buzzie2 Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 this guy that I have been seeing can be the most sweetest loving man, but other times he can be downright rude and mean. He buys me really thoughtful gifts and is a very loyal friend, but other times does or says really insensitive things. For an example, I hadnt received any phone calls or emails from him several months ago. When I asked him why he snapped " well I don't spend all day sitting around on my computer". He also told me once that I could lose 15 pounds, but the funny part is that he is about 30 pounds overweight. I love being around him when he is nice to me which is 90 percent of the time, but it's the 10 percent when he is mean that makes me not want to be with him. Something I read said that if a guy was really into a girl that he would be nice to her all the time, do you think thats true? And is this normal behavior for guys?
Lishy Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 It may be normal i am not sure - But it isnt right! If you enjoy this hot/cold behaviour then stay and if you feel you deserve more (and i am sure you do) then rethink your relationship. What did u say when he told you to lose weight?
augur Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 From your post - sounds like an individual that likes/needs control. Do you see this in the relationship when he is being nice? I think Lishy hit the nail on the head in regards to her second sentence. As wonderful as it may sound - I have never experienced nor heard of a relationship where someone is always nice, all of the time. Then again, that is just from my personal experiance and observations in regards to human nature
whichwayisup Posted October 16, 2005 Posted October 16, 2005 He's selfish, and probably has an anger problem. Or is a moody person. He can be wonderful, loving and sweet, making you feel good and special... I bet once he feels like you're getting to "into" him, meaning you care, you may feel you want more from him, that is the time he turns and does a 180. You have to decide if you care about him enough or love him enough to put up with that. He could be one of those guys who goes around saying, "this is who I am, accept it and deal with it because I ain't changing for nobody!" DO you want a man like this? Who isn't going to support you emotionally? What about if you really needed a friend. Could you count on this guy? Augur, you are right. Noone is nice all the time and happy go lucky, but there is a difference in respecting someone and not being nice and this guy seems to disrespect and disreguard her feelings.
augur Posted October 16, 2005 Posted October 16, 2005 whichway - I completely agree with you on this and thank you for the expansion on my comment .
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