Was able to rebound tonight and have a nice 1st date and erased the other one out of mind

[IntBrowser]

There is no guessing after this 1st date, about if she wants to see me again we both made it clear at the end of the date.   Nice dinner with great flowing conversation and surprisingly this sweet and classy is from Tinder.    No way I thought someone like that would be on Tinder.     I definitely made it clear and said......"I definitely want to see you again" and she said the same.      And was able to accomplish all this on a rainy friday.       The plan now is NO PHONE TALK,  only text and face to face in between dates

[Miss Spider]

That’s good to hear. I hope it continues to go well for you. I don’t understand why you are so stuck on phone conversations being an issue. A phone conversation will not kill chemistry that is there any more than it will create it. 

Edited December 5, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[IntBrowser]

1 hour ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said:

That’s good to hear. I hope it continues to go well for you. I don’t understand why you are so stuck on phone conversations being an issue. A phone conversation will not kill chemistry that is there any more than it will create it. 

Just want to spread out a bit.     Like have a nice phone convo on Monday and not another until Saturday with texts in between of course

Edited December 5, 2020 by IntBrowser

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

.  The plan now is NO PHONE TALK,  only text and face to face in between dates

Why is that the plan?

Great she's up for a second date. When is it?

[elaine567]

You are listening to dating coaches and going to apply a rule. You are explaining your lack of success on "not doing it right" when you were rejected because she did not see you as a romantic prospect. NOT because you phoned her... 
That means it doesn't matter what stupid rule you apply. Phone calls - no phone calls. Texts - no texts. She would still have rejected you.
Interest is what you need to assess and to  be flexible in your approach.
Some women thrive on contact and will lose interest if they feel you are not willing to keep in contact.
Others will hate close contact and will lose interest if you crowd her.
You need to assess what level of contact you are most comfortable with and filter out those who do not think the same way.
Adopting a hands off approach may have worked in days gone by, but today she can get another man in an instant if you do not keep the contact going at the level she is comfortable with... 
Has there been any contact with her since the date?

[Blind-Sided]

1 hour ago, elaine567 said:

.......
Some women thrive on contact and will lose interest if they feel you are not willing to keep in contact.
Others will hate close contact and will lose interest if you crowd her.
You need to assess what level of contact you are most comfortable with and filter out those who do not think the same way.
.....

This 

It's been my experience that most girls like to be contacted often, if there was an actual connection.  I can understand not calling, as the convo can get stale, or feel forced. I personally don't like to sit, and talk on the phone like a "Teen Girl" would.   But a simple txt now and again, will keep interest alive. 

Anyway... congrats on a good first date. 

[Fletch Lives]

I think this is a good idea. Dates are how relationships are built. Phone and text don't count.

[IntBrowser]

10 hours ago, Blind-Sided said:

This 

It's been my experience that most girls like to be contacted often, if there was an actual connection.  I can understand not calling, as the convo can get stale, or feel forced. I personally don't like to sit, and talk on the phone like a "Teen Girl" would.   But a simple txt now and again, will keep interest alive. 

Anyway... congrats on a good first date. 

Hold the congrats LOL     I had a good feeling after last night, unlike the other date because we made it clear we want to see each other again.   Plus I received a text from her saying she had a wonderful time with a Heart symbol.    So I sent a text today around 3pm saying hello and haven't got a reply back yet.     On the way home from the date we can continued to talk about things we liked so i didnt have a negative feeling at all.     Maybe I am just overreacting since its only been 2 hours but based on my history I get those negative thoughts like

 

"A woman may agree to see a guy again on the second date while still on the 1st to avoid a awkward situation or confrontation"     And she asked me during dinner..........."What do you like about me.     So I will see what happens

[IntBrowser]

12 hours ago, elaine567 said:

You are listening to dating coaches and going to apply a rule. You are explaining your lack of success on "not doing it right" when you were rejected because she did not see you as a romantic prospect. NOT because you phoned her... 
That means it doesn't matter what stupid rule you apply. Phone calls - no phone calls. Texts - no texts. She would still have rejected you.
Interest is what you need to assess and to  be flexible in your approach.
Some women thrive on contact and will lose interest if they feel you are not willing to keep in contact.
Others will hate close contact and will lose interest if you crowd her.
You need to assess what level of contact you are most comfortable with and filter out those who do not think the same way.
Adopting a hands off approach may have worked in days gone by, but today she can get another man in an instant if you do not keep the contact going at the level she is comfortable with... 
Has there been any contact with her since the date?

I sent a text at 3pm and havent got a reply back yet.

[Miss Spider]

What is that thing that people say about doing the same thing over and over and expect a different result? I think you realize this over-analytical stuff is not really working for you, but it is certainly not stopping you. And this includes all this non causa pro causa stuff like monitoring time spent talking on the phone. 

Edited December 5, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes

[IntBrowser]

She just replied to my text.    So now I will move forward with the getting to know process

[Wiseman2]

7 hours ago, IntBrowser said:

She just replied to my text.    So now I will move forward with the getting to know process

Excellent .   Make sure you ask for the next date in a timely fashion. Enjoy.