QuietRiot Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) I've seen a few women in my feed that would put up these memes on how they hit close to home, saying how much they don't need a man, but does someone really need to shout it from the roof tops in order to make the message clear to anyone who is seeing this? One had a meme saying, "When men hit on me in public", Her: "Are you lost?" However, sometimes I wonder if it's due in part to past bad experiences with men or something, usually these are the same types whose picker is off? which very well could be, but there' s just something rather tacky about posting about it online, yes? Edited December 8, 2020 by QuietRiot 1
Miss Spider Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) 33 minutes ago, QuietRiot said: One had a meme saying, "When men hit on me in public", Her: "Are you lost?" I don’t get it Edited December 8, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
Wiseman2 Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 24 minutes ago, QuietRiot said: I've seen a few women in my feed does someone really need to shout it from the roof tops in order to make the message clear to anyone who is seeing this? The best thing you can do is control what you allow into your mind. If certain social media rants are a vexation, delete those people. 2
alphamale Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 Women who say they don’t need a man are the ones who need a man the most... 8
Wiseman2 Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 1 minute ago, alphamale said: Women who say they don’t need a man are the ones who...... They need Taco Bell ....because they just got dumped. 3 1
Author QuietRiot Posted December 8, 2020 Author Posted December 8, 2020 38 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: The best thing you can do is control what you allow into your mind. If certain social media rants are a vexation, delete those people. Wiseman...I have good friend that will be probably taking a break from FB altogether, some have already...I'm reaching that point , but I'd like to do so without missing out on non-debateble stuff, like keeping an eye out for new products or just non-debate-able stuff. If I give up facebook, that'd be like throwing the baby out with the bathwater. Heck, I'm surprised the local news channel doesn't disable their comment ssection.
ExpatInItaly Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 I think you're reading too much into it. Sometimes people just see something funny, it strikes a vague cord somewhere, so they re-post it. It doesn't necessarily reflect something deeper. 1
Blind-Sided Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 I see this in 2 ways.... 1) It's like hate speech. There are a few women who really hate men. Generally they are the ones who like other women, and need to make a point out of it. 2) It's from a woman who was jaded, and is now on a crusade. AND, part of "Shouting it from the roof tops" is (honestly) convincing herself of that position. I've known a few women like this, and ultimately... they wind up in another relationship. It's has nothing to do with "They needed a man"... but it has to do with normal biology. It is part of being human. we pair bond. So... while this may hit home for some of us looking, dating, or just in a break up... the reality is... you probably didn't want that girl anyway, and you will find a nice girl who wants to actually date, and love... and be loved.
Author QuietRiot Posted December 8, 2020 Author Posted December 8, 2020 21 minutes ago, Blind-Sided said: I see this in 2 ways.... 1) It's like hate speech. There are a few women who really hate men. Generally they are the ones who like other women, and need to make a point out of it. 2) It's from a woman who was jaded, and is now on a crusade. AND, part of "Shouting it from the roof tops" is (honestly) convincing herself of that position. I've known a few women like this, and ultimately... they wind up in another relationship. It's has nothing to do with "They needed a man"... but it has to do with normal biology. It is part of being human. we pair bond. So... while this may hit home for some of us looking, dating, or just in a break up... the reality is... you probably didn't want that girl anyway, and you will find a nice girl who wants to actually date, and love... and be loved. GOod point. I made good friends with a female friend that doesn't necessarily shout it from the roof tops, but...she does make it apparent to men at social gatherings among peers that she's not looking...she gets many , both men and women, saying "Well, you can never say never" trying to convince her otherwise...even men try to coax her into having drinks together...but she's content with her daughter she loves and her 3 gal pals she goes traveling with and that's it. She isn't jaded, but after one marriage, she just didn't like the work and sacrifice that comes with marriage or a relationship. Either or.
Woggle Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 It lets you know what kind of women to avoid. The ones who shout it from the rooftops are better than ones who hide it and then it peeps it's head after you get to know her. 2 1
poppyfields Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) 2 hours ago, alphamale said: Women who say they don’t need a man are the ones who need a man the most... omg alpla, I was just about to post that! Same exact words and everything! I think it's true though. As humans, we need each other at least on some level. Men need women, women need men. It's nothing to feel embarrassed about or ashamed for. Not to survive but to enhance our lives and bring balance. Most people need this anyway. Women who make a point of shouting "I dont need a man!" may not have learned balance, they may have given too much, lost themselves and now gone in the other direction. They have a distrust of men that's puts them on the defensive claiming they don't need. Probably best to stay away from women like this imo. Edited December 8, 2020 by poppyfields 1
notbroken Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 It could just be a joke. However, it does show a bit about how they think. Believe them. Avoid.
smackie9 Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 There are settings on your FB to block nonsense off your news feed. Mine was hijacked a few times with stripper/porn like stuff. Someone messaged me about it, because I wasn't on it for a week....omg I was mortified. It took awhile to clear it out and block it. My advice, don't click on or share/post any of those funny videos. On the other side of the coin, us women on here and on the other sites, get exposed to threads about how terrible women are, and how they treat men from supposed "nice guys." The moral of the story is... Some want us to feel their pain because wallowing in it themselves just isn't quite enough.
JRabbit Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 6 hours ago, alphamale said: Women who say they don’t need a man are the ones who need a man the most... Or, we can believe women when they tell us things. 1 1
dangerous Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 7 hours ago, QuietRiot said: I've seen a few women in my feed that would put up these memes on how they hit close to home, saying how much they don't need a man, but does someone really need to shout it from the roof tops in order to make the message clear to anyone who is seeing this? One had a meme saying, "When men hit on me in public", Her: "Are you lost?" However, sometimes I wonder if it's due in part to past bad experiences with men or something, usually these are the same types whose picker is off? which very well could be, but there' s just something rather tacky about posting about it online, yes? Fully agree. They are usually compensating for their lack of security/ success/ happiness. A softer variation on this is "I don't need anyone, I want someone" usually followed by "to make me happy" (although they may not say that lol). In my region, I am also wary of women with close up pics of their dog on their dating profile. Often indicates a man substitute. Before i get flamed, my comments apply to men as well as women.. And not All dog owners fall into this category!
Alvi Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) Men are no different. I see it a lot in men's profiles on the dating sites. They state that they don't need a woman. Why are they on a dating site in that case? lol Some even go as far as to tell that they can cook, clean and do everything by themselves. So no point of them having a woman for a relationship I suppose, lol. It's like saying "Since I cannot get a woman/man, I don't need one." I lot of insecure, jaded people on line and in real live. I've encountered quite a few of them on a dating site. Apparently some people look at me like I have two heads or something when I honestly tell them that I do want and need a man in my life. According to them, I am supposed to act like I am all happy without a man, there is something wrong with me if I want or need one. lol Edited December 8, 2020 by Alvi 2
Lotsgoingon Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) The context matters here. It's shocking as a man to learn how much women are socialized into thinking they absolutely need a man, often a marriage, to be full human beings, and to be a full woman. I've had conversations with women who seemed just super independent and had them admit to taking dumb steps in relationships because of the feeling that they needed a man to be a full success in life. Now, there's a fine distinction here. Of course almost everyone dreams of a wonderful romantic partner. But that dream can go too far and sometimes drive people into terrible relationships. There are a lot of women who stay in miserable relationships just so they can feel like they have successfully checked the I-have-a-partner box. I assume this happens with guys too, but I don't think to the same degree. I don't need a man does not then mean you don't want a man and does not mean you don't want a good man. Saying this can be a way of pushing away the expectations that if you don't have a partner, your life isn't a success, that you are somehow a failure as a woman. I don't need a man tends to mean I don't need a man so badly that getting into a bad relationship with a man is better than no relationship with a man. Edited December 8, 2020 by Lotsgoingon 3
Fletch Lives Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) Listen to me....... there are people with sane, good attitudes, and people with bad attitudes and issues. Forget about all the noise - just deal with the ones who are positive and nice, and forget all the rest - the rest don't count! Choose your friends and your lover wisely. Edited December 8, 2020 by Fletch Lives 1
lana-banana Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 If a woman doesn't need a man, what's wrong with saying so on social media? I don't think it's tacky to post about the way you feel as long as it's not obsessive or hurtful to others. 1
Miss Spider Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) I get the feeling that there’s too much reading into this/a meme. Edited December 8, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 3
Woggle Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 Men who post the MGTOW crap are just as bad. People who feel the need to write off half the population have issues. 1
kismetkismet Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 A big part of the reason this is more common for women is because a lot of women (especially millenials and older) were raised in a culture that told them that their main purpose in life is to land a man. Just look at all the older Disney princess movies and all the cultural emphasis on family/marriage over career and independence. So while a lot of men grow up knowing romantic relationships shouldn't be their main focus, women are still fighting the assumption that all women care about is getting a husband. The funny thing is that posts like that are more often done by women who aren't entirely convinced of it. They're sometimes just trying to convince themselves or convince others that that's how they feel. The women that are the most confident in the fact that their worth isn't defined by a man usually don't feel the need to prove it as much. 1
Uruktopi Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 Well.... Seems that most of men and women need each other, which is good. Seems that some women and some men don´t, which is also fine. Good for them if they don´t have one at their side, also a favor for the potential other one. Seems to me that the meaning of "to need" is being redefined along time which is even better.
dangerous Posted December 9, 2020 Posted December 9, 2020 And let's not forget that societal pressure is also for a man to be in a relationship too. As a middle aged man, whos is single, I am judged and commented on all the time, why am I alone, why am I not dating (during the lockdown!)?, and yes, i wouold rather be single than in an unsatisfactory relationship. But to me, that is obvious, and I am comfortable with my choice. I do not, however, need to post it on SM, FB or OLD. 1
alphamale Posted December 9, 2020 Posted December 9, 2020 11 hours ago, poppyfields said: omg alpla, I was just about to post that! Same exact words and everything! I think it's true though. As humans, we need each other at least on some level. Men need women, women need men. It's nothing to feel embarrassed about or ashamed for. Not to survive but to enhance our lives and bring balance. Most people need this anyway. Women who make a point of shouting "I dont need a man!" may not have learned balance, they may have given too much, lost themselves and now gone in the other direction. They have a distrust of men that's puts them on the defensive claiming they don't need. Probably best to stay away from women like this imo. Lesbians probably don’t need a man
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