Yungstagurl Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 How long do you date or talk to someone before officially being in a relationship or becoming a couple? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lurker74 Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 According to the International Convention on Courtship and Suitors, two months. (alternatively, however long you and your partner decide is right) 4 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 38 minutes ago, Yungstagurl said: How long do you date or talk to someone before officially being in a relationship or becoming a couple? You "talk" until you meet in a timely fashion. Dating is not texting. You date until there's a mutual agreement that it's exclusive, usually when sex is introduced. As far as "official"? Do you mean labels and/or social media status? Not sure what the significance of "official" is if you are exclusively dating? At any time either of you can end things. So this label is more or less meaningless. It should be determined by mutual agreement of how it is going, how well you get along, how well your lives are integrating, etc. Focus on whether you are happy, not labels. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 There is no real limit. Everyone is different, and every encounter is different. For me it was usually within a week or two. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 Couple weeks to a couple months 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 2 hours ago, lurker74 said: According to the International Convention on Courtship and Suitors, two months. (alternatively, however long you and your partner decide is right) This is the correct answer (I'm actually surprised someone got the correct answer so quickly). But this is only if everything is going just right and both have fallen in love. Keep in mind that some people date or multi-date people for a long time and the relationship is lack-luster and goes nowhere. This is different. If you are just dating somebody for many months and nothing series is developing, it's going nowhere and you two are just friends at best. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 It depends on the mindset of the people. I've always had a serious mindset and date men who have the same, so they always ask me to be exclusive within a few dates. I thought it was really cute the way my last boyfriend did it. Right after we had sex for the first time, he cuddled me up and goes, "I want to be your boyfriend now." Couldn't argue with that 😊 Link to post Share on other sites
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 Three to five dates. Link to post Share on other sites
Fletch Lives Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 Don't get me wrong.........you can get serious in as little as 3-5 dates, and even commit. But you are not totally in love yet. If a flag comes up, it's much easier to part ways within the first two months. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 usually when a random girl makes eye contact, i just assume that we are dating and exclusive at that point 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Calmandfocused Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 1 hour ago, Ruby Slippers said: I thought it was really cute the way my last boyfriend did it. Right after we had sex for the first time, he cuddled me up and goes, "I want to be your boyfriend now." Couldn't argue with that 😊 Ruby sorry to go off topic but is there anyway to fix whatever went wrong with this guy? I don’t know what went wrong but I do remember reading posts where you were so happy with this guy, and evidently you still hold him in high esteem. Just curious. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby Slippers Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 4 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said: Ruby sorry to go off topic but is there anyway to fix whatever went wrong with this guy? I don’t know what went wrong but I do remember reading posts where you were so happy with this guy, and evidently you still hold him in high esteem. Just curious. I tried many times. He did a whole lot of things right - but the several things he did wrong were wrong enough that I couldn't get past them. With those things in the mix, I feel I'm better off without him. Based on what he's said, I'm pretty sure he'd get back together today if I wanted to - but it would just be more of the same, so I don't. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 It depends on the people involved but generally more then 2-3 dates & preferable you at least touch on the subject before sex. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted December 10, 2020 Share Posted December 10, 2020 5 hours ago, Ruby Slippers said: I thought it was really cute the way my last boyfriend did it. Right after we had sex for the first time, he cuddled me up and goes, "I want to be your boyfriend now." You must have REALLY liked him! 😍 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 5 hours ago, flitzanu said: usually when a random girl makes eye contact, i just assume that we are dating and exclusive at that point 😂 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 I used to call it dating for as long as I could get away with not making any sort of official commitment, which was up to two years, at which point there were usually disgruntled rumblings about moving forward to being a proper couple. At that point I would feel overwhelmed and use the disgruntlement as my excuse to make an escape - the old "I can see I'm not making you happy" chestnut. But with my partner, we were both smitten within a few minutes, but waited about 3 months before admitting it. It's up to the individuals involved. Link to post Share on other sites
princessaurora Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 I was never into dating more than one guy at a time so if I went out with someone more than a few times it was understood we were only seeing each other. So I agree with the others. About 3-5 dates. Link to post Share on other sites
Trail Blazer Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 With my current girlfriend, I knew I wanted her to be my girlfriend the moment I laid eyes on her. Thankfully the feeling was 100 percent mutual. In reality, I played it cool and went on a few dates more dates first. We both felt after the third or fourth date we wanted to be exclusive. Mind you, we had an almost one month gap between our first and second date. We chatted on Messenger a little bit throughout that period, but not a great deal. Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 There is such a thing called biofeedback and it goes like this: 2 months - the first 2 months you are absolutely happy and are deeply happy. You're going steady. 6-9 months - this is when infatuation wears off, the endorphins are not pumping anymore. And when it does you better like that person - not love, just LIKE them. And if you don't? You're in trouble. 1.5-2 years - This is when it's time to make the commitment to a LTR, whether it's marriage or simply an LTR. And that's another level that others don't want to make. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 50 minutes ago, mortensorchid said: There is such a thing called biofeedback and it goes like this: 2 months - the first 2 months you are absolutely happy and are deeply happy. You're going steady. 6-9 months - this is when infatuation wears off, the endorphins are not pumping anymore. And when it does you better like that person - not love, just LIKE them. And if you don't? You're in trouble. 1.5-2 years - This is when it's time to make the commitment to a LTR, whether it's marriage or simply an LTR. And that's another level that others don't want to make. Hmmm most of the women I meet (who are in their 40s and 50s) want to be exclusive by date three and married at the two month mark. It’s really disconcerting... Link to post Share on other sites
5x5 Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 7 hours ago, alphamale said: Hmmm most of the women I meet (who are in their 40s and 50s) want to be exclusive by date three and married at the two month mark. It’s really disconcerting... Indeed, especially on the marriage part. I trust you don't humour such nonsense. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 3 hours ago, 5x5 said: Indeed, especially on the marriage part. I trust you don't humour such nonsense. I do not 5x5 2 Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 Well that's scary - you need to find somewhere else to meet women @alphamale! Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 1 hour ago, FMW said: Well that's scary - you need to find somewhere else to meet women @alphamale! I already own/run a meetup group where I meet a lot of chicks ... Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 11, 2020 Share Posted December 11, 2020 0-60 in under 8 seconds is about average.🚗 Link to post Share on other sites
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