silkpjs Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 (edited) Torn between what I should do vs what I want to do. I met this man a few years ago. We dated for a few weeks but I was never able to give myself fully to him until this year. After dating for 3 months consecutively and exclusively he informed me that a woman he dated before me was several months pregnant (she was 5 months). We decided to stop dating. Neither one of us wanted to end the relationship but we felt this was right for the baby. Two months after we stop dating, he reaches out and stated that he loves me and he shouldn't feel obligated to be someone for the sake of a child. We started to get back into the groove of reacquainting ourselves with each other. I pulled back because I wasn't getting the time and attention I once did (he moved in with her). For the first time in months we spent the night with each other on Christmas eve. And today (christmas) I feel as though I need to move on. He bought me roses, a nice watch, and we had dinner. Our birthdays are approaching and he wanted to go to the mountains to celebrate but I have reservations because I feel like the OW (which I am). He has been looking for his own place but until he is on his own should i completely walk away or give him time? Edited December 26, 2020 by silkpjs
La.Primavera Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 Is this a trick question? He lives with her! She is pregnant with his child and thinks they are in a committed relationship with each other while he is screwing around behind her back. He is cheating on her and playing it down to you like it is nothing and you're going along with it. He has shown his true character. Selfish, unfaithful, deceptive, with a shocking lack of empathy to the woman who is growing his child inside her, giving him a roof over his head and a warm bed to sleep in ever night. What a catch. If you continue to go along with this then you know exactly what to expect from him. There is a simple solution to this. 3
Author silkpjs Posted December 26, 2020 Author Posted December 26, 2020 The baby was born 3 months ago. And yes he is being dishonest with her. I already know what to do. Just hard to walk away from what could have been a potentially good match.
BaileyB Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 Timing is everything with relationships. Still, I think with time you will realize it wasn’t such a good match.
Wiseman2 Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 (edited) 4 hours ago, silkpjs said: . After dating for 3 months consecutively and exclusively he informed me that a woman he dated before me was several months pregnant she was 5 months he moved in with her. Cut your losses ASAP Immediately delete and block him and all his people from ALL your social media and messaging apps. This situationship is nothing but drama and headache. Never date a cheater. Get rid of him and invested your time and energy on dating single available men. Edited December 26, 2020 by Wiseman2
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 Are you sure this woman is an ex? it doesn’t sound like it to me. It sounds more like they’re trying to make another go of their relationship for the baby, and he’s cheating on her with you. There is no way I would date this guy. He’s living with another woman and they have a new baby together. You’re wasting your time with him, no question.
smackie9 Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 "He seems like a good match"...well she said the same thing. Still doesn't change the fact the guy is slimy/untrustworthy. Egad have some self worth.
Author silkpjs Posted December 27, 2020 Author Posted December 27, 2020 Thanks all. I had a conversation with him about cutting all ties.
Commongoal123 Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 He wasn't and isn't a good match. You'll see this in time. Unless manipulation and being lied to is part of a good match to you.
BKerJrust Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 Move on! He’s lying and trying to downplay the situation. For his own benefit 1
Miss Spider Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 (edited) Walk away. You do not need baby mama drama. LBR, you want the guy that you settle down with to only have your babies . Personally, I wouldn’t ever look back, but if you insist, at least wait until he gets ever all his ducks in a row. If it is meant to be, it will work out when he’s done that. if it’s meant to be, he’s not going to forget about you Edited December 27, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
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