Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 5 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: Makes sense. Just remember to make it all about him. Consider being prepared to video chat and get yourself all dolled up for him. 2.5" of cleavage would be about right. Depending on cup size of course. im not having a video chat the first time i call him after he in other words told me its overrr ...how weird would that be lol Provided it goes well then maybe ill have one after that. Or he may tell me to f off. So we'll see. And you men are all the same . Ok noted its all about him. That's why im waiting a while till my anger n other such feelings subside. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302 1
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 Just now, basil67 said: Why do you put more importance on your own needs than his? Most people put their own needs first. Except maybe when it comes to our children. I know I do. 1
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 minute ago, peach302 said: im not having a video chat the first time i call him after he in other words told me its overrr ...how weird would that be lol Provided it goes well then maybe ill have one after that. Or he may tell me to f off. So we'll see. And you men are all the same We ARE all the same which is why I made that suggestion. Give him what he wants right out of the gate and add some icing, if you know what I mean.
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 5 minutes ago, basil67 said: When he kept calling you, had you told him that you never want to hear from him again? If so, he was disrespecting your boundaries. Two wrongs don't make a right. Still though, like it or not, you are disrespecting his boundaries. Why do you put more importance on your own needs than his? Because he's a guy and one phonecall won't kill him. He puts his needs above mine too. Hence the callous cut off. I didnt tell him i never want to hear from him again ..but a block pretty much equates to that. In hindsight i should have kept him blocked. Wish i did Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
Minneloa Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 7 minutes ago, peach302 said: Because he's a guy and one phonecall won't kill him. He puts his needs above mine too. Hence the callous cut off. I didnt tell him i never want to hear from him again ..but a block pretty much equates to that. In hindsight i should have kept him blocked. Wish i did Wait, if you wish you had kept him blocked, why not let this end here?
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 9 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: We ARE all the same which is why I made that suggestion. Give him what he wants right out of the gate and add some icing, if you know what I mean. LOL. I think youre right 2bh The longest conversation we ever had was him asking me about my "experiences" with other guys if you catch my drift . 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 2 minutes ago, Minneloa said: Wait, if you wish you had kept him blocked, why not let this end here? Good point. But i just want clarity..once i get it...i shall see... I'll be able to hear how he really feels on the phone.
trident_2020 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 5 minutes ago, peach302 said: LOL. I think youre right 2bh The longest conversation we ever had was him asking me about my "experiences" with other guys if you catch my drift . Not too difficult to figure out this guy's priorities.
Alpacalia Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 3 minutes ago, peach302 said: LOL. I think youre right 2bh The longest conversation we ever had was him asking me about my "experiences" with other guys if you catch my drift . Do you not find it off-putting that a man you are interested in asked you a very personal question about your sexual experiences with other men before you have even had a first date?
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 3 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: Not too difficult to figure out this guy's priorities. I know. . Interesting .
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Do you not find it off-putting that a man you are interested in asked you a very personal question about your sexual experiences with other men before you have even had a first date? To be honest hes not been the only one. Its almost normal for me to get that from a man. However unlike the others he hasnt been explicit in his words. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302 1
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 I feel like you’re feeding off the attention. The attention from here, asking the same questions over and over and attention from the guy, leading him on and dragging this out. You admitted multiple times you know he doesn’t want to hear from you. 2 1
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 4 minutes ago, cleverusername said: I feel like you’re feeding off the attention. The attention from here, asking the same questions over and over and attention from the guy, leading him on and dragging this out. You admitted multiple times you know he doesn’t want to hear from you. No wrong. Its never good to assume. Well you basically assumed the exact same thing as him. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, peach302 said: No wrong. Its never good to assume. Well you basically assumed the exact same thing as him. Did that hit a nerve with you? You just grouped me in with him and sound quite hostile toward us both after that.... maybe you should explore that thought deeper. You just admitted again, negativity directed at this guy, so why again do you want to contact him? Edited January 13, 2021 by cleverusername
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, cleverusername said: Did that hit a nerve with you? You just grouped me in with him and sound quite hostile.... maybe you should explore that thought deeper. You just admitted again, negativity directed at this guy, so why again do you want to contact him? Again youre wrong. Theres no hostility coming from me. Can't quite say the same for you unfortunately . The negativity in this thread is kind of putting me off contacting him now But people do project a lot on these threads Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 22 minutes ago, peach302 said: Again youre wrong. Theres no hostility coming from me. Can't quite say the same for you unfortunately . The negativity in this thread is kind of putting me off contacting him now But people do project a lot on these threads See what you’re doing? You’re manipulating. Trying to manipulate this thread just like you have been trying to manipulate this guy. Its putting you off contacting him now? Less than an hour ago you were positive you wanted to contact him. Before that you were positive he didn’t want to hear from you. Don’t manipulate the narrative to fit your agenda. You’ve asked the same questions over and over. You’ve disregarded advice and answers over and over. Why ask questions if you aren’t going to listen to the answers? You’re avoiding finality and closure in all aspects of your life right now. With him, with advice here.....you’re doing everything you can still stay in the spotlight. That’s not a healthy behavior. All your exaggerations are not healthy either. I strongly urge you to consider a therapist if all the thoughts you’re expressing here are genuine. I say that with nothing but kindness and successful wishes for you in my heart. Edited January 13, 2021 by cleverusername 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 49 minutes ago, peach302 said: The longest conversation we ever had was him asking me about my "experiences" with other guys if you catch my drift . Definitely a red flag for a toilet texter. Just wants to hear stuff while he's doing his business rather than engaging in more involved conversations.
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Definitely a red flag for a toilet texter. Just wants to hear stuff while he's doing his business rather than engaging in more involved conversations. It wss on the phone lol. It wasnt quite as bad as thatm maybe i exaggerated a little
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 15 minutes ago, cleverusername said: See what you’re doing? You’re manipulating. Trying to manipulate this thread just like you have been trying to manipulate this guy. Its putting you off contacting him now? Less than an hour ago you were positive you wanted to contact him. Before that you were positive he didn’t want to hear from you. Don’t manipulate the narrative to fit your agenda. You’ve asked the same questions over and over. You’ve disregarded advice and answers over and over. Why ask questions if you aren’t going to listen to the answers? You’re avoiding finality and closure in all aspects of your life right now. With him, with advice here.....you’re doing everything you can still stay in the spotlight. That’s not a healthy behavior. I strongly urge you to consider a therapist if all the thoughts you’re expressing here are genuine. I say that with nothing but kindness and successful wishes for you in my heart. no im not. Again projection? . And i didnt once manipulate this guy. Not even once. He probably manipulated me though a few times. If you have nothing of actual accuracy or validity to say and i'm telling you you've got the wrong end of the stick. Would you please kindly refrain from writing any more on this thread. THANKS. Edited January 13, 2021 by peach302
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 (edited) 16 minutes ago, peach302 said: no im not. Again projection? . And i didnt once manipulate this guy. Not even once. He probably manipulated me though a few times. If you have nothing of actual accuracy or validity to say and i'm telling you you've got the wrong end of the stick. Would you please kindly refrain from writing any more on this thread. THANKS. Myself and everyone here would love to provide you responses of accuracy and validity, but in order to do that every quote of yours can’t end with “I exaggerated” It makes this very difficult. This story has changed so many times that it doesn’t even make sense anymore. Two threads and almost 40 pages later, it’s time to cut to the chase. Edited January 13, 2021 by cleverusername
Alpacalia Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 58 minutes ago, peach302 said: To be honest hes not been the only one. Its almost normal for me to get that from a man. However unlike the others he hasnt been explicit in his words. Well I know sometimes some men can be a bit clueless with their comments. Once someone queried a sexually explicit question so I sent him right to the toilet-roo-ski. 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 Just now, Alpaca said: I sent him right to the toilet-roo-ski. Agree. Flush this guy! 2
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 1 minute ago, Alpaca said: Well I know sometimes some men can be a bit clueless with their comments. Once someone queried a sexually explicit question so I sent him right to the toilet-roo-ski. Lol good on you! And very true they can be clueless in all manner of things too as is demonstrated by this thread lol.
Author peach302 Posted January 13, 2021 Author Posted January 13, 2021 7 minutes ago, cleverusername said: Myself and everyone here would love to provide you responses of accuracy and validity, but in order to do that every quote of yours can’t end with “I exaggerated” It makes this very difficult. Two threads and almost 40 pages later, it’s time to cut to the chase. But not every quote does.. does it? Ok this isn't really helpful atm...you pointing out my so called "flaws". Therefore i will simply not respond to you anymore.
cleverusername Posted January 13, 2021 Posted January 13, 2021 1 minute ago, peach302 said: But not every quote does.. does it? Ok this isn't really helpful atm...you pointing out my so called "flaws". Therefore i will simply not respond to you anymore. This isn’t a “flaw”. You’re asking for advice, but being dishonest isn’t the way to go about it, and that’s not me saying it that’s your own words. Self admitting you’ve exaggerated multiple times, and continuing to do it in this thread is neither healthy nor productive. Not giving the full story and changing the story is not productive. So are you looking for affirmation of only what you want to hear? Or advice based on your self-admitted half stories and exaggerations?
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