Is it bad if I feel emotionally drained with a friendship and want to move on?

[Cachito]

I have a very special friendship with a person that I felt we understood each other a lot, we had long and intense conversation and over the years (We've known each other since we were teens/preteens) They have open to me about topics that they have told me they have never opened before and are very sensitive with. I worry a lot about my friends and I don't mind it, I enjoy having open and intense conversations and I have learned to be more open to and vocalize my feelings. But this friend that I think is my best friend or, the friend I most identified with at least. Expressed that she usually felt that I don't gloat them, that I criticize them and have a negative perception of them. That's ok, I felt hurt but in that conversation I feel accepted to change my way of talking to try to not create this feeling from her, in this conversation I also told her that maybe they felt that way because of this recent openness. And maybe that was an error, I think what I thought was an open conversation was a confrontation. Because They stopped talking to be for almost a month, ignoring my messages in which I expressed concern and not my boyfriend's (That talked to them because I was worried)

In that month a relative died from COVID-19, and had mayor anxiety with my exams and I worrying about them, thinking they could be depressed or/and hurting themselves (Things that have happened before). And when they responded it was to again tell that they were hurt and invalidate, that I dismissed what they said and justified my attitude with their sensitivity. IDK, I can't worry this much about someone if they don't communicate for this long after we had a problem, in this pandemic context where everyone mental health is in danger. I don't feel supported, and I don't know if I am being selfish. I told them about this feeling but they were pretty much ignored, maybe it was the time for they feelings and I could be invaling theirs again? Is it selfish to let a person with past with selfharming alone? i dont plan on stop talking to them, but I dont want this intense feelings if I cant expect a little bit of information. With an "I need time to think" or basic response I would be good.

 

Sorry for  bad english or formating. Not a native.

[Foxhall]

maybe the conversations were getting too personal. your friends are not always comfortable if you are offering too many opinions,

change your communication style- keep things more general about random topics and try not to judge other people,

just be there as a friend without judging them, be a good listener.