Bdiana88 Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 I have been in a relationship for 9 years and recently got engaged (1 year ago) things have been very rocky throughout the entire 9 years. I recently met somebody new and for the past 6 months have been having an affair. He is also in a relationship and has a family. I never asked for anything more than sex but things have become very complicated we are constantly texting, calling, sending photos, seeing each other. His girlfriend found out about us and he said it’s getting too hard and he will keep in touch when he can but wants to work on things at home. Things are incredibly messy, his girlfriend reached out to me and he said they are fighting all the time in front of their young children. I want to respect his decision but I am completely heart broken, I didn’t realize how much I’d fallen for him. 1. will he come back to me? 2. how do I break things off with my fiancé? Or have I just been blinded by something new and exciting? 3. What would you do in this situation?
ShakeShake Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 1. You never had him so he's not coming back to anything. Maybe in your mind you had something, but the fact is he was still going home to his girlfriend every day. 2. By being a mature adult and telling your fiance you do not want to get married and that you want to end the relationship. 3. Start thinking about others as opposed to being selfish and only thinking about yourself. End things with the fiance as what you have done is not only unforgivable but also cruel. Then tell this other guy you are both done and won't be meeting him or talking to him any more. Then delete and block him. He cheated on his girlfriend with you, he would have no hesitation of cheating on you with someone else as well. 3
Happy Lemming Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 39 minutes ago, Bdiana88 said: 1. will he come back to me? 2. how do I break things off with my fiancé? Or have I just been blinded by something new and exciting? 3. What would you do in this situation? (1) Hard to say, but I doubt it... (2) Yes you need to break things off with the fiance'... You don't have to go into all of the details, just pick a fight, return the engagement ring and leave. That is what happened to me the one time I was engaged. She picked a fight, returned the ring and broke off the engagement. I discovered later that she found a "bigger wallet" and I was replaced. (3) If it weren't for the pandemic, I'd say move far away and hit the reset button on life. That is what I have done in the past, just pull up stakes and move. Start fresh where no one knows you and your past can't find you. It is very cathartic!! 1
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