Mook77 Posted November 19, 2020 Share Posted November 19, 2020 Hello. im suspicious. But first let me say I hope I can find positivity here . my woman has a crush on her boss. She's told me . She also says he gives her a lot of attention. It's a big company. He will allow her at times to use his refrigerator to put her food in. Happened once. And gives her a good work station. Hapenned twice. Well yesterday she said she and four others got in trouble for coming to work late. The schedules had been changed on the work online portal but they didn't look at it. she told her boss to stop nagging her when he came to her work station to tell her again about tardiness as he had already told her once in the morning. she was really mad and even called him stupid as we drove home . She was infuriated. Im I over thinking Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 19, 2020 Author Share Posted November 19, 2020 Other day she came in she was quiet didn't even talk n wouldn't look at me for a while Link to post Share on other sites
gamon Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Not much to go on. From the little I've read I have my decision and it is as follows: Based on the scarce evidence supplied to this court, I rule that you are being overly paranoid and suspicious of your wife for no good reason and you need to stop overthinking it and be more supportive rather than thinking she's banging her boss. Or find more evidence because what you've got is nothing. Court is adjourned! 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 What are you suspicious about? Do you two live together? How long have you been dating? How long has she worked there? It's doubtful that employees keeping their lunch in the same office refrigerator means they are having sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Crazelnut Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 This probably belongs in the Infidelity subforum. But based on what you said, if that's your only "evidence," you're overthinking this. Link to post Share on other sites
FMW Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 I agree with the others, what you wrote doesn't support your suspicions. But is there more than what your wrote? About how she's acting in general or about the boss in particular? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 20, 2020 Author Share Posted November 20, 2020 She put her food in his fridge. Managers fridge. All other employees use employee fridge. One night she said manager bought all employees subway. She came home with it. And was acting strange. Not looking at me. Looking down. Staying in room. One day she said she went to work n realized she forgot to out on her panties. I'm like how?? Link to post Share on other sites
gamon Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 Ok now we're getting somewhere. Was the subway sandwhich a foot-long? I'm working a theory. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 20, 2020 Share Posted November 20, 2020 (edited) 41 minutes ago, Mook77 said: One day she said she went to work n realized she forgot to out on her panties. I'm like how?? It sounds like she's playing games, messing with you. Saying silly things to get your attention. Edited November 20, 2020 by Wiseman2 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 26, 2020 Author Share Posted November 26, 2020 (edited) Hello everyone. Im not sure what's going on so I want to ask his question here. I'd asked part of it on another forum but I want to ask it here. My woman loves me a lot and does for me without question. She's told me she finds her boss attractive. She's even mentioned how he will stop at her work station to chit chat. How he will find her the right work station(maybe twice) , making her other co worker lady to comment "how come you get VIP concierge treatment" jokingly though. Another time there she said she mentioned that food was being stolen from main staff refrigerators in break room and maybe I think, twice he said she could put food in his refrigerator. Work starts at 630 am. She gets to work at 530 am. After dropping me off. We have selected to use one car to save on costs. I get to work at 430 am. Her job has a huge well lit parking lot as it's a huge huge 24 hr company. So she will get there and take an HR or two nap depending if work starts at 630 or 7. When she was drunk I asked her if she was to have sex with him where she's have it and she said in the parking lot at work in his car which has dark windows. Other night she came in from work mad. She said a text had been sent to reverse come in time from 730 am to 630 am. But it was sent late and she and several people didnt see it. So she gets there at 730 and is in trouble. She explains she didn't see that text as several co workers too. Long story short he came by her work station again in the afternoon to tell her she needs to check her work portal texts to see if there is a change. She said she told him she's not a child and doesn't need to be told again ...... Another day she said boss gave out Subway sandwich gift cards to staff n she got her self a foot long and chips n a drink. She said she was thankful cause she was hungry that day as she had forgotten her purse and was really hungry. When she got home she went straight to the room. I went and got her to come to dining room. She sat there as I was cooking and she would occasionally stare at the floor and not at me. With like a smile on her face, not an obvious one though as she spoke back. Today she came in and told me how they got to work at 730 am but couldn't work cause power had gone out at night. So they did minimal work and at 830 am they were told to clock out n take a break till 1030 am. Then worked 1030 am to 330 pm n were told to all clock out again for like an HR or so and clock back in as work was slow being close to Thanksgiving. I am cooking and we are drinking. Then I noticed she had thrown out a jar I had of pickles in pepper that I had in our refrigerator. She denies it. And I open cabinet where we keep jars. Sure enough that jar that had them is there, washed and cleaned. She denies it yet she does all the kitchen cleaning. She denies it , screams and starts denying it even mentioning how I said I can live without her last week( absolutely false) and I serve her a plate. We go back at it and she is denying it yet all she had to say was I thought they were bad and threw them out and cleaned the jar. She then storms off to bed and slams the door. Maybe I'm reading too much into this Edited November 26, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Formatting Link to post Share on other sites
schlumpy Posted November 26, 2020 Share Posted November 26, 2020 Many times people will warn their spouse about their unsaid feelings for person using innocuous comments. That's a red flag to me. Drunken confessions will just lead to confusion. There is no way to determine the truth. You have let this go on too long and you have to shake her out of her fantasies. One way to do that is to insert yourself in her workplace. You show up to take her to lunch and get to know her friends. You meet the boss and stare him down. Find out if he has a wife and kids so you inquire about them. She will be much more cautious if she is afraid that some co-worker who has a grievance against her will contact you and spill the beans. Set her down and have a no-nonsense conversation about what will happen if you find out she is running around on you. Don't do this if you are bluffing because it will only make matters worse. You have enough red flags to monitor her and to put an emergency plan into place so that you won't get caught flat-footed. Or you can sit and do nothing. Lots of people do. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 26, 2020 Author Share Posted November 26, 2020 Thank you. I like your reply Link to post Share on other sites
WilyWill Posted November 27, 2020 Share Posted November 27, 2020 Mook, whatever you do, do not confront her early or make her aware of your suspicions. If there's an affair, confronting her will just allow her to hide it better. If there's any way you have access to her text messages, that would tell you a lot. Your carrier might be able to help, or maybe you have access to her phone whenbshes sleeping. Even if you can't see the content of messages, just seeing the volume of messages from/to a given number is a good clue. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
trident_2020 Posted November 27, 2020 Share Posted November 27, 2020 What does throwing away a jar of pickles have to do with a possible workplace affair? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Commongoal123 Posted November 27, 2020 Share Posted November 27, 2020 (edited) On 11/19/2020 at 5:17 PM, Mook77 said: my woman has a crush on her boss. She's told me . Well yesterday she said she and four others got in trouble for coming to work late. The schedules had been changed on the work online portal but they didn't look at it. she told her boss to stop nagging her when he came to her work station to tell her again about tardiness as he had already told her once in the morning. Am I the only one here who is catching that OP stated his partner admitted to having a crush on her boss? Also her boss has given her "special treatment". Why is the employee fridge unsuitable to her but her boss's personal fridge is? OP, usually when we sense intuitively something is off.... then something is off. At least that has been my experience historically. Especially considering that you are questioning yourself whether you're overthinking or not. Usually when we have a sense of something unproven, and we are ALSO considering that we might just be thinking crazy, then there is even more reason to trust our intuition. People who are either the culprit, are projecting, or are doing something they don't see, generally don't default to looking inward and considerinh that they may be just "making it all up" How old are you two? How old is her boss? What is the reason for using his fridge instead of the regular one? How long have you two been together and do you live together? Is your partner specifically turned on by "authority" or "top/bottom" type sexual behavior? Finally, I agree with Wiseman2 above. It sounds like she is playing games especially regarding the whole "oops I forgot to wear my panties to work" and then openly telling you without being asked. That straight up screams emotional manipulation. Do you think she wants more attention from you? Does she just want to make you react? Some women are like that and it's crazymaking at its best. Edited November 27, 2020 by Commongoal123 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 27, 2020 Author Share Posted November 27, 2020 I agree. I won't raise suspicions that I think anything. Same thing I was asking. My female boss would not tell me put your food in my work fridge. Why would she? She used to call when she got off work. She doesn't. I call she doesn't answer. Throwing out my picked isn't the biggest issue. It's lying you didn't when you did and becoming soooooooo angry about it. Like how do you do something and then deny it with such anger? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 27, 2020 Author Share Posted November 27, 2020 And yes we live together. Been together a yr Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 27, 2020 Author Share Posted November 27, 2020 she just called. She will be home an hour late. Work Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 27, 2020 Author Share Posted November 27, 2020 (edited) Throwing pickles out isn't the issue. what I'm saying is throwing out the pickles and then denying it and being soooooooo angry in denial(lie). That coupled with her saying her boss has an eye for her. that is after her saying her boss is cute. that is after boss telling her a few times she can use his refrigerator at work as other employees use the one in the break room. thats after her just now calling me today she will be home an HR late cause of work. Edited November 28, 2020 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Formatting Link to post Share on other sites
MickeyBill Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 Not a lot of evidence but you came to a site about infidelity for a reason. You have suspicions, but for now keep your eys opena mouth closed. Does she ever leave her phone sitting around, do you have the password? IS she doing the other tipoff, like dressing nicer or fixing her hair and makeup in the AM...Late girls nights out or unexplained overtime. Don't do anything yet, you have a few red flags but not a parade. Yet. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 28, 2020 Author Share Posted November 28, 2020 Ok I'll keep my eyes open and mouth shut. No other red flags Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 28, 2020 Share Posted November 28, 2020 11 hours ago, Mook77 said: she just called. She will be home an hour late. Work So? You need to decide if it's jealousy or infidelity. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 29, 2020 Author Share Posted November 29, 2020 I don't know. She just got home. . Her boss gave her another gift card for several subway meals for having the highest production at work today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 29, 2020 Author Share Posted November 29, 2020 And two expensive jackets of MINE which were in her car cause she uses them to cover herself when she gets to work early as she sits in car are MISSING. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mook77 Posted November 29, 2020 Author Share Posted November 29, 2020 How did two male jackets dissapear from her car? And why 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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