newbby Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 I have recently met a guy who seems very nice, and we have been talking alot over the internet. He lives away for the time being. Well we have been getting on really well and it was all exciting and new, not really knowing quite how he feels etc but seeing little signs.... and then... He went and asked me what I thought of him. Suddenly I felt completely put on the spot and it killed the moment. I should probably have changed the subject, but I ended up saying, "well I dont know you that well but you seem nice, good fun etc..." Why do I feel that this has ruined things?????
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 ..Jeez.. I'd feel put on the spot as well.. You handled it perfectly.. Be careful though that this doesn't turn into a red flag of lack of self confidence.. I have never asked a girl I didn't know really well what she thought of me.. come to think of it.. I don't think I have ever asked that question ever to anybody.. I know I have thought about it before.. Normaly women will tell you what they think of you.. especially if you fu*k up..:laugh
Author newbby Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 thanks art, i really dont want to not be into him. he is really nice and i really would like a relationship with somebody nice. i mean everyone has their insecurities, dont they? the trouble is, when somebody asks, so soon, i mean. it would be different if it was later down the line... all his past relationships, he has ended because he felt they were too needy, i thought he must be quite a confident guy.
basscatcher Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 This happened to me on the second date with this amazing guy. We talked on the phone a few times and we went out once then on the second date he asked me what I thought of him. I was stunned. I told him I didn't know him well enough to tell him exactly what I thought of him but I told him what I thought of him at the point of getting to know him. He refrazed his question and and me if there was anything about him I would want to change and I said NO. I was completely honest with him. I told him again that I didn't know him well enough to make any decisions yet on any of those questions and I also explained to him that I was in the beginning of getting to know him and he facinated me, that I was in a illusion state with him because I couldnt see anything wrong with him. He was hot hot hot hot hot. Drooling hot.. He told me a few days later that I developed feeling for him too fast and he couldnt catch up. That was the last time I heard from him.. I don't think anyone should put another person on the spot like that at least for a few weeks or depending on how much time you spend together. I was very very disappointed in him for reading me the wrong way.. I liked him and was very attracted and interested in him and he took it deeper and farther then it really was. Your man you are getting to know sounds like he has some insecurities and needs reassurance but be careful to not over do it. Men like to earn their womans affections and like challenges try find a balance if he hasnt ran away.
Author newbby Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 thanks pad, yes thats what i felt! i feel like either it has ruined it for me or because i answered it has ruined it for him. i didnt go overboard though, but now i wish i had turned it into a joke or something.
Author newbby Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 saved. he just insulted me and saved the day!
Recommended Posts