kendahke Posted December 4, 2020 Posted December 4, 2020 42 minutes ago, hokage240sx said: the fact is that we are both consenting adults. but she's an adult whose brain hasn't finished fully forming, whereas yours is. You do sound like you're trying to groom her rather than picking on someone who doesn't need grooming. 1
Author hokage240sx Posted December 4, 2020 Author Posted December 4, 2020 12 minutes ago, kendahke said: but she's an adult whose brain hasn't finished fully forming, whereas yours is. You do sound like you're trying to groom her rather than picking on someone who doesn't need grooming. I have no idea about the formation? she is the one that seeks older men. before me her boyfriend was 26 and who knows how old she was 18? now I do see her doing this as a way to get experience. which would really hurt my feelings. I take her to really nice romantic dates, and they definetly are not always cheap. we have gone mini golphing, tandem biking, Halloween shows, fancy diner, drive in theater, theater, ect.. I always pay, and am obviously more invested. I really am just setting myself up to get hurt. but if things do work out long term, I would love that. I like that she is not like most girls that I meet my age. she is obviously not getting around with a bunch of guys. she is very self aware of her self.. ect. I feel like that is hard to find, regardless of age. That is why I probably am putting in extra effort to try and make it work. everything is done in consent between both of us. I see where my over eagerness comes of as maybe creepy? but its not intentional.
Author hokage240sx Posted December 4, 2020 Author Posted December 4, 2020 I just read into what grooming is, thats pretty damn creepy. no thats not going on, I wouldn't even know how to prove I wasn't. it seems to be very similar to romance, but just will ill intent.
Wiseman2 Posted December 4, 2020 Posted December 4, 2020 Obviously you're not a pedophile. However it may be time to consider that whatever frustration you are experiencing is most likely due to different life stages. Perhaps she's mature for 20. Perhaps you're immature for 28, who knows? The bottom line is she is in a different place.
Author hokage240sx Posted December 4, 2020 Author Posted December 4, 2020 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Obviously you're not a pedophile. However it may be time to consider that whatever frustration you are experiencing is most likely due to different life stages. Perhaps she's mature for 20. Perhaps you're immature for 28, who knows? The bottom line is she is in a different place. lol they are making me feel like a pedophile lol. im not as frustrated rn. I posted about my last date wensday, went pretty well. plus progress. 1
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