ladybug67 Posted December 14, 2020 Posted December 14, 2020 I’ve been talking to a guy for a few weeks now and it’s been going really well. We clicked so well, we text a lot and we have really similar interests and stuff. We have had a few phone calls, send pics throughout the day etc. He honestly seems great, initiated a first date and mentioned how excited he was for it. Unfortunately his work schedule has been really full on and unpredictable with the pandemic so it was really hard to arrange, but he was working in my area today, so we had our first date planned for today when he finished. On Friday he was being quite distant and said that he was feeling tired from work. I worried about this however he was back to normal on Saturday and I think he was just really burnt out on Friday. However, he was the same last night and seemed really off. He said he was really tired and felt really off and I asked if he was still up for meeting the next day and he said yes of course but wasn’t sure what time he finished yet. So we had no concrete plan but was likely to be evening. Then this morning I woke up to no texts. Was pretty confused about what’s going on. He then messaged at 1pm saying “I’m so sorry, I haven’t gone in today, I can’t even get out of bed. Really sorry, I feel like such a let down x”. I replied to this saying I hope he’s okay and to rest up. I’ve not heard a word from him since then. I don’t know if I’m paranoid because the last 2 guys I was speaking to cancelled on me on the day of a first date as well and turns out they just weren’t interested. However they never seemed as nice and interested as this guy. They never initiated the first date or seemed excited like he has. And to be fair he has been working pretty much every day. Am I being unreasonable to worry? I really really want to believe him but I dunno am I being unreasonable?
hippychick3 Posted December 14, 2020 Posted December 14, 2020 I wouldn’t worry, I’d just move on and “next” him. He lost interest for whatever reason (other options, ex back in pic, etc.) and gave you an excuse. Anyone who cancels the day of the date who isn’t in the hospital or has a loved one in the hospital is not worth your energy or time. You haven’t met yet and do not know him at ALL. There should not be any investment in this guy yet so let him go without overanalyzing. 3
Wiseman2 Posted December 14, 2020 Posted December 14, 2020 18 minutes ago, ladybug67 said: he was working in my area today, so we had our first date planned for today when he finished. He said he was really tired and felt really off and I asked if he was still up for meeting the next day and he said yes of course but wasn’t sure what time he finished yet..He then messaged at 1pm saying “I’m so sorry, I haven’t gone in today, I can’t even get out of bed. Really sorry, I feel like such a let down x”. I replied to this saying I hope he’s okay and to rest up. I’ve not heard a word from him since then. Sorry this happened. Sounds like he's in another relationship and needs to do things on the fly. Stop texting/investing and simply start talking to and meeting others. If you want full relief from flakiness like this, you'll have to block him.
smackie9 Posted December 14, 2020 Posted December 14, 2020 No they were both not interested...when you see then waffling, that's when you call it quits. Don't invest in the texters, invest in the ones that take you out on dates after a few messages. It's way easy to text and blow smoke up someones butt while they weigh their options. This guy is playing juvenile games. He doesn't have the n sack to just say no not interested. 2
Versacehottie Posted December 14, 2020 Posted December 14, 2020 (edited) Idk, do you think he could have covid? sounds like he could be sick for real. BTW, i wouldn't baby him as you aren't his gf yet or even dating yet. But let him contact you and give him a bit of the benefit of the doubt. What is the real rush anyway? Edited December 14, 2020 by Versacehottie 2
hippychick3 Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 OP, the only thing you need to figure out is why you’re allowing yourself to be treated this way by a manipulative jerk. 1
amygirl908 Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 He could legitimately be sick, but in all likelihood he's lost interest. I'd leave it where it's at and if you hear from him again you can decide what you want to do, but I would keep talking to other people and not reach out to him. 1
Miss Spider Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 Why are you focusing on all these guys who chat for weeks and make it really hard to meet. Interested guys will find time to take you on a date. It’s not that difficult. I think if you stop wasting time with people like this, online dating will be a lot easier for you. 2
poppyfields Posted December 21, 2020 Posted December 21, 2020 7 hours ago, hippychick3 said: OP, the only thing you need to figure out is why you’re allowing yourself to be treated this way by a manipulative jerk. Amen sista. 2
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