808Traveler Posted November 22, 2020 Posted November 22, 2020 I usually date 2 to 3 girls at a time. After spending a year doing this I realized other areas of my life were being affected. I decided to focus on one girl at a time and spend the rest of my energy on health, wealth, and friendships. I met a girl and it took two weeks before she gave me her number and another two weeks before we even talked on the phone. When I bring up meeting she doesn’t want to yet and I’m finding patience is working. I’ve decided this long game is working so far, My question is, has anyone else ever experience this and how did it turn out in the end?
Wiseman2 Posted November 22, 2020 Posted November 22, 2020 People who won't meet are red flags . There is either very low interest, someone else in the picture or they're not who they claim to be. People like this may be catfishing, scamming or hiding something. At best, she may just want a texting buddy. 1
schlumpy Posted November 22, 2020 Posted November 22, 2020 It sounds like she other more interesting prospects. You aren't the only one seeing multiple people at the same time.
Author 808Traveler Posted November 22, 2020 Author Posted November 22, 2020 I’ve asked her about this. She is extremely shy. She also explained that she got so comfortable being single that she really wasn’t looking for someone. We finally went from texting to talking on the phone yesterday. The call lasted two hours and I’ve tested her interest levels. So far what I’ve found is by keeping the chase balanced her interest is growing. I’ve also tested to make she is not a scammer. As far as a catfish I’m keeping my fingers crossed and have set a mental boundary of how long I’ll let this go on before walking away if we don’t meet. It’s two weeks from now. My instinct’s are saying she is just extremely shy. I guess we’ll see how this plays out. 1
Miss Spider Posted November 22, 2020 Posted November 22, 2020 (edited) If you must play the long game, play it with someone that will meet with you. Otherwise, unless you don’t care if you ever meet, you could be wasting your time with the ‘never’ game Edited November 22, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 2
Author 808Traveler Posted November 23, 2020 Author Posted November 23, 2020 Well you guys called it. I got attached to quickly and she decided to call it quits. Case closed 1 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 23, 2020 Posted November 23, 2020 Yeah, I was wondering if she was dodging for some other reason. Being "extremely shy" didn't sound too plausible here. My guess is she's been talking to someone else at the same time and decided to go in that direction. Your instinct that this might have been a waste of time was correct, OP. You know you can trust your gut.
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