faithandfood Posted November 8, 2020 Posted November 8, 2020 So met a guy last month. He was already saying I was woman, but he didn’t take me out or anything. I figured it would be a FWB arrangement bc we had it on the first meet and two more times after that. We talked daily and he was already saying “ily” after like three weeks. Well, I asked him if he wanted just sex so I can not get attached, but he said that he likes me okay cool. So I noted how he kept joking about my weight, like how he doesn’t see any weight on me & how he has bigger thighs than me. Okay... and I recently got betrayed by a best friend, which I vented to him and he was like, “well you can’t control who she talks to, you’re not her mom.” which hurt a bit because never said I was her mom. Bc I was a bit depressed and also on my cycle, I told him he could delete my number and remove me on socials bc he’s eventually gonna hurt me too. He really posted that convo on his Snapchat story (w/o even blurring my name). The caption was like “your doubt is all the assurance you need.” Had to beg him to remove it. He says I’m always doubting him and I should move on if I’m gonna be thinking that. Ever since then, I noted he stopped calling. Doesn’t bring up meeting anymore (when I told him to let me know if he doesn’t want to meet anymore, he said that meeting requires money & he’s broke right now) that had me so confused bc he was so quick to spend money on a hotel room. He said he’s planning to take me out, but didn’t give me a date but rather “very soon”. Anyways. And he’s been posting girls on his story now lmao should I just move on? I stopped texting him since Friday.
Wiseman2 Posted November 8, 2020 Posted November 8, 2020 Well, I think the title of your thread says it all. If he/the situation is becoming more of a headache than it's worth, you've been reflecting on the right things about that.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2020 Posted November 8, 2020 2 hours ago, faithandfood said: should I just move on? Do you really need us to to tell you to do so? Of course, girl. This guy just wants sex from you. Nothing more.
Versacehottie Posted November 8, 2020 Posted November 8, 2020 uh, yeah move on. it's contentious and you two are brand new with each other. The character he displayed with posting your problems publicly is not cool at all and shows little respect. It also seems like you two have a volatile interaction with each other and he already believes that is who you are. And you don't trust him, maybe rightly so. He hasn't done much to remain IN your life whatsoever. This is a no brainer. Good luck 3
Miss Spider Posted November 8, 2020 Posted November 8, 2020 (edited) Yes. Drop him Edited November 8, 2020 by Shortskirtslonglashes 1
beauty0815 Posted November 15, 2020 Posted November 15, 2020 On 11/8/2020 at 8:23 AM, faithandfood said: So met a guy last month. He was already saying I was woman, but he didn’t take me out or anything. I figured it would be a FWB arrangement bc we had it on the first meet and two more times after that. We talked daily and he was already saying “ily” after like three weeks. Well, I asked him if he wanted just sex so I can not get attached, but he said that he likes me okay cool. So I noted how he kept joking about my weight, like how he doesn’t see any weight on me & how he has bigger thighs than me. Okay... and I recently got betrayed by a best friend, which I vented to him and he was like, “well you can’t control who she talks to, you’re not her mom.” which hurt a bit because never said I was her mom. Bc I was a bit depressed and also on my cycle, I told him he could delete my number and remove me on socials bc he’s eventually gonna hurt me too. He really posted that convo on his Snapchat story (w/o even blurring my name). The caption was like “your doubt is all the assurance you need.” Had to beg him to remove it. He says I’m always doubting him and I should move on if I’m gonna be thinking that. Ever since then, I noted he stopped calling. Doesn’t bring up meeting anymore (when I told him to let me know if he doesn’t want to meet anymore, he said that meeting requires money & he’s broke right now) that had me so confused bc he was so quick to spend money on a hotel room. He said he’s planning to take me out, but didn’t give me a date but rather “very soon”. Anyways. And he’s been posting girls on his story now lmao should I just move on? I stopped texting him since Friday. It seems as though he is in a childlike mindframe when it comes to communicating. Instead of recognizing the betrayal of your friend he took up for her actions. You are right to wonder if he would participate in the same betrayal. As far as moving forward with him .. I would say cut your losses. It seems like he’s making it clear that he wants a FWB and has no real interest on taking you on a date. He’s also posting pictures of other girls so you can get the “hint” ..eventhough a simple conversation would do. He isn’t showing maturity or simple respect for your feelings, I would just move on if I were you . 1
Author faithandfood Posted November 15, 2020 Author Posted November 15, 2020 2 hours ago, beauty0815 said: It seems as though he is in a childlike mindframe when it comes to communicating. Instead of recognizing the betrayal of your friend he took up for her actions. You are right to wonder if he would participate in the same betrayal. As far as moving forward with him .. I would say cut your losses. It seems like he’s making it clear that he wants a FWB and has no real interest on taking you on a date. He’s also posting pictures of other girls so you can get the “hint” ..eventhough a simple conversation would do. He isn’t showing maturity or simple respect for your feelings, I would just move on if I were you . Thanks sis. I am. 2
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