BC1980 Posted January 1, 2021 Posted January 1, 2021 It's difficult to say when you should have sex with someone, but I've read so many threads on here where the poster (a woman) had sex on the first date or was being used for sex by a FWB or ex. The poor poster was confused as to what was going on, but it was clear to everyone else. There's no hard and fast rule regarding when to have sex, but a lot of women are cautious because they've been burned in the past. One of my friends who is a marriage counselor gave me some good advice. She said that women tend to view sex as a commitment, but men don't necessarily see it that way. A good rule of thumb is not to have sex with anyone until you are actually boyfriend and girlfriend and are exclusive. I think that's the bare minimum you can ask of someone.
JRabbit Posted January 4, 2021 Posted January 4, 2021 On 12/22/2020 at 5:53 AM, TooManyDates said: Had I learned that on the 3rd date we could have parted ways much earlier but noooo, she met my family, we spent Christmas together etc. why spend Christmas together if you hardly knew the person? Or you did know them and just thought the sex was bad? Again, why bring them to Christmas then? I'm not sure why so many people jump into the relationship game of meeting family, moving in together etc when they barely know the other person. Anyways... I find the comments by the OP about how some women give it away "free" while others have to work for it, frnakly, well, disgusting. Sex is not to be "given" or "earned". A lot of women, like myself, wait because we know ourselves, and know enough that we can not handle casual or sleeping with someone we have recently met, and then having that person disappear. Have I had ONS previously? But I have learned over the years I am not able to separate my emotions, so I take care of myself by not sleeping with someone unless I believe they are truly interested in me.
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