Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, cleverusername said: This isn’t a “flaw”. You’re asking for advice, but being dishonest isn’t the way to go about it, and that’s not me saying it that’s your own words. Self admitting you’ve exaggerated multiple times, and continuing to do it in this thread is neither healthy nor productive. Not giving the full story and changing the story is not productive. So are you looking for affirmation of only what you want to hear? Or advice based on your self-admitted half stories and exaggerations? Everything ive said here is the truth. If you misunderstand and try your hardest to misinterpret everything i say. That's on you. Not me. . Havent seen anyone else have such a hard time to understand what im trying to say. Just you. Edited January 13, 2021 by a LoveShack.org Moderator civility 1
basil67 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 hour ago, peach302 said: The negativity in this thread is kind of putting me off contacting him now Indeed. The majority of people are trying to persuade you out of contacting him for various reasons. My own reasons to persuade you out of it are 1. respecting his boundaries 2. you have many bad things to say about him, including that he thinks you're an attention seeker and you wish you had left him blocked. 3. I want to see you avoid being hurt, and to see you move on, learn from this and have a fresh start with a new person when COVID is over. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 20 minutes ago, basil67 said: Indeed. The majority of people are trying to persuade you out of contacting him for various reasons. My own reasons to persuade you out of it are 1. respecting his boundaries 2. you have many bad things to say about him, including that he thinks you're an attention seeker and you wish you had left him blocked. 3. I want to see you avoid being hurt, and to see you move on, learn from this and have a fresh start with a new person when COVID is over. Fair enough. I'll think about it. Although sometimes my curiosity wins.
basil67 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 28 minutes ago, peach302 said: Although sometimes my curiosity wins. Curiosity killed the cat 1
poppyfields Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 6 hours ago, basil67 said: 3. I want to see you avoid being hurt, and to see you move on, learn from this and have a fresh start with a new person when COVID is over. Another good point from basil. I don't want to see you hurt either. If you weren't so invested in the outcome , I'd advise go for it, take the risk, nothing to lose. But since you are, and he did shut that door after all, the risk for getting hurt is higher. I dunno, I'm not risk averse, so I might do it regardless knowing I'd be ok no matter what. But it's your call peach. Envision how you might feel if he shot you down, or was cold, told you he was busy and would call you back (assuming he answers the phone) but didn't. Would you be OK if that happened? A phone call (versus text) is pretty risky. Think about it, again 100% your call. 1
Azincourt Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 6 months of no contact and you expect to be taken seriously by this guy? Many years ago, a woman I was interested in having sex with me, stopped contacting me. 7 months had passed when she decides to randomly blow up my phone. Do you know what I said when I figured out it was she who was calling me(unknown number) and took the call? '''so, are you desperate enough to spend the night witth me, or are you looking for a free meal?'' Never before did I get a call terminated on me as fast as that one. Just like it happened with me, this guy is not going to take you seriously. Move on and meet other men. This woman is someone I actually met in person and spent time with. You really do believe this guy is going to be wasting his time after he was lead on, ignored, and put on hold for 6 months when he has never even met you in real life? 1
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 8 hours ago, basil67 said: Curiosity killed the cat It really didn't. That's just something people say to other people when they don't want them to be curious about something. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) U want me to call him. But others are warning me against doing so for whatever reason . But i gotta say he's got the upper hand and power at the minute for the first time everrrr. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 Just now, peach302 said: U want me to call him. But others are warning me against doing so for whatever reason . Yes but only for my own selfish and self serving interests. I want to see how this plays out. 1 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 39 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: Yes but only for my own selfish and self serving interests. I want to see how this plays out. I knew it lol. O thanks mate. Doesnt matter if he cuts me off for the second time lol if he does though i may swear at him since i would have nothing to lose no more Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Azincourt said: 6 months of no contact and you expect to be taken seriously by this guy? Many years ago, a woman I was interested in having sex with me, stopped contacting me. 7 months had passed when she decides to randomly blow up my phone. Do you know what I said when I figured out it was she who was calling me(unknown number) and took the call? '''so, are you desperate enough to spend the night witth me, or are you looking for a free meal?'' Never before did I get a call terminated on me as fast as that one. Just like it happened with me, this guy is not going to take you seriously. Move on and meet other men. This woman is someone I actually met in person and spent time with. You really do believe this guy is going to be wasting his time after he was lead on, ignored, and put on hold for 6 months when he has never even met you in real life? Everyone deserves a second chance.. I've heard of plenty of people getting those chances and things working out for the better. All he has to do is agree to it. Also with a pandemic in the mix and us not being able to meet it didnt/doesnt help matters either. I tried my best to convey im serious this time and that i rejected sooo many guys in between before i reached out. Hence he kept asking repeatedly why me and not them...as in why did i not like them and why am i interested in him. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 25 minutes ago, peach302 said: Everyone deserves a second chance.. I've heard of plenty of people getting those chances and things working out for the better. All he has to do is agree to it. Also with a pandemic in the mix and us not being able to meet it didnt/doesnt help matters either. I tried my best to convey im serious this time and that i rejected sooo many guys in between before i reached out. Hence he kept asking repeatedly why me and not them...as in why did i not like them and why am i interested in him. Why do you deserve a second chance? You just said you’re going to swear at him if he doesn’t take you back. It doesn’t sound like you learned anything. Edited January 13, 2021 by cleverusername 2 1
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 hour ago, peach302 said: I knew it lol. O thanks mate. Doesnt matter if he cuts me off for the second time lol if he does though i may swear at him since i would have nothing to lose no more If you don't show boobage he's going to hang right up on you if he even answers in the first place. 1 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 2 hours ago, trident_2020 said: Yes but only for my own selfish and self serving interests. I want to see how this plays out. Wait..... Did you text this from the toilet? There is a 75% chance.
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 I don't know about you @Wiseman2but I don't spend 75% of my time on the bowl. 1 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, cleverusername said: Why do you deserve a second chance? You just said you’re going to swear at him if he doesn’t take you back. It doesn’t sound like you learned anything. Because i do? ...its not like i was off out with multiple men and he's my last resort. Its just i couldnt meet him and he doesn't want a "texting buddy". So what else was i supposed to do..i thought i would contact him further down the line. And meanwhile i was getting go know people who aren't as stubborn and close minded as him and are able to do the long game or message/call during a pandemic. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 1 hour ago, trident_2020 said: If you don't show boobage he's going to hang right up on you if he even answers in the first place. Oh ffs. . He better answer
basil67 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 hour ago, peach302 said: stubborn and close minded as him And another insult flung his way. Why oh why do you want to meet this guy who you apparently think is a horrible person? 2 1
basil67 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 3 hours ago, peach302 said: Everyone deserves a second chance Entitled thinking right there ^ Truth is, nobody is owed anything in life. 2 1 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 7 minutes ago, basil67 said: Entitled thinking right there ^ Truth is, nobody is owed anything in life. He actually called me entitled once too. Once i blocked him and came back he said he deleted my number. And i was like why...and he said what makes you so entitled. I.e why would i keep your number after u blocked me
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 12 minutes ago, basil67 said: And another insult flung his way. Why oh why do you want to meet this guy who you apparently think is a horrible person? Because attraction doesn't make any sense sometimes. It just happens
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 9 minutes ago, peach302 said: He actually called me entitled once too. Once i blocked him and came back he said he deleted my number. And i was like why...and he said what makes you so entitled. I.e why would i keep your number after u blocked me Name 3 things you like about this guy besides his looks. 1 1
basil67 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 hour ago, peach302 said: He actually called me entitled once too It really sounds like he has little respect for you.
basil67 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 hour ago, peach302 said: Because attraction doesn't make any sense sometimes. It just happens You need more than attraction to make a relationship work. An intellectual connection, respect, shared sense of humour and easy understanding of the other one is also crucial. I suspect the two of you don't have much of those essentials. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 14, 2021 Author Posted January 14, 2021 2 hours ago, basil67 said: You need more than attraction to make a relationship work. An intellectual connection, respect, shared sense of humour and easy understanding of the other one is also crucial. I suspect the two of you don't have much of those essentials. Very true
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