chatwithme04 Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Hello! I am so confused about my long-distance relationship. I am in love with this guy who lives about 3 hrs from me. We have been together for a year and a half. He rarely calls me because he said that he is very busy with his 2 jobs. I don't want to seem selfish when I say that I do want to hear from him at least a few minutes sometimes. He say that he is tired when he gets off of work (which I totally understand his situation) but is a phone call too much to ask for? The only time I hear from him is when I call him. There are times when we don't talk for about a week. I just want to hear from to see if he is ok or to know that I am thinking about him and I would like to know that he is thinking of me also. Am I being selfish for wanting to see him sometimes and hear from him? He really confuses me sometimes. When you really love someone, your are not suppose to be afraid to call the person. You are not suppose to be afraid to tell the person how you feel. When I finally get to talk to him, he is probably relaxing or something so I tell him that I will let him go because I know how his mood changes sometimes. I don't like to argue with him. I left a message on his cell phone telling him that I don't think that the relationship is working for me and that I don't want to stand in his way of achieving his goals in life. We both are trying to get our priorities straight. Am I wrong for wanting to give him some space by breaking it off. Will I regret my mistake? Please! help me. P.S. I don't know if I told you everything, that is how confused I am
fatcat Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Actually you left out some pertinant details, but what I feel necessary to say is that, within the vague description: 1> does this guy have a girlfriend or wife you don't know about? 2> anyone who likes/loves someone usually calls everyday, not once a week. Cell phones are cheap and calls after 9pm are pretty much free. 3> working two jobs is tough, but love usually has room for a short, 'how ya doing?' call. 4> if you really dig on this guy, call him everyday. If he doesn't like that or doesnt return your calls or emails, move on. 5> long distance romances rarely work. Spur of the moment,"let's go have dinner" things are really nice and with LDR's its not possible. Hmmmm, sister, I'd forget about this dude....
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