Miss Spider Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 (edited) My advice would be to find a guy who is very attractive but has a fatal flaw. Something that is absolutely unappealing to you in an emotional sense.That is how I would do it if I were into the sort of thing Edited November 23, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 23, 2020 Author Posted November 23, 2020 1 minute ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: My advice would be to find a guy who is very attractive but has a fatal flaw. Something that is absolutely unappealing to you in an emotional sense.That is how I would do it if I were into the sort of thing Yes of course, agree. I have been talking to a guy online I find super hot and he could be a good candidate for something one off because he has lots of things I don’t like in a life partner: - Lives far away - Is inconsistent in keeping contact - Does not want a relationship Yes I could get attached to him after having sex but the effects of oxytocin last around a week and then puft gone. 2
Miss Spider Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 Just now, Emilyinroses said: Yes of course, agree. I have been talking to a guy online I find super hot and he could be a good candidate for something one off because he has lots of things I don’t like in a life partner: - Lives far away - Is inconsistent in keeping contact - Does not want a relationship Yes I could get attached to him after having sex but the effects of oxytocin last around a week and then puft gone. I feel like he’s a really good candidate. Especially because he lives far away. He’s hot, you’re hot. Go scratch that itch, girl. Get it and get out. 1
Mrin Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I feel like he’s a really good candidate. Especially because he lives far away. He’s hot, you’re hot. Go scratch that itch, girl. Get it and get out. Seems reasonable enough to me. Nothing wrong with this plan. 1
_lovelycat_ Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 (edited) 21 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: My advice would be to find a guy who is very attractive but has a fatal flaw. Something that is absolutely unappealing to you in an emotional sense. Lol. That is an unique perspective. Don't you think it would be easier to find out if a man can treat you well than to find out if he has a fatal flaw? Men tend to hide their flaws. Some of them can do it for years. Edited November 23, 2020 by _lovelycat_
Uruktopi Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 23 hours ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: You can do both. You can find a hot guy that will blow your back out while you keep a look out for mr right. Men will hate me for saying this. I´m a man and I agree with you. Just don´t fall in the trap of choosing "mr right" beacuse any set of attibutes that exclude or minimize to blow her mind even stonger than the ones in the while. That would be sad. 2
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 23, 2020 Author Posted November 23, 2020 (edited) 6 minutes ago, _lovelycat_ said: Lol. That is an unique perspective. Don't you think it would be easier to find out if a man can treat you well than to find out if he has a fatal flaw? Men tend to hide their flaws. Some of them can do it for years. Do not underestimate a woman’s intuition. Even if a woman cannot pinpoint a fatal flaw, she feels something is off if she is awaken and listens to herself. Many women (Insecure, desperate, etc), just ignore their intuition and so some men get away with it. Edited November 23, 2020 by Emilyinroses
_lovelycat_ Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 19 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: Yes I could get attached to him after having sex but the effects of oxytocin last around a week and then puft gone. Remember you have said that you do not like ONS. So I assumed you plan to see the man regularly, on an as convenient basis. If so, you may stuck with him for a while. What about your exs? If you have some exs with whom you separated amicably and they were good in bed, they may do a better job in relieving your tension. 1
Miss Spider Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 (edited) 15 minutes ago, _lovelycat_ said: Lol. That is an unique perspective. Don't you think it would be easier to find out if a man can treat well than to find out if he has a fatal flaw? Men tend to hide their flaws. Some of them can do it for years. Op said she’s having trouble finding a guy she likes that much. Someone might consider someone who lives too far away a fatal flaw Edited November 23, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes
Miss Spider Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 Op said she’s having trouble finding a guy she likes right now
Uruktopi Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: Do not underestimate a woman’s intuition. LOL! Sometimes true Unlike man´s intuition which fails only twelve times over each ten! Edited November 23, 2020 by Uruktopi
Uruktopi Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, _lovelycat_ said: Remember you have said that you do not like ONS. So I assumed you plan to see the man regularly, on an as convenient basis. If so, you may stuck with him for a while. What about your exs? If you have some exs with whom you separated amicably and they were good in bed, they may do a better job in relieving your tension. As an Ex, I object! LOL!
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 23, 2020 Author Posted November 23, 2020 11 minutes ago, _lovelycat_ said: Remember you have said that you do not like ONS. So I assumed you plan to see the man regularly, on an as convenient basis. If so, you may stuck with him for a while. What about your exs? If you have some exs with whom you separated amicably and they were good in bed, they may do a better job in relieving your tension. Honey when you are hungry do you go look for food in the garbage? Or do you buy new food? No way I would revisit the past.
Uruktopi Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 4 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: Honey when you are hungry do you go look for food in the garbage? Or do you buy new food? No way I would revisit the past. Right. Even if what´s one woman´s garbage may also be another woman´s treassure. 1
Mrin Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 13 minutes ago, Uruktopi said: As an Ex, I object! LOL! *grabs popcorn* Ohhhh, this is getting good. Proceed. 1
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 23, 2020 Author Posted November 23, 2020 10 minutes ago, Uruktopi said: Right. Even if what´s one woman´s garbage may also be another woman´s treassure. Of course. I was just using a metaphor to make a point. 1
Uruktopi Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 6 minutes ago, Mrin said: *grabs popcorn* Ohhhh, this is getting good. Proceed. Oh, sorry if it´s just a personal preference instead of an "universal like truth". I woul´d be worried if someone suggested this to one of my Ex´es. LOL!
_lovelycat_ Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 21 minutes ago, Emilyinroses said: Honey when you are hungry do you go look for food in the garbage? Or do you buy new food? No way I would revisit the past. I am not sure if comparing exs to the consumed food in garbage is a good metaphor. To me, exs are like renewable resources. They change, evolve, restore to the previous glory. Actually, if my exs were restaurants, I would recommend them to my single female friends when they are in need to relieve their hunger. That is sad that your exs are that bad that they are unfit to help you with your hunger.
SushiX Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 Life is short. Do what makes you happy. Nothing wrong with whoring it up!
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 24, 2020 Author Posted November 24, 2020 13 hours ago, _lovelycat_ said: I am not sure if comparing exs to the consumed food in garbage is a good metaphor. To me, exs are like renewable resources. They change, evolve, restore to the previous glory. Actually, if my exs were restaurants, I would recommend them to my single female friends when they are in need to relieve their hunger. That is sad that your exs are that bad that they are unfit to help you with your hunger. Well with my last ex the sex was awesomeeeeeee!!! It was really really good so yes I would recommend. But the problem with exes and why I do not revisit them even if only for sex is because there was an emotional connection at the time, so they might want that again and all the past issues come up again too. And if I don’t want that, shyt is gonna hit the fan. So, a new man is better.
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 24, 2020 Author Posted November 24, 2020 18 hours ago, _lovelycat_ said: Then make sure the new man will make a lot of efforts to treat you well before you let him to satisfy your physical urges. I know that waiting is not easy. Nothing that is worthwhile in life is easy. If I just want to have sex with a man do you think I care about his efforts? Not really. Of course I still want someone who treats me well but no efforts are needed because I don’t want anything serious with him.
princessaurora Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 My 3rd sex partner was a fwb. He was very hot, but gym obsessed and not my type personality wise at all. We had just both got out of a relationship and were dtf so we did. He went to college 2 1/2 hours away and we took turns driving to see each other. This lasted about 6 months and it started with once a week to spending every weekend together. We even went out and did stuff as friends but once back home it was on like donkey kong. I have no regrets. He taught me alot about sex as I was still fairly inexperienced. When things fizzled, I got a little emotional, but about a week later I was fine because I knew it was the sex I missed and not him. We never could have worked as a couple, but he helped mold me into the sexual being I am today and I am only thankful for that. Assuming you're a person who's ok with having sex before marriage, I'd say it's one of those experiences everyone should have in their life.
_lovelycat_ Posted November 24, 2020 Posted November 24, 2020 (edited) Emily, it seems like you have made your mind on the strategy to satisfy your sexual cravings. I hope you will keep us updated on how things go for you. I hope your strategy works for you both short term and long term. If it does, we will be here to celebrate your luck; and if it doesn't, we will try to uplift you. All the best to you. Edited November 24, 2020 by _lovelycat_ 1
Author Emilyinroses Posted November 25, 2020 Author Posted November 25, 2020 (edited) 13 hours ago, _lovelycat_ said: Emily, it seems like you have made your mind on the strategy to satisfy your sexual cravings. I hope you will keep us updated on how things go for you. I hope your strategy works for you both short term and long term. If it does, we will be here to celebrate your luck; and if it doesn't, we will try to uplift you. All the best to you. Thank you, that’s so sweet! I have been talking with this guy online and things are pretty steamy between us. This Friday evening we are going to have dinner together but I don’t want anything more to happen because we have a lockdown here from Friday at 11pm and then he can’t go back home past that time. I also do not want to have quick sex ‘bam thank you mam’ style, so we are just going to meet and see how we feel in person. Edited November 25, 2020 by Emilyinroses
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