Ellener Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 5 hours ago, poppyfields said: Hate to belabor, but when one injures their eye like I did, you do not mess around by waiting a couple of days to see a doctor. I went to urgent care immediately! I would do pretty much anything rather than see a doctor in the US! 1
poppyfields Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 3 minutes ago, Ellener said: I would do pretty much anything rather than see a doctor in the US! I hear ya sista! One nearly killed me by prescribing the wrong meds! I try to avoid unless absolutely necessary which my eye injury was, I cannot even describe how painful that was.
kiwistwbry Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) OP, I doubt any of us here are medical experts, nor can we know for sure if it was a bogus or legitimate excuse. All you can do is make decisions based on what she told you. If the roles were switched I would want someone to give me the benefit of the doubt. Things do happen, even if it might seem like too much of a coincidence. My best advice would be to continue with your initial thought of checking up on her, because it is the kind and considerate thing to do. Good for you, by the way. And whether or not she’s full of bologna is besides the point. If it were me I would give her about a week to recover somewhat and then suggest another date plan for sometime later that week or the next. Meanwhile chat it up with other possibilities if you desire. Feel things out with this girl for the next week or two, and if she continues to stall, for whatever reason, after trying to reschedule, I would just tell her how you don’t want to continue wasting each other’s time. Then wish her the best and move on. Edited December 8, 2020 by kiwistwbry 2
Ellener Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 4 minutes ago, poppyfields said: I hear ya sista! One nearly killed me by prescribing the wrong meds! I try to avoid unless absolutely necessary which my eye injury was, I cannot even describe how painful that was. If I'd gotten the right diagnosis for my Charcot foot arthropathy I would still be able to walk... @zincmagnesium8 most people are avoiding doctors in the US because of the cost. My health insurance has a disclaimer on the bottom of each page saying 'do not accept this information'!
Wiseman2 Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 It's bad timings/unusual, but it happens. Check in here and there but don't smother. 1
ShyViolet Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 Ok, after learning that this was going to be the first date, I think it would be way over the top to text her every day. Just text her once and let her know that you hope everything's ok, and that you'd still like to go out sometime, and tell her to reach out to you when she's ready. Then just let it be, and see if she contacts you again. 2
Author zincmagnesium8 Posted December 8, 2020 Author Posted December 8, 2020 Thanks for all the replies. I didn't contact her, but she messaged me this morning. She said she is on the mend and would like to rearrange our date for this weekend. I can only take that as a positive thing and thankfully I didn't let the negative thoughts get to me. I'll be sure to give her eye a good examination when we do eventually meet! 6 2
poppyfields Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 46 minutes ago, zincmagnesium8 said: Thanks for all the replies. I didn't contact her, but she messaged me this morning. She said she is on the mend and would like to rearrange our date for this weekend. I can only take that as a positive thing and thankfully I didn't let the negative thoughts get to me. I'll be sure to give her eye a good examination when we do eventually meet! Yes make sure you grill her about it to the nth degree, KIDDING! I'm glad she called, have fun! 1
Miss Spider Posted December 8, 2020 Posted December 8, 2020 (edited) Well played. Try to work against your pattern of overthinking . Focus energy elsewhere Edited December 8, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
Author zincmagnesium8 Posted December 8, 2020 Author Posted December 8, 2020 21 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Well played. Try to work against your pattern of overthinking . Focus energy elsewhere I wish I knew how. I don't even know when I'm overthinking anymore. If I'm 50/50 about something I ask here and usually get a 50/50 response! Maybe it's best to flip a coin from now on haha
FMW Posted December 9, 2020 Posted December 9, 2020 9 hours ago, zincmagnesium8 said: If I'm 50/50 about something I ask here and usually get a 50/50 response! Yes, there's always a plentiful supply of diverse opinions here That's what I enjoy about this forum, actually. It helps me to question my own thoughts and views on things at times, which can be good, we can all get a little too wrapped up in our own views of the world. After you've questioned yourself and have given all the opinions some thought, make your decision on how to handle things based on what feels right to you. FWIW, I think it's good to give people the benefit of the doubt, otherwise you can miss out on some good things. You just have to keep your expectations reasonable so that if they do turn out to be flakey it's not a huge thing, you just move along. 1
IntBrowser Posted December 9, 2020 Posted December 9, 2020 On 12/7/2020 at 4:01 PM, zincmagnesium8 said: I wouldn't say I'm too focused, but I do only focus on one girl at a time when I'm dating. I'm not the kind of guy to arrange multiple dates with different women. I swipe, match, arrange a date. If that doesn't work out I move onto the next girl. I guess I'm old fashioned that way. Without trying to sound cruel, she's not in any way special. What I mean by that is that she's on the same playing field as any girl I date, at least up until the first time we meet. Although I must say that she is very beautiful and she could get any man she wanted, but strangely enough she wouldn't be my usual type. Not only that it can be very costly for a guy to go out with multiple women lol
Acacia98 Posted December 9, 2020 Posted December 9, 2020 11 hours ago, zincmagnesium8 said: Thanks for all the replies. I didn't contact her, but she messaged me this morning. She said she is on the mend and would like to rearrange our date for this weekend. I can only take that as a positive thing and thankfully I didn't let the negative thoughts get to me. Excellent! Have fun!
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