trident_2020 Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 On 11/22/2020 at 10:30 PM, mortensorchid said: I guess that's all there are out there - Alpha Males aka Bad Boys or Betas. Where is the in between? Most of the good guys are in stable relationships. Makes sense if you think about it.
Author mortensorchid Posted November 24, 2020 Author Posted November 24, 2020 If the guy was interested in me he would have contacted me by now. He was not that into me like a lot of others. And so it is.
Watercolors Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 2 hours ago, mortensorchid said: If the guy was interested in me he would have contacted me by now. He was not that into me like a lot of others. And so it is. But you didn’t even like him. You didn’t like the fact that he is twice divorced with an adult child and a younger child. So what’s the big deal? I’m confused. 2
Miss Spider Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 (edited) Are you ever going to make improvements to your dating strategy, mort? Or are you going to keep throwing darts at the board blindfolded hoping you hit bullseye? Edited November 25, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
trident_2020 Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 7 minutes ago, Watercolors said: But you didn’t even like him. You didn’t like the fact that he is twice divorced with an adult child and a younger child. So what’s the big deal? I’m confused. She didn't say she didn't like him, she expressed some concerns about his history, and said he seemed passive and disinterested and is wondering if she'll hear from him again.
Watercolors Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 3 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: She didn't say she didn't like him, she expressed some concerns about his history, and said he seemed passive and disinterested and is wondering if she'll hear from him again. Oh, well it came across to me that she judged him as being wrong for her, due to his two failed marriages/divorces and the age gap between his two children. Mortenschild you have to ask yourself; what do you want from this guy? He comes with some serious baggage. Is that what you are willing to take on from men you date? Do you want to be a stepmom? Do you want to be with a man who was married twice and divorced twice? Dating because you’re bored is never wise. It just leads to horrible outcomes for everyone involved. Stop dating. Take up a hobby like digital drawing or crocheting instead.
Author mortensorchid Posted November 27, 2020 Author Posted November 27, 2020 On 11/24/2020 at 7:29 PM, Watercolors said: Oh, well it came across to me that she judged him as being wrong for her, due to his two failed marriages/divorces and the age gap between his two children. Mortenschild you have to ask yourself; what do you want from this guy? He comes with some serious baggage. Is that what you are willing to take on from men you date? Do you want to be a stepmom? Do you want to be with a man who was married twice and divorced twice? Dating because you’re bored is never wise. It just leads to horrible outcomes for everyone involved. Stop dating. Take up a hobby like digital drawing or crocheting instead. That is pretty much it like another said - I am throwing darts at a dartboard and hoping to find something / someone. What do I want? I want to find The One. And I'm not finding it with this guy. Agreed he has baggage based on what he told me, and I am willing to work with certain things. But he was not taking the next step which was to contact me again. I've been in this game long enough now to know if you haven't heard from the man in 48 hours after the first get together, you will not hear from him again. He might call or text a few days later, you might have a 2nd get together, but he doesn't really care if you say yes or no to the second get together. Facts. 2
Watercolors Posted November 27, 2020 Posted November 27, 2020 2 hours ago, mortensorchid said: That is pretty much it like another said - I am throwing darts at a dartboard and hoping to find something / someone. What do I want? I want to find The One. And I'm not finding it with this guy. Agreed he has baggage based on what he told me, and I am willing to work with certain things. But he was not taking the next step which was to contact me again. I've been in this game long enough now to know if you haven't heard from the man in 48 hours after the first get together, you will not hear from him again. He might call or text a few days later, you might have a 2nd get together, but he doesn't really care if you say yes or no to the second get together. Facts. Well did you want to take on a guy with two divorces and two children as a boyfriend? It seems like your OP was more like you are bored right now, and his baggage seem like red flags to you. So, really, what have lost with this guy who isn't even a good fit for what you're looking for in a quality boyfriend. I don't think you lost anything with him. Dating during a pandemic isn't easy. I mean, it's a pandemic. That makes in-person dates difficult. 2
Andy_K Posted November 29, 2020 Posted November 29, 2020 So.. he's not that interested in her, but she's mad because she wasn't all that interested in him either? I feel like I could have spent the last 5 minutes of my life more productively. Not for the first time, OP is covering up the pain of rejection by trying to project negative traits onto the guys she dates. This isn't going to go away until some real self-awareness and self-improvement take place. 3 1
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