GentleBlueEyes Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 (edited) Okay so at work a man who I believe is married made a comment about how he was good in bed (earning the nickname as a demon in the sack), that he had had flings, and that his woman didn't necessarily care (as he essentially put it 'okay with it') per se as long as she knew if you would (there was no mention of an open relationship). It was a random piece of information - out of the utter blue at the end of a good engaging conversation - and not brought up directly again. But there were other times when he indicating interest (e. g. constantly looking over, staring, etc.) and/or trying to earn favor by doing tasks for at work. And then there was a friend of his who informed me that he really, really liked you. I will admit I am attracted (but I've done nothing to encourage him) & were he not married I'd definitely give him a go... But being married is a no-go zone. Work. People hook up all the time at work, as long as there's nothing saying you can't management generally doesn't care. My thing is, is as this behavior all started within a month of knowing one another despite claims of respect, etc., he was quite simply after sex... Or was he after sex to see if worth pursuing a rapport with (there are quite a few similarities between us, will be blunt would be a good match). Edited November 23, 2020 by GentleBlueEyes
Wiseman2 Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 Steer clear of the office wolf Be professional, avoid personal conversations. Date single available men Outside of work.
introverted1 Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 Yes, it is safe to say he is after sex.
SumGuy Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 15 hours ago, GentleBlueEyes said: ... My thing is, is as this behavior all started within a month of knowing one another despite claims of respect, etc., he was quite simply after sex... Or was he after sex to see if worth pursuing a rapport with (there are quite a few similarities between us, will be blunt would be a good match). He is a predator, pretty sleazy in his bragging, and only after sex. After only a month and coming out with the I'm great in bed and she is good with it. you trust this guy? What you call a good match is him mirroring you and wooing you with simple things, that are easily done by anyone. Yes he may have charm and knows how to woo, doesn't mean he isn't a d**che bag. His behavior is textbook, not sure how you don't see this. He is also a fool, as someday he'll meet his counterpart who will sleep with him, or just entice him to send compromising pics, and then hold it over his head. He could easily be set up for a sexual harassment suit because his behavior is sexual harassment....unbidden and out of context conversations about his sexual prowess and ability to cheat are exactly facts (at least where I live in the US) that are presumed to create a hostile work environment. Every reasonable person knows what these statements are meant to convey and imply. 1
GeorgiaPeach1 Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 He's making these comments to test your reaction. He's hoping you're the kind of woman with low self-esteem, who will settle for crumbs. Instead of being offended, you seem flattered by the inappropriate attention. His wife does not deserve that. 1
EvangelineVincent Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 (edited) 16 hours ago, GentleBlueEyes said: Okay so at work a man who I believe is married made a comment about how he was good in bed (earning the nickname as a demon in the sack), that he had had flings, and that his woman didn't necessarily care (as he essentially put it 'okay with it') per se as long as she knew if you would (there was no mention of an open relationship). It was a random piece of information - out of the utter blue at the end of a good engaging conversation - and not brought up directly again. But there were other times when he indicating interest (e. g. constantly looking over, staring, etc.) and/or trying to earn favor by doing tasks for at work. And then there was a friend of his who informed me that he really, really liked you. I will admit I am attracted (but I've done nothing to encourage him) & were he not married I'd definitely give him a go... But being married is a no-go zone. Work. People hook up all the time at work, as long as there's nothing saying you can't management generally doesn't care. My thing is, is as this behavior all started within a month of knowing one another despite claims of respect, etc., he was quite simply after sex... Or was he after sex to see if worth pursuing a rapport with (there are quite a few similarities between us, will be blunt would be a good match). “Were he not married I’d definitely give him a go” Why ? Is a HUGE character flaw that a guy cheats on his wife with no remorse, I can’t think of a worse quality in anyone than being a manipulative liar and a cheat. The only thing worse is maybe a murderer. The only thing this dude is faithful to is his junk between his legs. Respect yourself cause God knows he isn’t going to, not to mention your reputation at work for sleeping with married guys will go around. Not worth it. Oh, and I really hope you didn’t buy the “ my wife isn’t the jealous type, we have an understanding “ crap he fed you. Most women will not be ok with it, he is just saying that so you give him sex and later you won’t tell the wife because you think she’s well aware. Move on, if all you are looking for is meaningless sex, there’s plenty of uncomplicated single guys to have, and if what you want is a man that will love you, respect you, put you first, then keep looking, this scumbag isn’t it. Edited November 24, 2020 by EvangelineVincent 1
smackie9 Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 Yes he's looking for sex....seems your work is a hot spot for such activity. Have att'er
Miss Spider Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 On 11/23/2020 at 5:31 PM, GentleBlueEyes said: Okay so at work a man who I believe is married made a comment about how he was good in bed (earning the nickname as a demon in the sack), that he had had flings, and that his woman didn't necessarily care (as he essentially put it 'okay with it') per se as long as she knew if you would (there was no mention of an open relationship). .... I will admit I am attracted (but I've done nothing to encourage him) Sheesh. How are women attracted to this sort of thing. He sounds like such a tool. Anyway, he sounds very easy game. Go for it , I guess... 3
boymommy Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 (edited) The bigger issue is that despite the office married guy praying on single women you seem to like this and be thinking about him enough to ask this question here. I get it at times I find married men attractive (I am divorced) BUT not because they are married, just because they are cute guys or have nice things to say. But despite that, I automatically stick them in an untouchable box and dont take them out. Who cares if I am attracted? They arent available. Stop analyzing sleezy married guy’s actions. Leave yourself available to think about men who are appropriate! Edited November 25, 2020 by boymommy
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