She broke up with me for someone else and now keeps calling me

[Rictor33]

She keeps calling me about being friends and I usually dont pick up.. She told me she is infatuated with this one guy and that she wants to be my friend. After the ****ed up things she said to me I really dont want anything to do with her for a little while.. I am trying to have no contact with her, but I might see her at a bar tomarrow night with a group of mutual friends and just play it cool and not pay too much attention to her. I don't understand why the **** she keeps calling me all the time. I want to play NC and try again after a month (or when she changes her mind) when she figures out what she really wants because she dumped me due to the fact that she wanted him and that I ****ed up the attraction by becoming too available and not giving her the chance to miss me.. I mean if you were breaking up with someone, why the **** would you call them repeatedly the next few days about being friends and such? I need to show her that I don't need her. Any thoughts?

[BrainRightHeartWrong]

trust me dude...

 

forget about her for good, she is no good for you!

 

absolutely do not allow her to treat you this way...

 

after a while and it could be a good while you will not want anything to do with her

 

good luck!

[lindya]

I need to show her that I don't need her. Any thoughts?

 

You don't really need to show her that you don't need her, do you? It's probably better to focus on genuinely not needing her. When people embark on a campaign of showing someone else how well they're doing without that person, it's usually fairly transparent.

 

Best just to focus on genuinely not needing her, rather than working out ways of proving to her that you don't.

[Rictor33]

In a group of friends type setting at a bar. I haven't called her back so I am going to have to explain why to her. What should I tell her, that I wanted to give her space to think about things? That I don't know if I want to be friends with her yet? If I end up in the "friend-zone" am I going to get stuck there? I mean there was plenty of attraction in the beginning, but now that it has fallen off is there a chance to regain that attraction by being distant and out of contact for a while? Should I ignore her completely tonight unless she tries to approach me? I am still bummed over this **** because she left me for someone else, someone who cared for her much less than me who is uglier than me to top it all off poor... I gave her my heart and she didn't want it, said she didnt feel the same way with me and it's all because I never gave her the chance to miss me. I thought I had it in the bag, but I couldn't have been more wrong and I started pressuring her about being exclusive and just ****ed it all up.. I don't know what her definition of "friends" is, but I really don't want to get hurt anymore knowing she is seeing some other dip**** that was my competiton before..