Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 17 minutes ago, Shortskirtslonglashes said: I don’t think it really works like that though. A guy you find less attractive may find you less attractive than a guy that you think is more attractive. Everyone has preferences And yes, with that example in his pics you can clearly see how one picture can be very misleading. He may not even know himself how misleading it is. If he had only shown that last picture and made all the rest of his pics blurred we might not even be having the convo. Yes he may be cat fishing. You guys haven’t met and that is why it’s best to not invest too much thought on people you haven’t met True because even unattractive people ( in my eyes) aim high and chase after attractive people ( in their eyes). Yes exactly. To be honest if i saw that one pic of his i would not have matched with him 100%. I think he knows its his less attractive pic because when i asked for a pic of his on WhatsApp he didnt send me that particular one even though i saw he had put it up on his profile. I guess he wanted to impress me
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 21 minutes ago, chillii said: Well , in that case , you could just bloody call him, one last try, and put it to bed one way or other. But explain things , don't be a cagey idiot. Loool ok ill try not to b a cagey idiot. People always make comments like you're a good looking girl why are you so reserved and shy and awkward. Its like because they think I'm attractive i have to be a certain waym no wonder this guy just takes it as disinterest on my part or playing games. But he doesnt know me well enough to know its just my personality
trident_2020 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 Since you've decided to contact him, might as well do it sooner rather than later, before he meets someone new and you lose him completely also because I'm curious what he's going to say. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 18 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Something I've learned through all my trials and tribulations over the years, things are often not what they appear to be. What it appears to be now is a man not interested when it could possibly be the exact opposite. Just sayin. On line is f'*cked, period. Mixed messages, miscommunications, anxieties wondering if the person is "real," toss in the stress from covid, you can't meet and connect the way you want, it's insane! My advice peach? Let it go for now. Once Covid is over, reach out, stop the dilly dallying around on line, or phone and suggest to MEET. You have zero to lose, literally. Unless you want to walk around for the rest of your life wondering "what if." None of us are mind readers, including us, him, you.. Thanks poppy. In the meantime he'll be chirpsing some other birds. .
cleverusername Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 4 minutes ago, peach302 said: Loool ok ill try not to b a cagey idiot. People always make comments like you're a good looking girl why are you so reserved and shy and awkward. Its like because they think I'm attractive i have to be a certain waym no wonder this guy just takes it as disinterest on my part or playing games. But he doesnt know me well enough to know its just my personality Ok since you’re going to call him anyway and nothing anybody can say in 38 pages will change that, just do it. Call him right this minute, before he matches someone else. But the rules are, whatever happens is final. You call him, you come back and tell us what happened. 2
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 2 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: Since you've decided to contact him, might as well do it sooner rather than later, before he meets someone new and you lose him completely also because I'm curious what he's going to say. so you want me to contact him for your curiosity . But you're right though his intention is definitely to go through the others on the app now that im out the way so maybe its best to contact sooner. I just wanted to leave it a couple of weeks be cause things are a bit raw atm in the sense he might be pissed off/annoyed or just generally have unpleasant thoughts about me so i didnt want to do it right now this very second.
chillii Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 8 minutes ago, peach302 said: Loool ok ill try not to b a cagey idiot. People always make comments like you're a good looking girl why are you so reserved and shy and awkward. Its like because they think I'm attractive i have to be a certain waym no wonder this guy just takes it as disinterest on my part or playing games. But he doesnt know me well enough to know its just my personality Ahhh no worries peachy l'm getting the picture. lt's not easy at the best of times don't worry , no matter what the front people put up . Anyway , his lucky to have you coming up with a plan for him so l really hope he gets the chance and appreciates it. And then , you might be able to relax too. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 (edited) 8 minutes ago, cleverusername said: Ok since you’re going to call him anyway and nothing anybody can say in 38 pages will change that, just do it. Call him right this minute, before he matches someone else. But the rules are, whatever happens is final. You call him, you come back and tell us what happened. Omg not right now. Firstly because its 2am here and second because i want him to think ive gone for good like he wanted ...and also if i want a non disastrous outcome i need a plan. Any ideas? Edited January 11, 2021 by peach302
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 2 minutes ago, chillii said: Ahhh no worries peachy l'm getting the picture. lt's not easy at the best of times don't worry , no matter what the front people put up . Anyway , his lucky to have you coming up with a plan for him so l really hope he gets the chance and appreciates it. And then , you might be able to relax too. Thanks bro 1
cleverusername Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 (edited) 7 minutes ago, peach302 said: i want him to think ive gone for good like he wanted So you just admitted he wanted you gone for good. You admitted you KNOW he doesn’t want you to contact him. You just admitted to everyone here and yourself you know it’s over. So, why would you contact him, if you know he wants you gone for good? To get on his nerves? Because that’s not a healthy behavior. The jigs up, you’re caught. Edited January 11, 2021 by cleverusername 4 1
trident_2020 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 10 minutes ago, peach302 said: i need a plan. Any ideas? Tell him you're ready to videochat and he won't be disappointed at what he sees. 1
poppyfields Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 (edited) 26 minutes ago, peach302 said: In the meantime he'll be chirpsing some other birds. . You should too. Or the UK male equivalent. Don't push it, wait till covid is over and you can meet properly.. Edited January 11, 2021 by poppyfields 1
poppyfields Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 (edited) Ego and pride. A romantic connection's worst enemies.. Edited January 11, 2021 by poppyfields 1
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 14 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Ego and pride. A romantic connection's worst enemies.. Oh 100%. I need to get more into my female energy more and actually like a woman instead of acting nonchalant all the time
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 23 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: Tell him you're ready to videochat and he won't be disappointed at what he sees. The dreaded video chat
trident_2020 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 You know the definition of insanity. Doing the same thing the same way over and over yet expecting different results. Get out of your comfort zone. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 30 minutes ago, cleverusername said: So you just admitted he wanted you gone for good. You admitted you KNOW he doesn’t want you to contact him. You just admitted to everyone here and yourself you know it’s over. So, why would you contact him, if you know he wants you gone for good? To get on his nerves? Because that’s not a healthy behavior. The jigs up, you’re caught. Nooooooooo of course he never said those words. Those are my own words..i exaggerated a little bit. And this is exactly the problem with messaging..can you imagine how many misunderstandings we have had over texts What i meant was i want him to think im over it and have gone... give him time in between. Its never a good idea to call someone soon after they exit.
trident_2020 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 1 minute ago, peach302 said: Its never a good idea to call someone soon after they exit. You'd know for sure. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 1 minute ago, trident_2020 said: You know the definition of insanity. Doing the same thing the same way over and over yet expecting different results. Get out of your comfort zone. I know. First i may ask him why he decided to go unmatch on the app. What prompted him to do so...n then start explaining all the catfishing rubbish
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 Just now, trident_2020 said: You'd know for sure. No but i mean right now he won't be happy with me..later on say a couple of weeks time ..hypothetically his feelings may have changed and he may be regretting it you just never know ! Or not of course. But currently i dont think his frame of mind will be any different
trident_2020 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 I meant you'd know for sure from your past experiences. 1
cleverusername Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 (edited) 6 minutes ago, peach302 said: Nooooooooo of course he never said those words. Those are my own words..i exaggerated a little bit. And this is exactly the problem with messaging..can you imagine how many misunderstandings we have had over texts What i meant was i want him to think im over it and have gone... give him time in between. Its never a good idea to call someone soon after they exit. I thought you had great insight? What do you mean misunderstanding? You were bragging here about how great your “insight” is, that you know exactly what was best. Now you’re not sure? Nobody put those words in your mouth, you did. Meaning either your “insight” isn’t as good as you say it is or your insight is spot on and you are in denial that this “thing” is over. So you need to pick one. Which is it? You’re contradicting yourself. Edited January 11, 2021 by cleverusername 1
trident_2020 Posted January 11, 2021 Posted January 11, 2021 3 minutes ago, peach302 said: I know. First i may ask him why he decided to go unmatch on the app. What prompted him to do so...n then start explaining all the catfishing rubbish A winning strategy for sure. Bombard him with confrontational questions and accusations he'll come running right back to you apologizing for his numerous transgressions and plead for a second chance. 2 1
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 2 minutes ago, trident_2020 said: A winning strategy for sure. Bombard him with confrontational questions and accusations he'll come running right back to you apologizing for his numerous transgressions and plead for a second chance. Why do guys think asking a question is confrontational its just for my own info.
Author peach302 Posted January 11, 2021 Author Posted January 11, 2021 5 minutes ago, cleverusername said: I thought you had great insight? What do you mean misunderstanding? You were bragging here about how great your “insight” is, that you know exactly what was best. Now you’re not sure? Nobody put those words in your mouth, you did. Meaning either your “insight” isn’t as good as you say it is or your insight is spot on and you are in denial that this “thing” is over. So you need to pick one. Which is it? You’re contradicting yourself. I chose the wrong words ok in error. Im not certain on it being over for good. But i have to do it right this time.
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