Wiseman2 Posted November 29, 2020 Posted November 29, 2020 9 hours ago, IntBrowser said: But her being turned off it made the truth come out that she was not taking care of a sick grandmom and that it was a lie to avoid seeing me again Does it matter? If someone doesn't want to see you, just reflect if you want to bother rather than invent tests. 1
mortensorchid Posted November 30, 2020 Posted November 30, 2020 I for one am wary of those who meet on dating apps and say they are looking for friends. I think it's more of a thing that you explore if and when you meet that person face to face and you may have a relationship with. I only have one OLD bf in my history that I still have as a friend. And when I say that I mean we talk once a year on Easter Sunday (long story). It kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it?
Author IntBrowser Posted November 30, 2020 Author Posted November 30, 2020 On 11/28/2020 at 9:20 PM, ThereSheGoes said: I agree with Shortskirtslonglashes. It sounds like you need to do some work on yourself. It doesn't sound like it's the other person, it sounds like it's you. And purposely limiting a phone conversation sounds ridiculous. If you like someone, you like someone. If you are finding it hard to converse in person, then you two just don't match. You seem like you are obsessively thinking about this. It was said from a dating coach that the more you talk you remove the excitement and mystery of the 1st meet, Instead I talked for 3 hours about tv shows, food, work when I could have saved all that for the date, So just one 20 min convo and another short convo to confirm meeting plans and that;s it. Not 2 hours on wed, 2 hours on thur and fri which indirectly sent the message,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,"he has no options"
Author IntBrowser Posted November 30, 2020 Author Posted November 30, 2020 On 11/29/2020 at 3:18 AM, Wiseman2 said: Does it matter? If someone doesn't want to see you, just reflect if you want to bother rather than invent tests. It didnt matter because I am just amazed at how stupid some women can be and not just block a guy
Acacia98 Posted November 30, 2020 Posted November 30, 2020 (edited) 15 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: It didnt matter because I am just amazed at how stupid some women can be and not just block a guy It actually matters. Because, at a fundamental level, you seemed to be focusing on the fact of being rejected instead of focusing on the question that mattered: "Do I want to be with this woman?" Focusing on your rejection makes you feel like a victim (this is true for all of us, not just you). Reorienting yourself to assess the woman's behavior and consider whether it appeals to you empowers you again. You can tell yourself, "You know what? She lied when she didn't have to. I don't like that about her. She wouldn't be the right person for me." Then you can shrug off the rejection and move on. Edited November 30, 2020 by Acacia98 2
ThereSheGoes Posted December 1, 2020 Posted December 1, 2020 7 hours ago, IntBrowser said: It was said from a dating coach that the more you talk you remove the excitement and mystery of the 1st meet, Instead I talked for 3 hours about tv shows, food, work when I could have saved all that for the date, So just one 20 min convo and another short convo to confirm meeting plans and that;s it. Not 2 hours on wed, 2 hours on thur and fri which indirectly sent the message,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,"he has no options" Dating coaches are usually wrong about a lot of things. Especially internet dating coaches. Just, my opinion. They make dating seem really analytical, when really, it's probably one of the most emotional experiences you will ever have. Because no matter what you do, how well you present yourself to someone on paper, do all the right things, say all of the right things.....when it comes down to it, if they're just not feeling you, they're not going to choose you no matter what you say or do. I would just take a break from dating and sex until I felt more confident in myself in this situation. So much of your emotions seems dependent on every little thing that other person does or doesn't do, says or doesn't say. Take a step back.....and breathe. I know dating sucks, but you're going to drive yourself in to insanity if you stay on this path. This is NOT healthy. 1
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