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Ending it gradually. Perspective from those who can't do NC


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On 1/3/2021 at 7:52 PM, Alexa007 said:

DKT3, 6 months... ETA, it's been sexless and over for close to 10 years, though... Married for 20.... Been faithful the entire time even though I wasn't in love (up until the affair last year).  

Also, I will say that finding this forum is what really opened my eyes.  It's crazy how these things all seem to be the same.  

 

 

Your choice though. Why was that?

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16 hours ago, Alexa007 said:Close contact, often alone. 

Affairs are addicting if you get the addict around the source you get relapse. I predict it will continue. Sorry but I think you’re fooling yourself.

We all tend to think our situations are complicated, special.

Your situation is nothing special. They are pretty much all the same. Dime a dozen. You can look at many and it’s the same old story. Very typical except it involves you.

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51 minutes ago, Marc878 said:

Affairs are addicting if you get the addict around the source you get relapse. I predict it will continue. Sorry but I think you’re fooling yourself.

We all tend to think our situations are complicated, special.

Your situation is nothing special. They are pretty much all the same. Dime a dozen. You can look at many and it’s the same old story. Very typical except it involves you.

@Marc878 I agree -a relapse would be highly likely . You’re right we all feel our situation is unique, different -again we’re deluding ourselves .

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IMO this will continue until his wife or your husband finds out. 
 

It’s easy to get into these situations. Hard to get out of.

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1 hour ago, Marc878 said:

IMO this will continue until his wife or your husband finds out. 
 

It’s easy to get into these situations. Hard to get out of.

Yep. Been there done that 😬

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Posted (edited)

Hey guys! I'm the original poster.  I've been on such a roller coaster with MM, I didn't even realize I'd posted nearly the same thing back in November.  My apologies, mods!!! Thank y'all for combining my hot-mess into one thread 😂

Basically, I've got to end it but maintain a friendship/working relationship.  I've failed twice so far.  

This is so toxic.  Bit by bit I'm gathering more and more strength.  I've never told a soul but finally confided in a trusted friend lady night.  She was amazing.  

I wish like crazy there was a way to go NC.  I guess I'll keep y'all updated which will hopefully keep me accountable.  I'm trying to focus on all the lows this relationship brings rather than getting drunk on the highs 👊

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