curqur Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Ok. My ex-gf just broke up with me on Monday after a year of being together. She said, "she doesn't have the feeling that she will marry me" and I'm not the type she had imagined she would end up with. By the way, she is 23 years old and I'm 28. I'm feeling rejected and couldn't figure out what's the problem. She admits that she is happy when we're together and has fun. She said she doesn't want to waste my time. This is only after one year of going out. She also told my friend that she thinks I'm about 97% perfect for her. This is crap! What more can you really ask for? Anyways, I feel like I really love this girl and I want her back. But I also want her to realize that I'm the one for her. Currently I'm feeling all the symptoms of a breakup. Not sleeping well, no eating right, feeling of lost, and frustration. So, I made a couple of mistakes already during the past couple of days. She called me that night for some computer support and I helped her. I said I missed her and she said she missed me too. Then she said she's not even sure she's really right. The next day, I really missed her and I drove to her house (45 mins away). I called her out and we went to dinner. I tried to pursuade her to get back together, but she was sleepy and didn't want to. She said she just wanted some space to be free and time to be alone (to think and balance herself). Anyways, I eventually agreed and said it would be the right thing to do. I told her I hope she'll be clear and we can try to be together again. So now I'm hoping she will come back to me. How likely is this and is it a false hope? Should I just try to block her out of my mind and just move on? I really loved this girl and want her back.
Beausene Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 The ball is in her court. She knows how you feel, so it's up to her. In the meantime, get on with your life. There are no guarantees, so why waste time by making yourself miserable? It'll all work out in the end, either way.
westernxer Posted October 13, 2005 Posted October 13, 2005 Definitely get on with your life. And until you hear the magic words, do not contact her or fix her computer anymore. Ninety-seven percent is still short of one-hundred... that missing three percent must be huge.
BrainRightHeartWrong Posted October 14, 2005 Posted October 14, 2005 aye agree with the follow-up posts curqur! i got hit with a similiar but disimiliar load of crappy excuses for a breakup just tonight out of the blue... the ball is now firmly in her court but even if she returns i might not return! don't let them play with your head! ps. i think i returned firmly out of court even if i did love her to bits
Author curqur Posted October 14, 2005 Author Posted October 14, 2005 Yet another day goes by. I feel lost and don't know what to do with my time/life. Reading these posts definitely helps. To add to my "life sucks" attitude, I got a driving citation today for making a left turn when there was a sign that said "No left turn". I'm just having a really bad week. Anyways, it is difficult for me to forget this girl because she has effected my life a lot this year. I finally move out from my parents' house to be closer to work. The traffic sucks here. I bought a lot of new stuff with her when I moved in. She didn't move in with me, but for a while, it was like she did. It was nice. I would definitely live with her. Uhhh... it feels so lonely here now. I don't want to think about it, but my ex-girlfriend was so cute. I wonder if I can find a better girl. I hope she is missing me too. I going to try to be strong an not contact her. Ahhh.... how long can I keep the NC rule up? On top of that, there are several holidays coming up and a company event that would have been great to go with her. This is really bad timing. (sigh) When can I contact her again to see if I can ask her back (or should I even do that?) I told myself I would wait a month but at the same time still trying to going on with my life. Is that enough time to let her be clear? Can someone please advise me?
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