Author ld1991 Posted December 28, 2020 Author Posted December 28, 2020 2 hours ago, Saracena said: I agree with this advice expect I don't believe she's necessarily losing interest in you per se. I tend to think she's genuinely going through a tough time and the relationship (remember she's not had someone else to consider in her life for a long time) and it's demands on her time etc are an added 'stress', and pressure, with the result she's feeling somewhat overwhelmed with it all. She has little or no time to breathe! I know because I was in the exact same position once. I really did like the guy a LOT and he too, was very keen, but felt I wasn't in the best place for a relationship. Basically I wanted to give it my best shot but felt so overwhelmed with exams, new work commitments etc and to a certain extent my feeling for him, I wasn't my 'best self' , so to speak. I remember I was always so tired at the time on our dates! So I told him I wanted to slow things down a bit. I would give her plenty of space. It's also important from now on she views you as a source of solace and joy in her life and not another problem/pressure she has to deal with! So for starters, concentrate on making Tuesday a nice, relaxing, enjoyable day for her, so she is really looking forward to spending time with you again! Yes, I think she has had a lot on her plate with her job, not liking her boss, the uncertainty of her workplace having to close again due to the covid lockdown... the uncertainty of weather to apply for a different job during these difficult times... then us dating and maybe going too quick with planning stuff... at the time we did it was great and she was so enthusiastic... it just changed overnight. She did text me tonight to say 'sorry if ive been different the past week by the way' i just said theres no need to apologise, i understand. She knows ill be there for her during difficult times. Tuesday we plan on going for a walk and I was going to make us a packed lunch. Not even mention NYE or anything else about meeting... the conversations have definitely died down but who knows.. if we do meet Tuesday they might come back up again... up to now since she's told me all of this I have given space and not overwhelmed her. These next 3 weeks will be hard though due to lockdown as nowhere is open.. only thing we can do is go for walks or she comes to my house.. so its pretty hard to plan anything even if we wanted to.
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