_lovelycat_ Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 (edited) It is nice to hear that you have a date coming up! Does he know that you are not going to have sex on Friday? If he does, how did he take it? If he doesn't, do you plan to inform him before the date? If you meant that you have been discussing some sex related activities by saying things are steamy between you, he might expect that you would have sex. Some men may get aggressive if you say no in person after the virbal sexual foreplay. It is better if he has a clear understanding that sex is not going to happen on the first date. It is also important to pay attention how he reacts to the news. Some men will respect your position. Others will not. They may start convincing you to change your mind in a playful way and if you do not succumb, you may get hurt. Edited November 25, 2020 by _lovelycat_ 1
_lovelycat_ Posted November 25, 2020 Posted November 25, 2020 One more question ... Are you going to do anything to ensure that nothing is going to happen on the first date? For example, I have a pet that cannot be left alone for more than 6 hours. I usually prefer the first date to last less than 3 hours. Therefore, I leave my house earlier than the date requires so after 3 hours have passed, I have to leave.
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 25, 2020 Author Posted November 25, 2020 1 hour ago, _lovelycat_ said: It is nice to hear that you have a date coming up! Does he know that you are not going to have sex on Friday? If he does, how did he take it? If he doesn't, do you plan to inform him before the date? If you meant that you have been discussing some sex related activities by saying things are steamy between you, he might expect that you would have sex. Some men may get aggressive if you say no in person after the virbal sexual foreplay. It is better if he has a clear understanding that sex is not going to happen on the first date. It is also important to pay attention how he reacts to the news. Some men will respect your position. Others will not. They may start convincing you to change your mind in a playful way and if you do not succumb, you may get hurt. Yes we already discussed that. Because we only have some limited time to be together we decided to not go all the way to the end this time. We are also going to have dinner in a public restaurant. Might kiss if we both feel it but that’s it. Sex in a rush? No thank you. 1
Miss Spider Posted November 26, 2020 Posted November 26, 2020 Oh man, lucky.. I miss the sparks of a first kiss with hot guy . The anticipation. The fireworks. Can’t wait to go back to dating. Have fun!!!
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 26, 2020 Author Posted November 26, 2020 1 hour ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Oh man, lucky.. I miss the sparks of a first kiss with hot guy . The anticipation. The fireworks. Can’t wait to go back to dating. Have fun!!! Oh me too! I want that so badly! Thank you!
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 26, 2020 Author Posted November 26, 2020 (edited) The guy I have been talking to online (in a very sexual open way) and that I am meeting tomorrow surprised me today with something he said. He used to send me good morning texts everyday, and today he didn’t send anything. I noticed he didn’t, but I didn’t think too much of it, or didn’t feel like sending him a message. I was busy and just thought he was busy too and we talk later. Then in the afternoon he sent me a message saying he waited for my good morning message... I was stunned! I asked him if it was now my turn? He said it is always him sending first and it can’t be always him. He was really upset! I said sorry and that yes I agree I can also be the first sending it. To be honest I have been taking all of this with him in the lines of just something casual and fun, but him saying today he was waiting for my message and being upset makes me think he is maybe expecting more out of this? Edited November 26, 2020 by Emilyinroses
Maldives Posted November 27, 2020 Posted November 27, 2020 I feel ya there same here close to going to a brothel haha 1
_lovelycat_ Posted November 27, 2020 Posted November 27, 2020 (edited) Emily, there was a nicer way for the guy to get your good morning text. All he had to do was to say that it would put a smile on his face to see a good morning text from you. Instead, he got upset, withdrew his attention and gave you the silence treatment in the morning. Those are not good signals. Edited November 27, 2020 by _lovelycat_ 1
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 27, 2020 Author Posted November 27, 2020 6 hours ago, _lovelycat_ said: Emily, there was a nicer way for the guy to get your good morning text. All he had to do was to say that it would put a smile on his face to see a good morning text from you. Instead, he got upset, withdrew his attention and gave you the silence treatment in the morning. Those are not good signals. Yes agree. He could have said that in a nice way. I don’t think he gave me the ‘silence treatment’, I think he said nothing expecting for me to say or wanting to see what I would do and was upset I said nothing. Dunno, not sure if it’s a red flag but is an orange one. Casual guys do not act like this.
Wiseman2 Posted November 27, 2020 Posted November 27, 2020 If you want to have sex, stop the overly complicated text chitchat and meet in person.
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 27, 2020 Author Posted November 27, 2020 3 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: If you want to have sex, stop the overly complicated text chitchat and meet in person. We are meeting today. 1
_lovelycat_ Posted November 27, 2020 Posted November 27, 2020 3 hours ago, Emilyinroses said: Yes agree. He could have said that in a nice way. I don’t think he gave me the ‘silence treatment’, I think he said nothing expecting for me to say or wanting to see what I would do and was upset I said nothing. Dunno, not sure if it’s a red flag but is an orange one. Casual guys do not act like this. I agree it is an orange flag, rather than a red one. Good luck with your date. I hope he will be as hot in the reality as he is online. Is he the same guy who lives far away from you? 1
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 27, 2020 Author Posted November 27, 2020 55 minutes ago, _lovelycat_ said: I agree it is an orange flag, rather than a red one. Good luck with your date. I hope he will be as hot in the reality as he is online. Is he the same guy who lives far away from you? Yes it is the same guy who lives far away from me. We are meeting in a location half way to have dinner. We agreed to just be honest with each other during dinner if both or one of us is not attracted to the other, so there’s no awkward situation between us or having to lie to leave or anything. But yes I hope he is as hot in person! 1
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 28, 2020 Author Posted November 28, 2020 (edited) Hi guys, just want to tell you how it went. We had a nice dinner and yes he was as hot in person. The energy between us was pretty much the same as online. After dinner we had a steamy session in the car lol didn’t go all the way to the end as we were a bit afraid of someone appearing outside, but we did a lot and it was really good! So maybe next time we meet we’ll go all the way. Edited November 28, 2020 by Emilyinroses 1
Miss Spider Posted November 28, 2020 Posted November 28, 2020 Haha dang. In the car, huh? He needs tinted windows. Anyway, sounds like a great date. Glad you had fun. Keep us updated
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 29, 2020 Author Posted November 29, 2020 On 11/28/2020 at 9:10 AM, Shortskirtslonglashes said: Haha dang. In the car, huh? He needs tinted windows. Anyway, sounds like a great date. Glad you had fun. Keep us updated Yes it was, but now I’m not sure about seeing him again. We keep texting each other and is all about sex only and to be honest I am a bit fed up of it already. I liked him at the dinner and would like to know him more beyond that but it seems he does not feel the same as all he talks about is sex, and said he wants to meet again for that. I know I said I wanted to have sex, but am now thinking if I do have sex with him I am then gonna miss all the other things I miss in a relationship: the intimacy, the bond, the more emotional connection, etc. And I think is better to be aware of that now than afterwards and get attached to him. So don’t think I am gonna see him again.
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