I sent the wrong message!

[rudiger]

I was meant to send a long, profanity laden text message to me ex, roasting her. But instead of sending it to me ex, I ended up sending the message to a very important colleague who I really like. I blocked the number after sending the message. And, only realised I sent the wrong message, when the message was sent and I checked which number I had sent it to.

It's almost identical, so it was an honest mistake. But now I am really worried and don't know how to explain to my colleague that the message was not for her. Because it was pretty explicit. And this whole situation is so awkward, because I have to see her face tomorrow knowing she saw what I wrote. Nooooooooooooooo!!

Her number is still on block. Too scared to unblock.

Edited December 28, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Alvi]

Please seek some psychiatric help to deal with your anger issues. The sooner the better.

[Miss Spider]

Lol. Sorry . That sucks. It reminds me of a time I sent a guy I was dating a huge wall of text of everything I wasn’t feeling about him that I meant for a friend .... I was able to play it off... choke a p may not go over the same way,.. I agree you need to work on that anger. Let go of your ex.  Be more careful next time 

Edited December 27, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[rudiger]

2 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

Lol. Sorry . That sucks. It reminds me of a time I sent a guy I was dating a huge wall of text of everything I wasn’t feeling about him that I meant for a friend .... I was able to play it off... choke a p may not go over the same way,.. I agree you need to work on that anger. Let go of your ex.  Be more careful next time 

My ex also has anger issues as well. I think her anger rubbed off on me. I was actually a calm guy before I met her. 

[Voivoda]

Unblock your colleague and tell her the truth that you intended to send the message to an ex and then do NOT send the message to the ex. You won't win anything from it

[dangerous]

Sending abuse like that frankly does not deserve a discussion on this forum!

Just stop it. And if you really can't see what's wrong, seek therapy. 

[Miss Spider]

11 minutes ago, Voivoda said:

Unblock your colleague and tell her the truth that you intended to send the message to an ex and then do NOT send the message to the ex. You won't win anything from it

I like this advice. It’s your best bet. I hope it works.

I get your ex makes you angry, but that anger hurts you more than her.   It sounds cliche, but it’s true. Don’t let her have that power . 

Edited December 27, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[rudiger]

5 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

I like this advice. It’s your best bet. I hope it works.

I get your ex makes you angry, but I that anger hurts you more than her.   It sounds cliche, but it’s true. Don’t let her have that power . 

I agree.

[ShyViolet]

Maybe this will teach you not to text people nasty messages, even your ex.  You are already broken up with her, what is the point of continuing to send her nasty messages?  That was just immature.

[Uruktopi]

An Ex of mine (she was not my Ex by those times) once sent by mistake a very "affectionate" and detailed msg that was thought for me to my....mother.

 

Edited December 28, 2020 by Uruktopi

[Pumaza]

Unblock.tell her what you told us.It was a mistake, please delete the message thanks.and move on.

but the stuff you wrote is very bad. glad u ddnt sent it to your ex. it could led to more drama.

block your ex,move on.

[Lotsgoingon]

Well this is your opportunity to deal with that temper. Take this opportunity right now or else you'll be right  back in this situation again ... and again and again.

 

[Stret]

23 hours ago, rudiger said:

My ex also has anger issues as well. I think her anger rubbed off on me. I was actually a calm guy before I met her. 

Sorry. You cannot blame her for any of your issues. Own it. 
There is no reason to engage with people you don't intend to talk to ever. Ignoring a person and living your life will often send a stronger message. Raging just demonstrates weakness. 

[smackie9]

You better contact your coworker before they go to HR or your boss. You could lose your job over this if you don't just man up and apologize.

BTW there isn't a chance in hell that coworker would date you now after seeing such profanity being used in that message.

Edited December 28, 2020 by smackie9

[Lotsgoingon]

Hang in there, OP. Some of the dumbest, most embarrassing things I've done have produced some of the biggest breakthroughs and learning experiences. There is no guarantee, but if you let yourself reflect on the dumb thing, there is a ton of learn about it. Here you can reflect on the origins of the anger.  And stay away from people with anger issues--don't imitate them!

And you can use this experience to download new software in your brain. No vicious texts, ever. Lord, everything can be forwarded and forwarded to no end these days. There are conversations on sensitive matters that I used to have with friends at work via email and these days, I'm having those conversations over the phone--and only with people I REALLY trust. 

[OnlyHonesty]

If the girl that accidentally received that message is smart, she will realise that a person that treats her well, but treats others badly is still bad for her health, and to be avoided. Perhaps this is what you fear.

[BaileyB]

23 hours ago, OnlyHonesty said:

If the girl that accidentally received that message is smart, she will realise that a person that treats her well, but treats others badly is still bad for her health, and to be avoided.

This is it. You apologize, she says “no problem,” but she will always remember the text. 

Life lesson, your words show the world who you really are... chose them wisely. 

[d0nnivain]

Do apologize in advance & again when you see the colleague.  It's all you can do.  

Hopefully she will forgive the error & you two can move forward professionally.