poppyfields Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 12 minutes ago, cleverusername said: You can take a selfie of you standing outside your local coffee spot and say ”can’t wait to take you here” or something so he can get excited. That's so cute. 1 1
Author peach302 Posted January 7, 2021 Author Posted January 7, 2021 2 minutes ago, poppyfields said: That's so cute. Cute but so not me
poppyfields Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 (edited) 7 minutes ago, peach302 said: Cute but so not me That's fine. What IS you? >>I was thinking id send him a pic of just the plain wall behind me which is in some of my pics Sorry, but yawn. lol It's good to be creative. Give him a sense of who you are behind the pretty face since you're unable to through your words. Edited January 7, 2021 by poppyfields 1 1
cleverusername Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 (edited) 13 minutes ago, poppyfields said: That's so cute. I have a copyright on that one so don’t go reselling it online. Remember, “The unauthorized reproduction or distribution of a copyrighted work is illegal.” -FBI Edited January 7, 2021 by cleverusername 1 1
Author peach302 Posted January 7, 2021 Author Posted January 7, 2021 33 minutes ago, poppyfields said: That's fine. What IS you? >>I was thinking id send him a pic of just the plain wall behind me which is in some of my pics Sorry, but yawn. lol It's good to be creative. Give him a sense of who you are behind the pretty face since you're unable to through your words. Yeah that wasnt me trying to be creativee just to show im real lol. Im actually a really interesting person though believe it or not i guess it just doesnt come through to potentials due to my inability to express myself. It those who have known me for years who know
cleverusername Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 9 minutes ago, peach302 said: Yeah that wasnt me trying to be creativee just to show im real lol. Im actually a really interesting person though believe it or not i guess it just doesnt come through to potentials due to my inability to express myself. It those who have known me for years who know You’re literally asking this guy to assume all the risk in this. You gotta meet him halfway somewhere
Author peach302 Posted January 7, 2021 Author Posted January 7, 2021 (edited) 7 minutes ago, cleverusername said: You’re literally asking this guy to assume all the risk in this. You gotta meet him halfway somewhere I guess. But the way i see it is everything is on his terms or that's it lol not even halfway or compromise Edited January 7, 2021 by peach302
poppyfields Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 Off topic, but your new avatar is VERY cute! Got me thinking, I have at home two porcelain lovebirds kissing, I might take a pic and upload. Or find a cute pic of same on line. I think my poppies are beginning to die. 1
Alpacalia Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 3 hours ago, poppyfields said: peach, there is nothing wrong or bad about chatting, communicating, connecting on line. It doesn't have to be in romantic sense even though there might be some interest there. If there is, play the long game until such time you can meet. Have fun with it. Communicate, connect. In whatever way you want, whatever is comfortable. Detach from any outcome and simply enjoy. Be real with each other. Don't play games. I agree with this. But I would also add that if he isn't being responsive there's not much you can do to get him to stay in contact with you. He simply may not be interested in maintaining a "pen pal" relationship and you can't really fault him for that. 1
poppyfields Posted January 7, 2021 Posted January 7, 2021 12 minutes ago, Alpaca said: I agree with this. But I would also add that if he isn't being responsive there's not much you can do to get him to stay in contact with you. He simply may not be interested in maintaining a "pen pal" relationship and you can't really fault him for that. True, however he does want to connect, not just through text. He prefers the phone, which peach does not. I dunno, it seems they're at a crossroads, a bit of a power play. Something's gotta give otherwise the entire thing goes POOF. 1 1
Author peach302 Posted January 7, 2021 Author Posted January 7, 2021 2 hours ago, poppyfields said: Off topic, but your new avatar is VERY cute! Got me thinking, I have at home two porcelain lovebirds kissing, I might take a pic and upload. Or find a cute pic of same on line. I think my poppies are beginning to die. Thanks poppy i love milk and mocha their names. Awwwww do it!!! I actually like your poppies. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 7, 2021 Author Posted January 7, 2021 1 hour ago, Alpaca said: I agree with this. But I would also add that if he isn't being responsive there's not much you can do to get him to stay in contact with you. He simply may not be interested in maintaining a "pen pal" relationship and you can't really fault him for that. Whats wrong with a penpal relationship i just dont get it . I guess he would prefer my voice 1
Author peach302 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, poppyfields said: True, however he does want to connect, not just through text. He prefers the phone, which peach does not. I dunno, it seems they're at a crossroads, a bit of a power play. Something's gotta give otherwise the entire thing goes POOF. Omg guess what. So you know i asked him initally what his status is...n he was like single ( fair enough)..and then i said you must be getting to know lots of girls...and he goes to be honest hes been focusing on his fmaily and work..so basically implying hasnt had time for the dating thing. And now our last texts where he asked me if im speaking to anyone. I said there are people who want to get to know me BUT Its not mutual i.e at least i put that in..That its only one way..n then i asked him n he goes People want to get to know me too obviously n i was thinking right earlier he said something different anyway i just found it rude. . The obviously part.as if im stupid for asking. And then he goes what sets me apart from the other guys because i said it wasnt mutual before. So my response was its not that obvious actually with a laughing emoji..and then i asked is there anyone you want to put a ring on (but i said it jokingly). Put in lols and all that. Edited January 8, 2021 by peach302
basil67 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 8 hours ago, peach302 said: What more can i do? Im trying to keep it 100..more than ive ever done before yet somehow im not catching a break.. Jumping in late here. I'm confused by your question of what more you can do. When you say you're trying to keep it at 100, do you mean 100% effort on your part? 1
Author peach302 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, basil67 said: Jumping in late here. I'm confused by your question of what more you can do. When you say you're trying to keep it at 100, do you mean 100% effort on your part? Keep it 100 means keeping it real aka being honest. I've not been as upfront as i was in the mentioned text exchange..like ever before. And still it seems like its not enough..just because i said no to a video chat. But i said id call him. Its just ridiculous. Saying no to a video call shouldn't automatically be correlated with..this person is trying to hide themselves and is fake. But anyway i finally revealed some photos on my profile (on the app we are talking on)..so will be the first time hes seen any photos of me in over half a year.. Edited January 8, 2021 by peach302
Alpacalia Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, peach302 said: Whats wrong with a penpal relationship i just dont get it . I guess he would prefer my voice I didn't mean to imply there was anything wrong with it - it just may not be something he's interested in pursuing and/or maintaining. Edited January 8, 2021 by Alpaca
Author peach302 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 14 minutes ago, Alpaca said: I didn't mean to imply there was anything wrong with it - it just may not be something he's interested in pursuing and/or maintaining. No i know what you meant. Its just i dont get it. Most people i know are fine with texting.. But he did say best to keep it to phonecalls ..amd i literally never call anyone
Alpacalia Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 14 minutes ago, peach302 said: But he did say best to keep it to phonecalls ..amd i literally never call anyone Well, maybe the start of the new year is a great time to set for yourself a little New Year's resolution to call people more (like your friends, family, etc.). 1
Author peach302 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 5 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Well, maybe the start of the new year is a great time to set for yourself a little New Year's resolution to call people more (like your friends, family, etc.). I guess so
basil67 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 3 hours ago, peach302 said: Keep it 100 means keeping it real aka being honest. I've not been as upfront as i was in the mentioned text exchange..like ever before. And still it seems like its not enough..just because i said no to a video chat. But i said id call him. Its just ridiculous. Saying no to a video call shouldn't automatically be correlated with..this person is trying to hide themselves and is fake. But anyway i finally revealed some photos on my profile (on the app we are talking on)..so will be the first time hes seen any photos of me in over half a year.. Thanks for the clarification. From what I read in the text exchange, he was also being very honest with you. The honesty from both of you combined with complete lack of compromise from both sides made the conversation read like "closure". At least you have closure though - it's more than many get. 1
Author peach302 Posted January 8, 2021 Author Posted January 8, 2021 (edited) He keeps asking me why i didn't chose anyone else..because i did say other people want me but its not mutual. ..and he's like why me? I said a couple of thimgs..ome is about how hes a go getter type. Im not about to be like all lovey dovey....or feelings based. Oh he just replied saying i had no idea you knew me that well..quite insightful . Now i dont know wht to say in response to that Edited January 8, 2021 by peach302
basil67 Posted January 8, 2021 Posted January 8, 2021 You don't say anything to that - he made an observation, not a question.
Wiseman2 Posted January 9, 2021 Posted January 9, 2021 It seems like you both enjoy the banter but have no desire to meet or get serious about anything . Maybe that works in Coronatime.?
Author peach302 Posted January 9, 2021 Author Posted January 9, 2021 (edited) 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: It seems like you both enjoy the banter but have no desire to meet or get serious about anything . Maybe that works in Coronatime.? No his ultimate desire is to be serious with someone. But he always assumes im not interested in him like that..for whatever reason. Maybe the texting and the not calling. And if you read back he asked me to meet during the first lockdown and i couldnt since im living with vulnerable family members. (I didnt explain that to him though).. So it fizzled out. N now i decided to reach out again he was commenting on how i disappeared and went off the radar etc. Edited January 9, 2021 by peach302
introverted1 Posted January 9, 2021 Posted January 9, 2021 On 1/7/2021 at 2:15 PM, peach302 said: I feel the same way. That its just awkward and i won't be able to convey myself in the best light and he may take it negatively. I'd rather just meet up in person or take and send photos or speak on the phone So your choices are to video chat and possibly not be seen in the best light (although, if you are as attractive as you keep asserting you are, it's hard to believe even a poor phone camera could do that much damage) OR continue to be seen in the not best light as someone who is evasive, plays games, is possibly a catfish, etc. Either way, you are only damaging your own prospects and the longer this goes on the less likely it is that anyone with a healthy ego will be interested at all.
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