Author FiReFTW Posted December 24, 2020 Author Posted December 24, 2020 Just now, ExpatInItaly said: It's not that you need to forget about digital communication. The key here is not to put too much stock into what someone you haven't dated very long is typing/posting for you. That is particularly true when this person drops off the radar for days at a time. Yeah your right, I think im way too trusting, because im a honest person miself, so its hard for me to imagine people having bad intentions. Plus I also tend to like someone to fast, both very bad things, 2nd one a bit harder to fix.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 24, 2020 Posted December 24, 2020 5 minutes ago, FiReFTW said: Yeah your right, I think im way too trusting, because im a honest person miself, so its hard for me to imagine people having bad intentions. Plus I also tend to like someone to fast, both very bad things, 2nd one a bit harder to fix. Slow down and keep perspective. Don't assume that sweet words mean an awful lot when they're not backed up by actions. 1
Wiseman2 Posted December 24, 2020 Posted December 24, 2020 In general, "mixed signals" = no signals misinterpreted because of a crush. 1
Author FiReFTW Posted December 24, 2020 Author Posted December 24, 2020 Btw one more thing im wondering about guys, when I meet this girl, she started sending me sexy fotos very early, like 3 days in, she barely knew me yet she was sending me really provocative fotos of her in the shower, and stuff where you could see almost all. I was just thinking that its very odd behaviour to send sexy fotos to someone u barely know so early, whats your guys opinion on this
ExpatInItaly Posted December 25, 2020 Posted December 25, 2020 14 hours ago, FiReFTW said: Btw one more thing im wondering about guys, when I meet this girl, she started sending me sexy fotos very early, like 3 days in, she barely knew me yet she was sending me really provocative fotos of her in the shower, and stuff where you could see almost all. I was just thinking that its very odd behaviour to send sexy fotos to someone u barely know so early, whats your guys opinion on this Yes, it's concerning behaviour. That should have been your first indicator that you can't take this girl seriously. She's attention-hungry and has poor boundaries. Out of curiosity, where did you meet her, and has she ever asked you for anything? (money, gifts, etc) 2
Wiseman2 Posted December 25, 2020 Posted December 25, 2020 14 hours ago, FiReFTW said: , when I meet this girl, she started sending me sexy fotos very early, like 3 days in, she barely knew me Well now you know what she's doing online all the time. Sending those pictures to every dude on the internet. Delete and block her from all your social media and messaging apps Date real people in real time in real life. Not wannabe porn stars. 1
Author FiReFTW Posted December 25, 2020 Author Posted December 25, 2020 19 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Yes, it's concerning behaviour. That should have been your first indicator that you can't take this girl seriously. She's attention-hungry and has poor boundaries. Out of curiosity, where did you meet her, and has she ever asked you for anything? (money, gifts, etc) I meet her on a dating app. She never asked me for anything alltho I found it weird that she told me she lost her job due to corona and she also told me she has to take care of her grandparents and pay for all the bills so its going to be hard now and all that... it was a very big concern that she might be trying to use me for money as you say, but then she told me she got a new job a few weeks later, so thats quite odd.
smackie9 Posted December 25, 2020 Posted December 25, 2020 Look for effort and consistency of that effort. 1
smackie9 Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 Ya I agree, watch the behavior, not what she says to you. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 26, 2020 Posted December 26, 2020 On 12/25/2020 at 11:19 AM, Wiseman2 said: Well now you know what she's doing online all the time. Sending those pictures to every dude on the internet. Was about to say the same thing. OP, you are very likely not the only guy she's flirting/sexting with. She sounds very rehearsed at this, actually. The love poems, the songs, "my love" - yeah, she's done this before and she knows it works to keep some guys hooked. 3
Katkats7777 Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 Stop wasting your time on her, go ahead and talk to other women and see where those convos go. She's playing these stupid mind games, the "i thought you died" comment? Geez. Rude. 1
basil67 Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 I agree that it's too much, too soon, all lovebombing....walk away. But "I thought you died" isn't necessarily rude in some cultures. Where I live, it's said with humour. 2
Pumaza Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 Well its lockdown.Many people on apps just to kill time and lonelyness till corona is over. Dont know how long you guys are texting, but When you like somone it wont take days for you to answer,specially if you do go online. Unless there is a special situation,but the person would let you know like hey i may not be able to text much such and such. This girl got many guys she talking to,and is killing her time just online. If what she is doing is not what you like,you can ask her why ,or block her asap. 1
Author FiReFTW Posted December 27, 2020 Author Posted December 27, 2020 (edited) 8 hours ago, basil67 said: I agree that it's too much, too soon, all lovebombing....walk away. But "I thought you died" isn't necessarily rude in some cultures. Where I live, it's said with humour. Yeah I agree thats a red flag imo, too much lovebombing so soon, its very suspicous. She also said she wants to make me crazy about her like she is crazy about me (lol) Edited December 27, 2020 by FiReFTW
Katkats7777 Posted December 27, 2020 Posted December 27, 2020 11 hours ago, basil67 said: I agree that it's too much, too soon, all lovebombing....walk away. But "I thought you died" isn't necessarily rude in some cultures. Where I live, it's said with humour. you misunderstood me basil, the comment, " I thought you died" is her BEHAVIOR is being rude. It takes her HOURS to respond to his messages where apparently she's active on other apps and 100% knows that he sent her a messages but she chooses not to respond on purpose, yet when he takes hours to respond to his messsges, she gets defensive with a half joke that he apparently died for a few hours because he wasn't responsive to his messages, like the attention snob that she is. She is all talk, and covid really isn't some excuse for her lack of communication, if anything if they are under lockdown and have nothing to do but be at home, then she should be attentive to messages on apps. 3
fred123 Posted December 28, 2020 Posted December 28, 2020 12 hours ago, Katkats7777 said: you misunderstood me basil, the comment, " I thought you died" is her BEHAVIOR is being rude. It takes her HOURS to respond to his messages where apparently she's active on other apps and 100% knows that he sent her a messages but she chooses not to respond on purpose, yet when he takes hours to respond to his messsges, she gets defensive with a half joke that he apparently died for a few hours because he wasn't responsive to his messages, like the attention snob that she is. She is all talk, and covid really isn't some excuse for her lack of communication, if anything if they are under lockdown and have nothing to do but be at home, then she should be attentive to messages on apps. hundred percent true. double standards 1
dramafreezone Posted December 28, 2020 Posted December 28, 2020 (edited) On 12/21/2020 at 11:45 AM, FiReFTW said: This girl is really confusing me.. Meet her some months ago, we clicked alot, was like lots of sparks, really good connection, sexual attraction, did sexual stuff all that, went out on dates. The thing is at the moment in my country we have this weird prohibition because of covid19 that we can't leave our region, its prohibited, so I can only move around my region, and she lives in the region next to mine, its like 40 miles away in another city. So for the past month or a bit more we have been only stuck with over the phone not in real person, and the thing that is confusing with me is how shes acting. She tells me all this sweet stuff how im the most amazing guy shes ever meet and shes super into me, sends me "xxx" pics of her, talk sexual stuff, sexting, tells me cute nicknames like my love etc... sends me love songs that remind me of her, and is basically the most sweetest person and acts like someone who is really INTO me based on all these texts and actions and sometimes phone calls. But the thing thats weird is that many times she takes a lot of time to reply to me, sometimes could be a day or two where she barely says something 2 or 3 times in those 2 days which is extremely little conversation, and she says shes busy with going to x place or doing x thing or whatever, but yet I noticed that she comes online on the apps many times between or posts a story or something and yet she doesn't reply to me or even read my message. So its a bit weird to me since she seems to be so into me with all those other things, and yet this just doesn't make sense to me. Any idea or advice? I'd just end this and spend your time with women you can actually meet up with and date. I don't think this woman has any intentions of ever spending any time in-person with you. You should want more for yourself than a phone relationship. Edited December 28, 2020 by dramafreezone 1
Miss Spider Posted December 28, 2020 Posted December 28, 2020 (edited) . All’s fun and games until you’re trying to lose a guy but he thinks you’re crazy about him because you said that to him in a text. Learn to read between the lines a little bit. Edited December 28, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
spiderowl Posted December 29, 2020 Posted December 29, 2020 On 12/27/2020 at 11:38 AM, FiReFTW said: Yeah I agree thats a red flag imo, too much lovebombing so soon, its very suspicous. She also said she wants to make me crazy about her like she is crazy about me (lol) This is deeply suspicious. She is trying to manipulate you. I really think this girl is just playing games and has done this before. You are better off without her. I doubt a genuine girl would be eager to send you naked pictures when she hardly knew you.
fred123 Posted December 29, 2020 Posted December 29, 2020 2 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: . All’s fun and games until you’re trying to lose a guy but he thinks you’re crazy about him because you said that to him in a text. Learn to read between the lines a little bit. explain. interesting insight into women here
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