Saidar Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Hi everyone, I need serious help here. I got a friend(I'm 17 she's also 17), and I like her alot. I also know she likes me, but there's one problem. Her best friend is one hell of a b*tch, and she doesn't like me. I really don't know why, but she insults me badly when I go and talk to the girl that I like. She stands between us, but with her in the way our relationship is NEVER going to grow. How do I handle this b*tch??
AndrewJ Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 tough situation my man! Women in my experience will allways listen to there freinds. a good dosing of Ether for the annoying 3rd wheel perhaps?
alphamale Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 treat the bitch like krap...that's the only way she'll respect you. do unto her what she does unto you. this is no time to be a "nice guy"
Outcast Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Treat her best friend like crap and you'll lose the girl, whose loyalty will be with the friend. Just ignore any of her attempts to bug you. If you act like an idiot, the one you like will see you being an idiot and dump you.
basscatcher Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 How do I handle this b*tch?? Confront her. Take her aside, away from others so you don't embarrass her (gain a point with her here for respecting her) and ask her why she doesnt like you. If she won't talk to you in private then you question her where ever she is. (You gave her a choice not an order, another gained point). She may have heard a rumor that wasn't true. You both are after all 17. Still in teenager mode and can still be very vulnerable to impressions. I would confront her. I have done this myself in the past. Then I also had the opportunity to state my positon to the person's opinion of me. You have the problem so confront it. *She may have a crush on you herself and is jealous. She doesnt want to see you with her friend. I had a gf in high school that did this to me. Pissed me off.... She was purely jealous. I recently had a 28 yr old gf that did this also. (doesnt matter the age-its about maturity.) Good luck.
lindya Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Do you have any instincts about what's making her hostile towards you?
slubberdegullion Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 As usual, lindya is right. Try to determine the core of the issue first before going further. It could be that she's jealous of you, because now her friend - your potential g/f - is more interested in you than her. Then again, maybe she's just naturally crabby. But first things first. Find out what's causing the knot in her panties and go from there.
elijahBailey Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 I'd walk. You don't need all this bullcrap. Anyway you go about it, you're gonna lose her; there's no way around it. Take your dignity with you and walk away in style. btw, her friend's pretty ugly right?
Author Saidar Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 Lol yes she is ugly, thanks for die advice everyone
elijahBailey Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 Lol yes she is ugly, thanks for die advice everyone I knew it! She just wants every pretty girl to go down with her.
Kvin Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 In past experiences women who you are nice to you are nice in return. Perhaps try being very nice to her friend and she will change.
elijahBailey Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 In past experiences women who you are nice to you are nice in return. Perhaps try being very nice to her friend and she will change. you're kidding me right?
Outcast Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 EB, you, I think, have a lot to learn about humans. Meeting nastiness with more nastiness or anger with anger is stupid and pointless. Treat someone who's being rotten to you with kindness and you'll be astonished what kind of turnaround you can bring about. One of my jobs was customer service agent. A lot of people would come in royally pi$$ed off about whatever had happened to them. Rather than snarking back and escalating, I was nice nice to them. I made it my mission to send everyone out of that place happy and I did it. Go do some conflict management training someday. You'll learn that aggression begets you zero. People often give me free things and do me favours just because I make it a point to be pleasant to everyone. Try it sometime. You'll be amazed - it's like magic in how well it works.
elijahBailey Posted October 15, 2005 Posted October 15, 2005 EB, you, I think, have a lot to learn about humans. Meeting nastiness with more nastiness or anger with anger is stupid and pointless. Treat someone who's being rotten to you with kindness and you'll be astonished what kind of turnaround you can bring about. yeah right. the above never works with nasty women. The only way around these mean beings is head games if you want them or treat them like rot if you don't wanna get overrun by them. I can usually tell who will respond to kindness and who won't. In the OP's case. The mean byotch is trying to drive a nasty wedge between the OP and the her pretty friend because failing to do so will mean being dropped by the roadside by the two. And in my opinion, he's got a better chance of becoming a wuss or doormat if he tried the kindness method with the byotch. I'll save the kindness for someone else....
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