatoes type guys and I've never tried to convert any of them! They should eat how they want to eat, is my opinion! I was married to someone who wasn't vegetarian and my children aren't, though one has been going in that direction and may be by now, I don't care enough to even ask. It's a personal thing.

I also was vegan for 18 months and same thing, didn't affect any relationships I have. It seem to me that wherever I might go to eat out with friends there are always offerings there I find interesting and delicious!

 

See there ya go. Her, however, isn't on board...he also is required to be vegan.

[Atwood]

2 minutes ago, QuietRiot said:

See there ya go. Her, however, isn't on board...he also is required to be vegan.

She “requires” her partner to be vegan in the same way someone might “require” their partner to be the same religion as them or of the same political stance. Maybe you “require” that your partner isn’t a drug user or has a similar level of commitment to a shared interest in order for your lifestyles to mesh together effectively. 
 

If you’re someone who likes to travel, lives zero-waste and wants to live in a caravan for the rest of your life, pooping in the forest and crocheting your own loincloths, then what good would it do to date someone who lives in suburbia, has never left their town and orders takeaway three times a week? It’s an extreme example, but trying to match lifestyles with another person is only logical and understandable for the harmony of the relationship in the long-term. 

[QuietRiot]

6 minutes ago, Atwood said:

She “requires” her partner to be vegan in the same way someone might “require” their partner to be the same religion as them or of the same political stance. Maybe you “require” that your partner isn’t a drug user or has a similar level of commitment to a shared interest in order for your lifestyles to mesh together effectively. 
 

If you’re someone who likes to travel, lives zero-waste and wants to live in a caravan for the rest of your life, pooping in the forest and crocheting your own loincloths, then what good would it do to date someone who lives in suburbia, has never left their town and orders takeaway three times a week? It’s an extreme example, but trying to match lifestyles with another person is only logical and understandable for the harmony of the relationship in the long-term. 

I guess..I'm just kind of disappointed since she's a local and not many unattached single people where I live...well, at least one that don't look like "the hills have eyes" types. lol. Dating has kind of been a drag...there's always something that comes up.

Edited January 3, 2021 by QuietRiot

[alphamale]

I have never dated a vegetarian or vegan female and I never will

[Wiseman2]

6 minutes ago, alphamale said:

I have never dated a vegetarian or vegan female and I never will

Chef Boyardee beefaroni is something you shouldn't part with for anyone.

[alphamale]

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

Chef Boyardee beefaroni is something you shouldn't part with for anyone.

[alphamale]

5 hours ago, ClearEyes-FullHeart said:

California-based vegan chef Bryant Terry...

What a charlatan 

[introverted1]

Challenge22.com provides a free guided intro to veganism (all free, moderators, not a commercial site) for anyone interested.  You can actively participate, just watch from the sidelines or even request a 1:1 mentor. 

[lana-banana]

I know a handful of couples that have gone veg*n with or for their partners over the course of a relationship. Being vegan for ethical reasons makes plenty of sense, and you can't ask someone to compromise their ethics. 

And the woman on Reddit ought to move to a city; most cities have a pretty ample veg*n scene and finding folks who at least consider themselves plant-based is very easy.

[basil67]

12 hours ago, QuietRiot said:

See there ya go. Her, however, isn't on board...he also is required to be vegan.

So what?  She has the right to choose who she dates.   Her choices aren't about you.

Edited January 3, 2021 by basil67

[max3732]

What kind of local singles group?

One of my friends is vegan because he said when he switched he felt better and healthier and becomes very strict about it. So much so that his wife left him saying she couldn't take it anymore.

After that he found someone else that was vegan and married her.

I wouldn't date someone who was that strict about it.

[alphamale]

8 hours ago, lana-banana said:

I know a handful of couples that have gone veg*n with or for their partners over the course of a relationship. Being vegan for ethical reasons makes plenty of sense, and you can't ask someone to compromise their ethics. 

And the woman on Reddit ought to move to a city; most cities have a pretty ample veg*n scene and finding folks who at least consider themselves plant-based is very easy.

Good luck in getting high quality protein from a plant-based diet...and some other other vitamins and minerals

[lana-banana]

6 minutes ago, alphamale said:

Good luck in getting high quality protein from a plant-based diet...and some other other vitamins and minerals

There is literally no fundamental vitamin or protein source that can only come from meat. Hundreds of millions of people around the world are vegan, vegetarian, and plant-based, and are perfectly healthy---and given the necessities driven by climate change, twenty years from now most people won't be able to eat much meat anyway.

[alphamale]

1 hour ago, lana-banana said:

There is literally no fundamental vitamin or protein source that can only come from meat. Hundreds of millions of people around the world are vegan, vegetarian, and plant-based, and are perfectly healthy---and given the necessities driven by climate change, twenty years from now most people won't be able to eat much meat anyway.

Well I suppose it’s lentils and pulses for the rest of life...vitamin B12 is only found in meat

Edited January 4, 2021 by alphamale

[hippychick3]

14 minutes ago, alphamale said:

Well I suppose it’s lentils and pulses for the rest of life...vitamin B12 is only found in meat

Even meat eaters can be deficient in B12. Most vegans take a B12 supplement once a week which easily takes care of that problem. Easy peasy. 

[Miss Spider]

I have met an inordinate amount of vegans in my city and been on dates with quite a few. By several I mean out of the few dates I had one year,  at least half were vegans. It wasn’t intentional, because honestly they are not my preference. I think it is just a popular thing right now that gets you some identity politics points. Not saying that is why all people do it. Please don’t get me wrong. I respect their ethics. I just don’t share them and I enjoy animal products in moderation(I think most people’s diets consist of way too much animal protein , but that’s just my opinion). Plus, most vegans  I’ve met seemed to not know how to vegan right. Despite their insistence they “feel so much healthier”, it seemed the facial coloring  and muscle tone was off. Plus they were kind of moody. One of them also could not keep up with me on a hike and I am by no means that fit. I think they did not take the time to really get their diet right. That could just be the way that they are though. My ex was a vegan for about 2 years until he started dating me. lol.  I live near Chicago. Perhaps she should move here. 

Edited January 4, 2021 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[Miss Spider]

23 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

I have met an inordinate amount of vegans in my city and been on dates with quite a few. By several I mean out of the few dates I had one year,  at least half were vegans. It wasn’t intentional, because honestly they are not my preference. I think it is just a popular thing right now that gets you some identity politics points. Not saying that is why all people do it. Please don’t get me wrong. I respect their ethics. I just don’t share them and I enjoy animal products in moderation(I think most people’s diets consist of way too much animal protein , but that’s just my opinion). Plus, most vegans  I’ve met seemed to not know how to vegan right. Despite their insistence they “feel so much healthier”, it seemed the facial coloring  and muscle tone was off. Plus they were kind of moody. One of them also could not keep up with me on a hike and I am by no means that fit. I think they did not take the time to really get their diet right. That could just be the way that they are though. My ex was a vegan for about 2 years until he started dating me. lol.  I live near Chicago. Perhaps she should move here. 

One of my close friends went vegan*

[Weezy1973]

23 hours ago, QuietRiot said:

I guess..I'm just kind of disappointed since she's a local and not many unattached single people where I live...well, at least one that don't look like "the hills have eyes" types. lol. Dating has kind of been a drag...there's always something that comes up.

I think this is the heart of the issue for you. It’s that you’re not an option for her, and you’d like to be. Which I can understand, especially with limited single people. But it is what it is, and getting upset with her stance won’t get you anywhere.

[QuietRiot]

7 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

Plus, most vegans  I’ve met seemed to not know how to vegan right. Despite their insistence they “feel so much healthier”, it seemed the facial coloring  and muscle tone was off. Plus they were kind of moody. 

Yeah, I know a nutritionist that says that vegans have short fuses lol (due to being vegan).

[chillii]

1 hour ago, Weezy1973 said:

I think this is the heart of the issue for you. It’s that you’re not an option for her, and you’d like to be. Which I can understand, especially with limited single people. But it is what it is, and getting upset with her stance won’t get you anywhere.

Think your way over analyzing like so many do in many threads and completely missing the point. He didn't sound like that was anything to do with it just sounded like it was something he wondered about , but eh op , correct me if l'm wrong.

Edited January 4, 2021 by chillii

[QuietRiot]

2 minutes ago, chillii said:

Think your way over analyzing like so many do in many threads and completely missing the point. He didn't sound like that was anything to do with it just sounded like it was something he wondered about , but eh op , correct me if l'm wrong.

Yea, just some of my musings.