kendahke Posted December 19, 2020 Posted December 19, 2020 (edited) 18 hours ago, trao992 said: Should I text him back? If so, what should I say? What's the point? Are you any less busy that you've been already? Are you in his area and can safely meet him? Do you have time to invest in talking to him? You've shown him so far that you're not that interested in him--just the attention from his texts. I'd leave it alone. and he didn't ghost you--you made it clear that you weren't interested enough in a 10 minute Facetime--sounds like a catfish on his end. Edited December 19, 2020 by kendahke 1
poppyfields Posted December 19, 2020 Posted December 19, 2020 (edited) My first thought was, heck why not! I double-texted my fiance before we met and it worked out; there's a thread floating around about it on a different forum. That was approx 3 years ago. Literally everyone advised not to, called him a flake, not interested, nothing good. But my gut said otherwise, so I did. He responded within ten minutes and here we are. You really just never know why someone stopped texting so for me it was worth the risk. However in your case, others are right, unless something has drastically changed and you have more time to prompty respond to texts with more than a few words, and you're willing to (and want to) video chat, what's the point? You'd only be messing him around and that's not nice. Edited December 19, 2020 by poppyfields 1
Author trao992 Posted December 20, 2020 Author Posted December 20, 2020 (edited) @d0nnivain@Blind-Sided @elaine567 @ShyViolet @poppyfields@Nour_ @kendahke So I heard back from him explaining his life story. He said he got occupied with work travel, which is a lame excuse given he came online multiple times. However, I was said no problem, I replied him back right away saying ' I would love to talk to him'. He agreed and said he would call me in the evening. I was eagerly waiting for his call, ditching all my plans, but haven't heard back from him, 'not even a I am busy text'. He came online at night and also multiple times in the morning. But no reply. I thought he would message me the first thing he wakes up, but no luck. I feel like crap. I thought he is a gentleman, but he smashed all my expectations. I unfriended him on Facebook( This might be kiddish, but I thought this might send him a clear msg that this is over). Edited December 20, 2020 by trao992
Miss Spider Posted December 20, 2020 Posted December 20, 2020 (edited) I’m sorry Edited December 20, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
tempover100 Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 Texting for 2 weeks, no video chat, he's seemingly ghosted you while on vacation. Did I get that right? Enjoy your vacation with your friends. Really. No, Seriously. Are you enjoying yourself yet? Grab a drink. Go out to town (keeping your distance, obviously). It's been a crap year for everyone and the last thing anyone needs is to worry about right now is OLD. It'll still be there when you get back. You only know the 2 week version of eachother, so all is not lost. And when you get back, send out a feeler text if you still feel like reaching out. Explain that when you're on vacation you prefer not to be glued to your phone but that you appreciate his efforts to keep the conversation going. (If it were me, I personally would let sleeping dogs lie. Silence is still an answer.) If he doesn't reply, then you'll have your answer. Delete him and move on. There will be others. In the future, when you're on vacation, stick to your boundaries for limited/no phone contact and you'll be better off for it. 1
d0nnivain Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 I'm sorry he was rude but you can't put stock in people you never met. It's not childish to unfriend him on FB. You never met. He was never your friend. Don't be crushed. That's giving this stranger way too much power. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 22 minutes ago, d0nnivain said: I'm sorry he was rude but you can't put stock in people you never met. It's not childish to unfriend him on FB. You never met. He was never your friend. All of this, and especially the bolded. You shouldn't even adding random internet strangers on FB to begin with, OP.
Miss Spider Posted December 22, 2020 Posted December 22, 2020 (edited) You should have never had him added on Facebook, if you ask me. at least meet him in person before you give him full reign to e-stalk you Edited December 22, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
dangerous Posted December 25, 2020 Posted December 25, 2020 Too much messing about, from the both of you. How old are you btw? And way too much over-thinking. If you feel it text/ call whatever. If you don't then just move on. Sounds like he lost interest and gave you back some of what you gave him earlier. The end. And I agree OLD is a waste of time atm, get through the virus restrictions and return to it when we are all free to meet more naturally,
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