Carlo Posted December 3, 2020 Posted December 3, 2020 Ok I’m liking two women right now, I’m not exclusive to either of them but I do feel really guilty. I’m 31 (M). Girl #1: I have known longer since 2015, she lives in Tennessee I live in Georgia kinda long distance. Honestly I have only met her once and it was this year in June. We have a connection & yes we did have sex. To be honest this girl went back to her ex on me in March and that relationship lasted until May & I was hurt then but I decided to give her another chance. I have a friendship with this woman & I have made her feel special just from the things I have done for her. Now she has a very busy schedule because of work, college, & helping her son with school. She told me that she’s not ready for a relationship right now due to having a busy schedule, that she doesn’t know when she’ll be ready & that it might not happen because she doesn’t know what she’ll be doing. She has told me that she has feelings for me though. She’s 30 until December 19th. Girl #2: I have known her since last year in December, a coworker referred me to her. I still have not seen her yet because she wants to wait until COVID-19 is over. She lives close to my city & obviously the same state. I want to meet her & she wants to meet me. I have video chatted with her a few times. I have grown to have a bit of a crush on her though. I can tell she has some sort of interest in me because she always hits me up. Her schedule is not as busy as Girl #1 & She’s 40 until December 5th. Like I have said I have made no commitments to either, but feel guilty. With Girl #1 it may take a while or a few years before she’s ready to commit. With Girl #2 we just need to meet because I think she might be more ready. What should I do? Should I keep quiet right now knowing there’s no commitments made? Or should I just wait it out then say something? I don’t want to lead them but at the same time I just don’t know what to say or if I should say anything.
central Posted December 3, 2020 Posted December 3, 2020 #1 does not want a relationship, and may never, and you've never met #2. You've got nothing to work with here, so IMO you should look for #3 while remaining friendly with 1 and 2. 7
elaine567 Posted December 3, 2020 Posted December 3, 2020 A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Here you have two women in the bush and none in the hand. 5
Ami1uwant Posted December 3, 2020 Posted December 3, 2020 Don’t bother with #1. Something should have happen after you met. It didnt with #2 ...how have you both been during Covid in terms of being near people and going out? Outside of required things like going to the store if you both have isolated yourself, getting together to meet shouldn’t be hard. You can at least see each other in person and talk.
Alvi Posted December 3, 2020 Posted December 3, 2020 Doesn't sounds Girl#1 is THAT interested in you or is ready for a relationship with you. She told you that much. Leave her be. You haven't even met Girl#2. You've talked to her for a year and still haven't met her. Covid started when? In March? So you had a good 2-3 month to meet her beforehand. She is just a pen-pal, nothing more. Talk and date other women. 1
Miss Spider Posted December 5, 2020 Posted December 5, 2020 (edited) Which one is hotter? If tied, which one has bigger boobs? Nah really. I don’t understand what you feel guilty about. The first one hardly sounds interested at all and the second one you haven’t even met yet. You should keep looking. Edited December 5, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
Wiseman2 Posted December 5, 2020 Posted December 5, 2020 Who do you like more and which one do you have a better chance of making things happen with? Meet #2 see what happens.
Fletch Lives Posted December 5, 2020 Posted December 5, 2020 Girl one is over......you get one chance per woman. Girl two you have not even met. See if you can meet here and then you'll have something to work with.
Calmandfocused Posted December 5, 2020 Posted December 5, 2020 On 12/3/2020 at 4:59 PM, elaine567 said: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Here you have two women in the bush and none in the hand. I really wish the smile/ laugh emoticon was still available in the “like” section. This made me laugh out loud Elaine. Very witty! 1 1
ShyViolet Posted December 5, 2020 Posted December 5, 2020 I"m not even sure what you mean "what you should do". Girl #1, you've only met her once and she is not interested in dating you. She told you she's "not ready for a relationship." Girl #2, you've never actually met in person. You are not actually dating or in a relationship with either of them. There's no decision to make.... you can keep chatting with girl #2 and see if anything ever happens, but if she's saying she wants to wait until Covid is over then you are going to be waiting quite a while......
Author Carlo Posted December 6, 2020 Author Posted December 6, 2020 On 12/5/2020 at 3:46 AM, Wiseman2 said: Who do you like more and which one do you have a better chance of making things happen with? Meet #2 see what happens. Really like both, starting to dig #2 as she is the newer crush. Even though I said I have been talking to #1 since 2015 from 2015-2018 we didn’t talk all of that much, it was an off an on friendly chat here and there. July of 2019 is where things really started to pick up with me & #1. I’ll say if #1 was ready then I would have a better chance with her. Since #1 isn’t ready I’d have to lean towards #2. I think it really depends how this COVID-19 thing is going to last, if it ends before #1 is ready then it’s #2. If Covid-19 doesn’t end before #1 is ready that’s when it gets tricky.
elaine567 Posted December 6, 2020 Posted December 6, 2020 1 hour ago, Carlo said: . I think it really depends how this COVID-19 thing is going to last, if it ends before #1 is ready then it’s #2. If Covid-19 doesn’t end before #1 is ready that’s when it gets tricky. You seem to be coming at this from an angle of you can pick up these two girls at will, as they are kind of waiting for you and it is Covid that is stopping them. But my guess is neither is really interested in you, at all. they are doing what women often do, keeping interested men sweet whilst having no intention of taking anything further.
Author Carlo Posted December 6, 2020 Author Posted December 6, 2020 1 hour ago, elaine567 said: You seem to be coming at this from an angle of you can pick up these two girls at will, as they are kind of waiting for you and it is Covid that is stopping them. But my guess is neither is really interested in you, at all. they are doing what women often do, keeping interested men sweet whilst having no intention of taking anything further. I’m going to see if I can meet #2 sooner rather than lately. #1 has already told me her feelings for me even though she’s not ready.
Author Carlo Posted December 6, 2020 Author Posted December 6, 2020 (edited) On 12/3/2020 at 1:12 PM, Ami1uwant said: Don’t bother with #1. Something should have happen after you met. It didnt with #2 ...how have you both been during Covid in terms of being near people and going out? Outside of required things like going to the store if you both have isolated yourself, getting together to meet shouldn’t be hard. You can at least see each other in person and talk. I wear a mask everyday, I try not to get close in distance with people. Edited December 6, 2020 by Carlo
elaine567 Posted December 6, 2020 Posted December 6, 2020 28 minutes ago, Carlo said: #1 has already told me her feelings for me even though she’s not ready. She likes the attention...
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