dogtrain Posted November 10, 2020 Posted November 10, 2020 Hey, We had been talking about moving in together. However, it all had to be on her terms.. I would be leaving all my friends, family and job behind, so she could stay within 1 minute from her best friend and her job. If I was to go live with her, i'd have 1:30 hour to see my friends, and 1 hour back, and 1 hour forth to get to work. My plan is to go to uni next summer, which is 21 miles to the school, and 21 miles back. I've asked her, if we could compromise, so she maybe just would move abit closer to the town/school with me. Only like 10-20 minutes MAX, so she'd still be close to her friends/family, just to save me some time traveling, and petrol costs, and that i'll be some-what closer to my friends as well. No, no, no. She needs to have her friends and family as close as possible. The reason for me breaking up, was because she began complaining about how we don't see each other everyday, and it doesn't feel like a relationship anymore. I straight up told her back, that "it's hard to make it work, when only 1 of us is making the effort"... In the end, I just had enough. Told her, that I simply couldn't be in this anymore, as it just didn't seem fair that I had to sacrifice it all, for the relationship to be on her terms. I did the right thing didn't i...? 4
DKT3 Posted November 10, 2020 Posted November 10, 2020 You did...don't make the mistake so many do by ignoring whats important to you to please someone else. When the right girl comes along the easy things will actually be easy. 1
Author dogtrain Posted November 10, 2020 Author Posted November 10, 2020 Also. Im doing NC. So blocked her on all social media. 2
Wiseman2 Posted November 10, 2020 Posted November 10, 2020 4 minutes ago, dogtrain said: Also. Im doing NC. So blocked her on all social media. Excellent. You're incompatible and living together would have been a nightmare.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 10, 2020 Posted November 10, 2020 2 hours ago, dogtrain said: The reason for me breaking up, was because she began complaining about how we don't see each other everyday, and it doesn't feel like a relationship anymore. I straight up told her back, that "it's hard to make it work, when only 1 of us is making the effort"... Maybe this was her roundabout way of wiggling out of the relationship, without having to pull the plug herself. Sometimes people try to paint their partners into corners (knowing the partner won't go for it) to try to get them to the dirty work and end it. And even if it's not the case? You absolutely made the right decision. You cannot have a healthy relationship without compromise. 1
d0nnivain Posted November 10, 2020 Posted November 10, 2020 It's not a relationship when you are the only one compromising all the time.
dangerous Posted November 14, 2020 Posted November 14, 2020 On 11/10/2020 at 9:01 AM, dogtrain said: Hey, We had been talking about moving in together. However, it all had to be on her terms.. I would be leaving all my friends, family and job behind, so she could stay within 1 minute from her best friend and her job. If I was to go live with her, i'd have 1:30 hour to see my friends, and 1 hour back, and 1 hour forth to get to work. My plan is to go to uni next summer, which is 21 miles to the school, and 21 miles back. I've asked her, if we could compromise, so she maybe just would move abit closer to the town/school with me. Only like 10-20 minutes MAX, so she'd still be close to her friends/family, just to save me some time traveling, and petrol costs, and that i'll be some-what closer to my friends as well. No, no, no. She needs to have her friends and family as close as possible. The reason for me breaking up, was because she began complaining about how we don't see each other everyday, and it doesn't feel like a relationship anymore. I straight up told her back, that "it's hard to make it work, when only 1 of us is making the effort"... In the end, I just had enough. Told her, that I simply couldn't be in this anymore, as it just didn't seem fair that I had to sacrifice it all, for the relationship to be on her terms. I did the right thing didn't i...? Well done for having the strength and wisdom for making this decision, and quickly. I know its a cliche, but you dodged a bullet!
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