purplesoccer34 Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Have you ever dated someone who is not really your type, and how did that feel at first? I've just started dating someone who I was so sure from the very first date that he wasn't my type at all. We had totally different interests, I noticed that he had a lot of strange quirks and habits... yet I found that I was attracted to him. Physically, mentally, everything. I just have so much fun with him, and now I'm suddenly interested in a lot of the things that he's interested in, and have tried out of a few of his hobbies. He's just so interesting and has so much to talk about. It's still very early on however, so I'm still trying to figure out my feelings. A part of me still isn't fully convinced that I actually like him, and I'm kind of afraid to jump into a relationship with him. I don't really know what that would be like. He's very...different from everyone else that I know and have been with in the past. Is this what it feels like when you date someone who is different from your usual "type?" The last guy that I dated was my type in almost every way, or so I thought. He was everything that I thought I wanted, but something was always missing. I don't know why, but I never really had fun with him. Am I just that bad at assessing what I really want in a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
ThereSheGoes Posted November 21, 2020 Share Posted November 21, 2020 Of course. I date guys who are 'not my type' all the time. Sometimes it works, I end up really liking them. Other times.....complete fail. But I don't limit myself to just a 'type' because you can miss out on something really amazing. Dating is a buffet, not a made to order. 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 (edited) Are you on the rebound? Typecasting is usually comparing the ex to new dates. You may not be ready to accept others for who they are yet. If you can let go of the past, you'll be able to let go of the confusion. Edited November 22, 2020 by Wiseman2 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 13 hours ago, ThereSheGoes said: Of course. I date guys who are 'not my type' all the time. Sometimes it works, I end up really liking them. Other times.....complete fail. But I don't limit myself to just a 'type' because you can miss out on something really amazing. Dating is a buffet, not a made to order. Agree with this. I think it’s okay to be different as long as you share core values 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 I don't buy into this "type" thing. I've dated many different guys who have very different interests, personalities, whatever. I don't think I have a "type", I've always taken each person as an individual. If you like this guy then just see where it goes and don't try to "categorize him" into a "type". 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 I don't put any stock in 'types' as my type has changed dramatically over the years. When I was young, it was the blonde surfer with broad shoulders and slim hips. Nearly 40 years later, it's closer to Dev Patel. And I've never dated anyone who looked remotely like either Hubby certainly doesn't look like either and I love him to bits. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 I tried a few times....nah not for me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Spider Posted November 22, 2020 Share Posted November 22, 2020 When has been happened for me, I wasn’t on a date with them and thinking “they are not my type“. I’ve never went from feeling that to having it change later. But there have been times I notice a guy and think “d*mn, he’s not my usual type. But d*mn.” Link to post Share on other sites
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