ExpatInItaly Posted November 29, 2020 Posted November 29, 2020 Do you know if he has in fact met up with the female colleague he mentioned?
Caauug Posted November 29, 2020 Posted November 29, 2020 14 hours ago, soulseek said: When we met, he was unemployed and struggling financially, while trying to land sub jobs as a teacher. Fast forward 3 months, he landed a temporary part time contract teaching at a high school. I am an elementary teacher myself, and have had my position secured for 5 years now. And 9 hours ago, soulseek said: He is preparing to get evaluated for his employee file next week. So how do i balance my needs and his career needs? I once was in his place and had an ex make me choose between my career and him. I chose my career. So i get it. This isn't the place to be making him choose... So, you are all good..... 20 more yrs until you retire with full pension? You have it all bagged up. BF is where you were 5yrs ago.... And where did you want your relationship to be with him long term? If you are still just having fun and no need to get serious maybe you should look around for someone that can meet your needs.... If you are likening who he is and maybe as a long term partner..... Maybe cut him a little slack. You are acting like your ex at this point. The roles are reversed, you have your career in the bag, your BF is still trying to prove himself to get a full time gig... To put it simply: If he is going to play the role of the provider in a family he will need steady employment!!!! That is why he says he can be back up, he knows this more important than you (at this time). You stated how important your career was when your ex had a whine, and here you are having the same whine.... We all know he will choose the career before you, at this time. Workaholic, maybe??? I think it is more him trying to find steady employment to get his life in order. After a few years in one steady role it will be all smooth sailing. 8 hours ago, Watercolors said: You need to understand that "future talk" is a huge red flag. Words are but wind. I've been in plenty of situations with men who "futured talked" me into believing I had a future with them, but that was just them place-holding me, until someone else came in the picture. And, I even had men want to exchange keys with me, only to break up with me after we exchanged keys. WC has good points here..... Just dump him and date others life is too short. See how it goes, maybe once he gets his life in order and can give you the validation you deserve he will be worthy of your time. Sadly, some people are not worth your effort. Don't get caught up in "Maybe's" Look after yourself, you are not his first priority at this time. 2
Author soulseek Posted December 1, 2020 Author Posted December 1, 2020 On 11/29/2020 at 12:47 AM, ExpatInItaly said: Do you know if he has in fact met up with the female colleague he mentioned? No he did not. He knew that was a line he didn't feel comfortable crossing
Wiseman2 Posted December 1, 2020 Posted December 1, 2020 (edited) When you stop agreeing to spending low quality time watching him ignore you he'll either step up or you'll notice that his interest just isn't there. Try not to force fit things this hard. People do not ignore what they're interested in. Edited December 1, 2020 by Wiseman2
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